What is the power of humor?

A sense of humor is a noble temperament and a manifestation of civilization. A society cannot live without humor. Someone vividly said: "A language without a sense of humor is a document, a person without a sense of humor is a statue, a family without a sense of humor is a hotel, and a society without a sense of humor is unimaginable."

Humor may occur at all levels and corners of social life. A well-educated person has a well-educated sense of humor; Middle-class people have middle-class humor; Even illiterate people can have their own unique humorous way. It can be said that humor is a social phenomenon, and everyone can do it regardless of gender, age, social status and education level. It is precisely because humor is so common and familiar in our social life that it is ignored by people. When people live in an environment lacking air, they can deeply understand the importance of air to the human body. Similarly, only when people live in a social environment lacking humor can they feel the charm and power of humor in life.

One day, Roentgen, the inventor of Roentgen ray, received a letter. The author asked Roentgen to send him some Roentgen rays and instructions on how to use them, because he still has a bullet in his chest and needs radiotherapy.

Roentgen read the letter and wrote back: "I'm sorry, I've just run out of X-rays at the moment, and it's very difficult to mail them." So, please send me your chest! " Send me your chest is a great place of humor and wisdom.

Like all forces in the world, the power of humor is not omnipotent. However, the power of humor does help your life. It helps you look at the surrounding environment and personal life with a new eye, help you face up to and properly estimate and deal with the problems that plague you, help you establish a warm and harmonious relationship with others, and help you make many impossible things possible. ...

1. Humor can succeed

There are many conditions for success in work and career, but it is an indisputable fact that humor can help you improve your relationship with others and promote success.

If you want to succeed in your career and work, you will often encounter many obstacles and have to pay the price. It is much more difficult for you to be a leader, communicate with people and deal with many personnel problems than to give full play to your talents. In addition to your dedication, you should constantly inspire everyone's morale, help them solve their work difficulties and gain their trust and support. Otherwise, you will accomplish nothing. The power of humor can help you accept challenges and succeed in practice at this time. It can tell you how to deal with setbacks and failures easily and how to communicate with others by making fun of yourself. It will help you rekindle the courage to pursue success and victory, don't aim too high, don't be disheartened, overcome all difficulties and save your disadvantages.

The famous football coach Clooney once used the power of humor in a game to make his Notre Dame team a winner. At the end of the first half, Lockney's team was two goals behind Wisconsin. He kept silent in the lounge until he was going to play. He shouted, "All right, ladies, let's go!" "A word made all the players laugh and conveyed a serious message. He used the power of humor to revive the morale of the players and help them forget the difficult situation. Even his humor helped the players overcome this dilemma. In the end, the Virgin Mary won the game 3-2.

Humor can solve difficult problems.

Most importantly, humor can help us to ease the tension at work and solve the problems in life.

On the outskirts of a big city, there is a large chemical plant. They produce a chemical product all the year round, and a lot of smoke comes out of the chimney, which makes several nearby enterprises suffer from the smoke. When they worked overtime again and again, the director of a factory next door said half jokingly, "You are so busy with production, how to deal with these cigarettes and dust?" The director of the chemical plant also said half jokingly, "We are going to raise the chimney 1/2. At the same time, I will order an extra-large plastic bag from the packaging factory and hang it above the chimney by helicopter. " The humorous words of the two factory directors made them understand each other and burst out laughing together, and their nervous mood gradually relaxed.

When we joke with others and laugh with others, humor exchanges with each other. We should give them a relaxed, cheerful, sincere and frank attitude of sharing weal and woe. As long as we pay a little attention, we will find that there are many humorous stories in our works that are not easy to be detected. At work, sometimes we need to stick to our point of view. Excessive patience is not good for our work. Therefore, in addition to calming things down, it is more beneficial to complain in some cases, especially when you have a lot of words on your mind. Of course, don't forget to use humor.

3. Humor can relieve pain.

Face yourself with a relaxed attitude and face life with a serious attitude. If we do the opposite, we will be in trouble. Immature personality often depends on seeing oneself as the core of interpersonal communication, while maturity is accompanied by seeing oneself as having a suitable relationship with the group.

In the 1950s, there was a cross talk about a person suffering from appendicitis. The doctor operated on him and removed his appendix. After the patient recovered, his lower abdomen still ached from time to time. After examination, it turned out that the doctor had left the surgical scissors inside, so he had another operation. Afterwards, the patient still felt flatulence in the abdomen. After examination, the original gauze was left in the abdomen, so the operation was performed again. So, the patient said to the doctor, "You might as well pull a zipper on my stomach!" "

The key to turning pain into humor is to enter an imaginary realm without physical pain. With this, all irrelevant things will suddenly become consistent because of a little connection.

