Why should marriage pay attention to the right marriage (wrong consequences)

Many people are unhappy in marriage because they meet the wrong person, and I think there is another kind of marriage that is more cruel than meeting the wrong person, that is, it is difficult to have happiness in this kind of marriage with different views. One of my friends is like this:

My friend has been married for three years, but the decision to divorce was made within three days. She told me that the wrong marriage was really tiring.

"He and I are college classmates and our first love. At that time, we were young and only had love in our hearts. Even though my parents strongly opposed it at that time, I married him under the pressure of everyone. "

"But after the real marriage, the problems between us slowly emerged."

"First of all, my parents are very angry about how much they spend, because they have lost contact with me because of marriage problems."

At that time, we really didn't have much savings, but I spent money on clothes and cosmetics, and I earned them myself. As a result, I became what he called a material failure. "

"He won't lose his family. His white shirt is yellow and he can't bear to throw it away. Not that we can't afford it. As for saving that little money to make people laugh? "

"Lifestyle, I like to grow flowers, don't need him to help me. It's just that I sometimes work overtime. When I have no time, I will ask him to help me water them, but he always complains that it is better to raise flowers than to raise food. "

The gap between the first and third views is too big.

At first, I thought that being from different families only brought about different living environments. But after I got married, I found out how important it is for my parents to be right. We have very different views on money, values, world outlook and even love.

The other party thinks that raising flowers is a waste of time. I buy clothes and cosmetics for vanity and money worship. I despise my job and don't want to contact my friends.

When I was in love, I thought he was avoiding suspicion. After all, most of my friends are women. I didn't know until I got married that he didn't avoid suspicion, but resented that we were just a group of vain women.

Even when we quarrel, he will attack me again and again with my family background, saying that a poor boy like us is not worthy of a big lady like you.

Your parents looked down on me, and now you look down on me. If you are so disgusted, don't marry me in the first place.

Second, two different people hate each other.

To tell the truth, I really despise some of his behaviors, so I got married for three years and we quarreled for three years. We found that we couldn't change each other at all. I don't regret this marriage. After all, I chose the person myself. Fortunately, I still have the ability to stop losses in time.

Over the years, it is estimated that there are many cases of love and marriage, and I have increasingly found that there is an eternal truth in marriage, that is, two kinds of people cannot sleep in the same bed.

It is difficult for you to marry someone much higher than your level, and it is impossible to marry a wife much higher than you. Not only economically, but also spiritually.

Very often, what we call "marrying down" and "climbing up" actually consider economic conditions and ignore the spiritual level.

Maybe ta's family background is very good, then ta is definitely lacking in other aspects.

For example, knowledge and temperament, if really inappropriate, will not be together at the beginning, or together for a few years, immediately separated, just like my friends.

Third, appropriateness is the long-term foundation for the future.

In fact, most people really don't meet inappropriate people in their marriages now. Even if you married love rat and a bitch, it was decided by your knowledge at that time.

Being able to choose to get happiness after divorce or remarriage is also because my knowledge has improved and I have met people at the same level.

Those who cry for divorce, but don't divorce for a long time, no matter how deep their resentment towards each other and how incompatible they are externally, are essentially the same kind of people, while those who are really wrong are hard to grow old together, so we should know how important it is to get married.