What if children like to compare?

First of all, we should treat children's comparison psychology correctly. Moderate comparison is a normal psychological phenomenon in childhood and adolescence. Children have a strong desire for expression since childhood, and will attract others' attention through things that are glamorous or envied by people around them. This is the innocence of children. Parents should not spoil their children while protecting their childlike innocence, but also reflect on the adverse effects of the family environment on their children and try to avoid them.

1, don't be afraid to talk about money, and guide children to discover the bright spots outside the material.

There is such a joke: "My mother drives me home in a BMW at night. What car does your mother drive? " A 6-year-old child always shows off to his classmates like this. "My father used to drive a BMW and recently changed to a Bentley. He said it was more foreign. " Finally one day, another child replied to him.

Pursuing material things is not a bad thing, and parents need not be afraid to talk about money with their children. It is normal for children to yearn for something better. If the child puts forward a material comparison beyond the family situation, parents should not rudely refuse, which will make the child have more serious rebellious psychology. Parents should communicate with their children equally, ask him why he wants this kind of thing, analyze the situation at home, make a plan, and hope to achieve his goal with his participation.

If children are "too poor to love rich people" in interpersonal communication, then parents should teach their children to find a person's bright spot in many aspects other than money, such as morality and ability.

2, should be moderately appreciated, parents and teachers should not take praise as a "mantra."

It's hard for children to stand being "ignored". Therefore, it is difficult for teachers and parents to ask him first, and then praise him more in order.

The younger a child is, the more difficult it is to objectively evaluate himself, and he often seeks a sense of existence by being praised by others. When children get used to praise, vanity will swell to excess, and self-cognitive ability will be biased.

Therefore, as parents or teachers, praise children should be appreciated moderately, and praise should not be regarded as a "mantra". First, praise must be pragmatic and decent, not excessive. Second, give him less evaluation in front of children, because this will encourage children to be brave invisibly.

3. Shift the focus and don't talk about failure.

Children often don't accept who is worse than who, and escape from reality with excessive behavior. A parent said that her child always came first in the exam, but once, she came second, and the child quietly tore up the first-place paper.

Children will become more aggressive after being frustrated and wronged. Faced with a failed result, as parents and teachers, we must not "talk about the matter". If parents only pay attention to the results, the feedback from adults will make him more painful. At this time, it is necessary to help children divert their attention and find out what they have done well in the process of achieving results.

4. To respect children's desire for expression, parents can intervene and guide them appropriately. The child's desire for expression is to attract attention and get praise. In different environments, parents can guide their children to express themselves in a way that can meet immaterial conditions such as talent or academic performance. Let the children find the right expression and affirm themselves. 5. Parents should get rid of the "child slave" state. Providing the best material security for children is something that every parent can do. It is natural to wear big brands, drink big brands of milk powder and go to the best schools when you are born. But the love of parents has planted vanity and comparison in children's young hearts. Children's material requirements actually continue their parents' love and make it more concrete. The most expensive is not necessarily the most suitable. In the process of raising children, consumption needs to be done according to the family situation. Choose the right one, not the expensive one. Satisfying everything only encourages children's vanity.

6. Children have always been recipients and demanders of family life. In the early days when children's values have not yet been formed and they have little contact with society, the requirements are relatively low and parents are generally easy to meet. Many parents don't think much of these small money, and let their children develop the habit of demanding. Therefore, when educating children, we should selectively satisfy or delay satisfaction from the early stage, so that children can understand that not all requirements are right and desires need to be restrained.

7. Parents should guide their children to establish a correct world outlook and values. Parents should give their children clear goals. Parents need to seduce and guide their children to understand what to pursue at what age. What's worth pursuing? These correct value orientations cannot be forced or threatened, otherwise it is easy to make flattering efforts.

8. Let children know the source and expenditure of family economic income, and if possible, let children realize that it is not easy to make money. The education of world outlook and values should go out of the ivory tower and be closer to social reality. "Talk without practice", after putting the truth into practice, there will be unexpected gains.