My father asked me to change my daughter’s diapers, but grandma said it was inappropriate. What do you think?

The father of the child was asked to change the diaper of his one-year-old daughter. The grandma said it was inappropriate. I don’t know what aspect the grandma meant by inappropriate. What I want to say is that no matter what , it is not only appropriate for a father to change his one-year-old daughter's diaper, but it is also necessary.

1. Afraid that the father will not be able to change in a hurry

If it is for this reason, it is more important to let the new father change and give the new father more opportunities to communicate with him. Encouragement, many good dads are not born to be good dads, they all learn how to be a good dad through the actual parenting process.

2. Because of gender

If it is for this reason, it is recommended that grandma use empathy to think differently between men and women to avoid embarrassment, but it is too early for her daughter to be only one year old. ; Furthermore, the opposite-sex love between a father for his daughter and a mother for her son will not be mixed with any impurity or lust; also, if grandma thinks this way, then is it not suitable for the mother to change the diaper of her one-year-old son? wet?

3. Feudal Thoughts

Many old people are still deeply imprisoned by the residual feudal thoughts. They believe that men should stand upright and do big things, and should not revolve around their wives and children. It is natural for women to do housework for children, but the problem is that men do not stand upright outside the home. When a woman gives birth to a child, she not only does housework and takes care of the child, but also goes to work to make money.

4. Feeling sorry for one’s own son

There are also mothers-in-law like this in life, who are deeply afraid that their sons will endure hardship and hardship, and wish that all the hard work would be done by their daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law who thinks this way may be disappointed by asking her daughter-in-law to take care of her son as well as she takes care of her son. What her daughter-in-law wants is a responsible husband, not a son who needs to be taken care of.

Therefore, it is recommended that new fathers should not only change diapers but also participate more in child care. Not only can they cultivate a close relationship with their children, but they can also share some of their wife’s housework burdens and relieve some of their wives’ worries. Parenting pressure, don’t be an “invisible dad”.

After I gave birth to my baby, my best friend came to visit me and the kids one day, and the baby pooped stinky. I was still a new mother at the time, so I thought about getting a diaper pad instead of changing it. It was everywhere. When I came back, my best friend had neatly cleaned up the baby and put it into diapers. While I was grateful, I also asked her, "Don't you mind the smell?" She said it wasn't like she had never given birth to a baby before.

You said that you, an outsider, can do this to a little baby, so what’s wrong with your own father changing a diaper? I don’t think there is any problem at all. In my opinion There are also the following benefits: Enhance the close relationship with your daughter

Think about it, the time you can be so close to your children is actually very short. They will grow up quickly and will have their own friends and circles. , life, slowly they no longer need you to do a lot of things, why not do more when you can give. And many studies have proven that children who are closer to their fathers when they are young will feel more secure when they grow up. Improve family happiness index

Just from this small act of changing a diaper, we can see how much a father contributes to the family. If he thinks that men are only responsible for making money and supporting the family, If you don't participate in housework at all, the happiness index of such a family will not be too high. Husbands and wives are more loving

Husbands and wives often can no longer just talk about love, especially after giving birth to a child. If the man can take the initiative to help share some of the children's daily trivial matters, the wife will also feel cared about and respected. Love. When husband and wife understand and help each other, they will become more loving.

Why does grandma think it is inappropriate for her son to change her granddaughter’s diaper? I think the reasons are nothing more than the following three points: Feudal thinking

I feel that men can’t do these jobs and will be laughed at, so men should go out to make money to support the family, and women should do everything at home. Dry.

There are differences between men and women

But in fact, children only wear diapers for two or three years. After the age of 3, they rarely wear diapers. Before the age of 3, it is usually not a big problem for the father to help change the diapers. But as the children get older, they need to gradually educate their children about gender. Selfish

I don’t want my son to do these jobs, and I want my wife to take good care of my son and granddaughter.

Actually, I want to advise this grandma not to interfere in the young couple's affairs. The father's love for the child must be selfless. Help the mother. It is also appropriate to share some of the chores of raising children. Only by loving each other and cooperating can the family become better and better. The trivial matter of changing diapers is not worth mentioning. Whoever catches up will change it, and there is no such thing as whether it is suitable or not.

I am happy to answer your questions! If I were this grandma, when I wasn't around, my son could do whatever he wanted. If I were around, I wouldn't talk so much, because talking too much would be detrimental. Maybe I would ask my son to get out of the way. When it comes to changing my granddaughter's diapers, it's not that I'm an old-fashioned thinker, but that my son knows best. It's okay to ask him to install a system on the computer, or to carry bags of rice and move bricks, but it seems unfavorable to do this job. , I am clumsy, and I would be reluctant to let go if my granddaughter hurts me, or if I can’t change the diaper properly, it will be all over the baby, and if I don’t do it, he will be covered with his own feces and urine.