Of course, the scope of humor therapy is not limited to physical pain, but sometimes it can also be psychological pain. If you can hold back the psychological pain, pull different things together, or even merge into one, and become humorous, it is not difficult.

There are two main reasons why people can't be fully humorous in a painful environment.

First, humor requires people to forget the seriousness of the present reality, which is contrary to the basic characteristics of people, even if it is assumed to forget, it is very difficult.

Secondly, humor requires people to quietly mix different things together, even verbally, which is very difficult.

The basic rule for people to learn to speak and think is to distinguish different concepts from language, while humor seems to confuse people's usual language and thinking.

If you can't abide by the norms of humorous speech and thinking, then you can only shut yourself out of humor.

Humor can prolong life.

Everyone's life is not smooth sailing, so it is common to encounter pain and frustration. As we all know, some common social problems, such as rising prices, traffic congestion, gas shortage and so on, will make people feel anxious and uneasy. In addition, some of our own problems, such as young people feel that youth is perishable; Middle-aged people have a heavy burden of work and family, and their health status is a problem; Old people are neglected, there is a generation gap with young people, and they feel lonely inside. If we can make good use of the power of humor, we can understand that what you worry about is not necessarily the biggest thing in life.

There is a proverb in our country, "Smile is ten years old". It can be seen that laughter is beneficial and harmless to human beings. Humor, as a medium of laughter, can make people laugh.

If there is a satirical sketch called "The Trick of Crowding Cars", which is humorous but not shallow, let's enjoy the highlights:

Despite the increase of vehicles, the construction of subways and the expansion of ring roads, there is no way to keep up with the pace of life! ? So getting on and off becomes a "learning".

Let's get in the car first. When the bus comes, the best policy is to "grab the seat"-just like "grab the seat" on the court. Accurately calculate the position, the car door stops around, you can receive the benefit of "press Tianjin first", of course, you must resist it! Trick: lean your upper body in the direction of the car, hold the lower plate steady, and don't be washed away by people who come with the car (so there are helpers behind you). The middle policy is "sticking the edge". The layman is facing the car door, swinging from side to side, wasting energy. In particular, Beijing is different from other places. Getting on the bus in Harbin is "the almighty is king". Shanghainese care about their own face, but they are always yelling, which makes you unwilling to fight. Beijingers should pay attention to style and get on the bus quickly, so the front of the car door is not a good place. Have you ever noticed that when the conductor washes the car, he never has to clean the side of the door-it's all cleaned by smart crowded people! Stick to the edge, pretend to be calm, and arch out the "rootless" one by one. As long as you grab the door, you win. What's the worst plan? It can be called "hanging". Ordinary people, seeing the horror of grinning inside and outside the car door, have long since shied away. As for the driver, as long as the door is not closed, he dare not get off rashly. At this time, you can put your toes into the door (never put your head in first) and then lean against the door to "hug". ...

Seeing this, everyone who squeezed through the car would burst into laughter. The author observes carefully and has a clear understanding of local customs, which makes people feel as if they are there. His words and sentences are both decent and humorous, which makes people understand the difficulty of crowded cars in Beijing, treat them with a relaxed mood and eliminate worries. It's really ingenious.

Most people find it hard to get rid of problems such as getting old. Let's take a look at how to treat this question humorously:

Robert, a famous speaker, said, "I try to die at the youngest age." Whether in private or in public, he doesn't take his age seriously and is famous for his young and interesting heart. So on his 70th birthday, he also signed a five-year speech contract.

Humor is like this. It broadens people's minds and prolongs life.

5. Humor can be resigned.

French philosopher Voltaire had a loyal little servant, but he was a little lazy. One day, Voltaire said to him, "Rousseff, go and get my shoes." The servant sent the shoes quickly and politely. Voltaire was shocked: when I went out yesterday, my shoes were still covered with mud and dust! He asked, "Why did you forget to wipe it this morning?" "No need, sir." Rousseff calmly replied, "The road is full of mud and dirt. Won't your shoes be as dirty as they are now in two hours? " Voltaire walked out the door with a smile. The servant chased after him and caught up: "Sir, walk slowly! Where are the keys? " "keys?" "Yes, the key is on the cupboard. I still have lunch. " "My friend, what are you going to eat for lunch? In two hours, you will be as hungry as you are now! "

A servant's poor service to his master will certainly cause his master's unhappiness, and his master will often reprimand his servant. But Voltaire treated it with a smile and humor, making unpleasant things easier and educating servants through laughter. Voltaire was really a master of humor.

In daily life, keeping things simple is really a good way to use the power of humor. In the face of things that may bring trouble in life, with humor and laughter, we can put this trouble in an appropriate position without being overly worried and unhappy. Treating troubles with a relaxed attitude and enjoying happiness will make troubles less important than the whole life.

John rockefeller is a world-famous rich man, but he is frugal in his daily expenses. One day, he went to a hotel in new york and asked for the cheapest room. The manager of the hotel said, "Why did you choose such a cheap small room?" Your son always chooses the most expensive room when he comes to live. "Yes," Rockefeller said, "my son's father is a millionaire, but my father is not. "

This is how Rockefeller treats unpleasant things in life humorously. In life, if people can always treat all kinds of things with humor, such as telling a few funny jokes on cold, hot and humid days, it will definitely cheer everyone up.

American Smith traveled to Africa. He asked a tanned local resident, "Does it never rain here?" The African resident thought for a moment and then asked, "Do you remember the story of Noah and the Ark? It rained for forty days and nights? " Of course I remember. "American tourists answered." At that time, "said the African resident," we had only one inch of rainfall here. "

Life is colorful. As long as our imagination and creativity are not bound by certain frames, we can inject stimulants into our lives by the power of humor.

Humor can mediate disputes

Most successful people in history have an extraordinary sense of humor. This talent for humor can often achieve strange results in some tense situations. For example, in the early meeting of the Massachusetts legislature, one member made a long speech, and another member felt that his speech made the audience feel headache, so he whispered to him to shorten his speech so as not to upset the audience. Who knows that the congressman who is speaking misunderstood his kindness and thought it was rude criticism, so he replied sternly, "Please get out" and continued his lengthy speech. The councilor who went to persuade was furious, but because he could not get angry on the spot, he had to give in to the speaker and ask him to punish the unreasonable councilor. The speaker at that time was later American President Coolidge. Koch speaks humorously on weekdays and is often used to help others out. Now seeing that the congressman was humiliated and embarrassed, he replied, "Yes, I heard what he said, too, but then I immediately opened my law book and glanced at it and found that there was no such thing, so you don't have to listen to him. Get out!"

Koch's humor made the senator laugh. So an upcoming fight ended in Koch's relaxed humor. He not only saved face for the members, but also did his duty to mediate disputes. The important trick to mediate the dispute scene is to use humor to make the atmosphere relaxed and happy, and turn the other party's angry face into a smiling face. Turn each other's scolding into laughter.

Xin, a famous pingju actor, once hosted a banquet to respect the elderly. The banquet invited Qi Baishi, Lao She, Mei Lanfang, Ou Yangyuqian and other famous literary and art predecessors. Qi Baishi, 92, is accompanied by his nurse. After the old man Baishi sat down, he took New Xia Feng's hand and stared at her. After a while, the nurse was worried that it would embarrass the younger generation, so she said to the old man Bai Shi in a reproachful tone, "What do you always watch others do?" Old Baishi was very unhappy and said, "I am so old, why can't I see her?" She looks good. "The old man said, I was red in the face with anger. The nurse's words annoyed the old man Baishi, and everyone was very nervous. At this time, the new Xia Feng skillfully followed the topic of the old man Baishi and said, "You always watch. I am an actor and I am not afraid of people watching. "New Xia Feng's words made Baishi feel much better, and the tense atmosphere suddenly became active just now. At everyone's suggestion, New Xia Feng worshiped Baishi as Platini on the spot. The old man Baishi smiled happily.

7. Humor can satirize ugliness

Humor has a special function-satirizing ugly phenomena.

Throughout the ages, feudal superstitions have fooled many people. Some couplets are also satirized and admonished in humorous language, which makes people laugh after reading them! How many copies for the next interview:

There is such a couplet in the temple of the god of wealth: "You only have a few pence, you ask, and he asks, who should you give it to?" Do nothing and worship sooner or later. How embarrassing! "The couplet taunts those lazy people who wait for money with the tone of God of Wealth.