I advocate equality between men and women. When it comes to changing diapers, I think it is very meaningful for dad to participate in this matter. Men can also do a good job. I have a neighbor who is a good example. He is better at changing his daughter's diapers than his wife and mother, and he does it well and neatly. For men, in addition to having children, just like women, they must continue to learn and make progress. You never have to attend a meeting to do anything. As long as you are willing to learn, you can do it well. If you don’t believe it, let’s take cooking as an example. Most men usually don’t cook, but once a man starts cooking, it usually tastes better than women, and the dishes are also washed very cleanly.

Children who use diapers, regardless of whether they are boys or girls, are all under 2 years old. In the eyes of adults, they are all babies, with pure love in their eyes and no gender differences. In daily life, especially after having children, men try to help their wives as much as they can. Taking care of children is quite tiring. Sometimes the wife is too busy alone, so she can help her as much as possible. Husbands and wives will love each other more when they help each other, and they can also develop a good relationship with their children. Sometimes, the elderly should help those who can, and don't talk too much if they can't. Daughters-in-law are also human beings, and life is not easy for everyone!

When I saw this question, I thought it was a bit funny. My second daughter is just over one year old, so I can share my personal feelings.

First of all, my eldest daughter is also a daughter. She is seven years old this year. My husband and I raised our eldest and second children together. Sometimes I feel that my husband is more careful and patient than me in raising children. My husband has been cutting the nails of my two children since they were born. I remember the first time I cut my children’s nails, I accidentally cut my children’s hands, which made my children cry. From that time on, I never touched my children’s nails again. .

Let’s talk about changing diapers. My husband is also very good at changing diapers. I don’t know what the questioner means when he says that it is not appropriate to change diapers for children? Children will always be in the eyes of their fathers. When a child is too busy to take care of the child, it is normal for the husband to wipe and wash the child's butt. Don't say that dad is not suitable to do this. The question is whether any dad is willing to do it.

Asking dad to change his daughter’s diapers, grandma says it’s not appropriate?

I suddenly remembered a question I answered before. A post asked that I didn’t even ride in my car when I gave birth to a baby, but after it was borrowed by someone else, it was used by a friend who had a newborn baby. I was very depressed.

Why did I suddenly think of this? It is said that it is also a local custom.

Human beings have evolved for thousands of years, and this custom should be changed.

The reason why I think of this is because I thought: 1. Maybe grandma has feudal ideas

In many places, the phenomenon of favoring boys over girls is serious. Although grandma is also a woman, she upholds the tradition of men. It’s Tian’s idea, not to mention his own son, who doesn’t want his son to engage in “women’s” work, thinking that it should be done by women; 2. Maybe grandma thinks it’s because of gender differences

Or grandma might think I have some scruples and feel that the father and daughter are of the opposite sex and should not change diapers. Then all children are taken care of by the mother. Wouldn’t the mother take care of the son? Should dad take care of it?

There is a relationship between relatives in the world. From childhood to adulthood, fathers take care of their daughters and mothers take care of their sons. There is no objection. 3. Grandma feels that her son is the one she pampered and should not do such things

Many mothers take good care of their children. When they grow up and find that their sons need to take care of their wives, they still feel a little uncomfortable. When my son is hungry or thirsty, he always puts food and water in his hands. Now when his wife wants to eat or drink, it is her son who takes care of her. She looks depressed. I can’t say it myself. I can only say that my father is careless. , it’s better not to let dad take care of you.

A family is a family of two people. If there are no elderly people to take care of them, they will support each other. If the wife is sick or has some emergency, the father will not know how to do anything, not even change the child's diaper. What to do then?

Even if the changing is not good, try to let your husband participate in taking care of the children. Even if you don’t change the diapers, you can still do other things. Don’t do nothing. , for a long time, the wife has complaints, which is not conducive to family harmony.

Moreover, asking dad to do something will also make him realize how difficult it is for mom. When the child is sick, he will not say: You do nothing every day, and you can't even take care of the child. This is definitely a very lethal statement. Men should remember not to step into a minefield.

Dad changed diapers for his one-year-old daughter, but grandma said it was inappropriate. It was puzzling why it was inappropriate. If dad was a novice at changing diapers, grandma said It's okay to be afraid that his son's careless hands will hurt the child, but it's also wrong. Just because dad is a novice at changing diapers, he should practice more. Otherwise, what will happen when grandma and wife are away?