There is also a temple of wealth under Wansongling in Hangzhou. The temple is dilapidated, and the soil of the god of wealth is peeling off, but the pilgrims are still in an endless stream. So someone wrote a funny couplet on both sides of the temple of the god of wealth: "if I had a spirit, I wouldn't be piled up with dust and bones everywhere;" If you don't think about it, you must know that you are as diligent as you are, and you are just as lazy. "

Even today, with the in-depth development of China's reform and opening up, some ugly phenomena have emerged due to the drawbacks left over from the old society. Therefore, we should use humorous skills to expose and lash these ugly phenomena.

Mr Ru Shihe called some business cards "blatant deception":

Silent records, special shells-anyone who wants to be famous can do anything: hang as high a title as he wants; Be as big an official as you want; If you want to earn more fat money, you will earn more fat money; Show as much red face as you want. Business card-light cheats, a small piece of paper, unlimited power.

Mr. Yang's devaluation rumor satirizes the strange phenomenon in the cauldron:

Those over 40 years old are counted as "youth", those who received short-term training in March are counted as "professors", and those who have worked long hours are counted as "examination papers". Leaders' refusal to accept bribes is regarded as "news" and quitting family career is regarded as "model". Inferior quality is "famous", and not scolding customers is "smiling face". He sang songs as a singer, sponsored a pen as a director, wrote lyrics as a poet and hung a false name as an editor-in-chief. Two short essays are considered as "writers", while others dub them as "actors", wear hats as "famous artists" and publish a mediocre book as "classics".

..... Hugh devalues everywhere, and it's rare to turn a blind eye. Hello, I love him, and the most fragrant is the pot?

Why do people use humor to satirize and lash various unreasonable social phenomena? Mainly because people hate it so much that it is difficult to understand the hatred in their hearts to directly attack or curse it. Therefore, "sorrow is greater than death in the heart", and they vent it through laughing and cursing, satirizing limerick and other forms.

8. Humor can entertain and educate.

Numerous practical results have proved that humorous critical education is easily accepted by people in laughter, and the effect is more obvious. When it comes to education, people are used to associating it with a serious, unsmiling face, a set of irrelevant abstract theories and a group of sleepy listeners. In fact, people's understanding and impression are completely caused by improper educational methods. Education is of course a serious matter, but this does not rule out that the educated should be made to laugh happily. Teaching through laughter is an effective educational method.

There is a humor that "lazy teachers worship lazy people" to educate those loafers. An idle prodigal son only hates that he is too lazy to go home and wants to find a lazy shop for further study. So he asked around where there was a lazy shop. One day, he found a lazy shop, so he went there happily. When he arrived at the door of the lazy shop, he made a face and retreated into the door. The master of the lazy shop roared, "hey, why don't you know the rules?" Why don't you face me! " The prodigal son still turned his back on his master and replied, "Respect your master, and let fools do the same: turn your back on your master when you come, and don't turn around when you say goodbye." Hearing this, the master was dumbfounded. After a while, I woke up like a dream. Although the prodigal son was not at home, he said, "I can respect you as a teacher."

Another example is "rebuilding Epang Palace", which is used to criticize the level of educational administrators and the low level of education. The inspector visited a middle school and casually asked, "Do you know who burned Epang Palace?" The students were full of fear and repeatedly said, "I didn't burn, I didn't burn!" " The inspector sarcastically accused the headmaster: "The students in your school have a low level of historical knowledge, and they actually said that he didn't burn Epang Palace. In a rage, the inspector wrote a letter to the director of education, explaining the reason. Soon, I received a reply from the director, saying, "Let's burn it and then allocate funds to rebuild Epang Palace. "

Criticism is a weapon to fight against all kinds of unhealthy phenomena in education. If criticism wants to achieve results, it must be friendly to people, and it must pay attention to methods and language arts. Sometimes a clever and humorous word can really surpass many boring sermons.

Then, there are two main reasons why humorous words can play an educational role.

First of all, because everyone has self-esteem, practice has proved that it is by no means a good idea to criticize someone directly in public, which may cause the other party to strongly refute and find some reasons to defend themselves; Or you will fight with silence, be dissatisfied with your oral administration, and hold a grudge from now on. In this way, the purpose of criticism has naturally not been achieved. So psychologists all said in unison, "Don't swear in public." This is very reasonable. However, with humorous criticism, the other party's face is saved and the other party will not feel antagonistic. In addition, because the way of innuendo is adopted instead of direct speech, the criticized person has room for thinking and maneuver, so as to better understand the good intentions of the critics.