The grandma said it was inappropriate because her son was helping her change her diaper and peeked into her daughter’s privacy? In this way, this grandma's thinking is too old-fashioned, and she has distorted the image of all fathers. Not all fathers have such evil thoughts. If they do, then they are not worthy of being a father, they are simply worse than animals. So according to grandma’s wishes, is it appropriate for mother to change her son’s diaper? Need a male nanny? One day, the old woman was lying in bed. Without a woman to serve her, the son could only watch his mother die in pain?

A daughter is one of the people closest to her father. It is a family relationship that is dissolved in blood. We should put aside worldly prejudices and do things without hesitation or evil thoughts. I think this old lady Old ideas need to be changed.

This is an interesting question, Jingma will answer it. When the daughter is about one year old, it is the time for her father to show off her talents. Bathing, putting her to sleep, feeding her, and changing diapers are all her job.

Grandma's inappropriateness may have the following five meanings: The first meaning: The father is a man and the daughter is a woman. From an early age, we must form a different view of men and women.

Comments:

When a child is one year old and has not yet reached the age of gender budding, so he has no feelings about gender. Dad can still take care of his child as a novice, bathing, washing hair, and changing diapers. wet. The second meaning: Dad’s hands are too rough

I am afraid that Dad’s hands are too rough and may scratch the child’s skin. A child's skin, especially the skin on the buttocks, is very delicate, but the father's hands are generally indifferent.

Comments:

He will feel pain for his daughter, and he will be gentle. The third meaning: Dad’s hands are the golden hands for making money, so he shouldn’t grab shit and pee.

Among old people, there are still men who only need to make money, while women also make money and do work.

Comments: If you have a lot of money, it is also a good choice to catch your own baby’s golden poop. The fourth meaning: Changing the child's diaper is my business, please don't interfere

Grandma is getting older, and she also hopes to have something to do, and taking care of the child is a sustenance for the elderly. If dad grabs all the work, grandma will feel that she has nothing to do and is worthless.

Comments: If this is the case, grandma can still take care of these tasks, and dad can do it occasionally. The fifth meaning: Satirizing the father who never changed his child's diaper

If the father himself has never taken care of the child before and suddenly needs to change the child's diaper, will grandma think that the father has changed his gender?

Comments: Heterosexual fathers can only have daughters before they are three years old. After three years old, it is not recommended that fathers bathe or change diapers for their babies, so just do it and cherish it.

Tell me about a story you have seen between a father and his daughter.

If what grandma said is inappropriate, she refers to gender differences, I would like to ask this grandma: Is it inappropriate for a mother to breastfeed her son? Isn't it appropriate for a mother to change her son's diaper and bathe him?

When a man becomes a father, he must assume the responsibility of being a father. There is nothing wrong with the difference between men and women, but for a baby girl who is still wearing diapers, shouldn’t the father love her well and take care of her? ? This is just family love. There are so many messy and poisonous thoughts. If it is not suitable, it is because grandma's thoughts are not suitable.

I think of the scene when I gave birth to a baby. I gave birth to two babies, both by cesarean section. I came out of the operating room unable to move and needed someone to lift me from the operating bed to the hospital bed. At that time, my mother I went to take care of the baby. There were only my husband and my father in the ward. I had an infusion bottle hanging on my body and a catheter inserted. My husband could not move me to the hospital bed alone. It was my father and my husband who helped me get off the operating bed together. Carry it over.

At that time, my father only considered my safety and health. If there were no special circumstances, my father would also consider the differences between men and women. I only feel grateful to my father and will never have those messy thoughts. Family love is so precious that it cannot be blasphemed in the slightest!

1. When I see this question, I really want to express my opinion. First of all, I really want to complain about grandma, why is it inappropriate? You said, shouldn’t dad help me? Help change a diaper.

2. If it is because of the differences between men and women, then the mother who gives birth to a boy will not have to take care of the boy. She will not be able to breastfeed, change diapers, or take a bath. I secretly chuckled.

3. It’s true that you feel sorry for your children and can’t bear to let the children’s father work. I also don’t think about the fact that my daughter-in-law is also born and raised by her parents. The child is the same person. Why should I let my daughter-in-law do everything? She has a stubborn and rotten mind. Humph, our one-year-old daughter’s father still has to change diapers. bath.

4. If you are afraid of being messy, it’s okay. Practice more, practice makes perfect. Change diapers more often. His dad may be more skilled than you and dress more perfectly.

5. At just one year old, at such a young age, the child’s father should be involved in raising the child. Only then will he understand the mother. Being a mother is not easy, and he will have a better relationship with his wife and be more filial to his mother.

6. It is recommended that children start avoiding their father when they become aware of gender differences, because the parent-child sense of security has been established and it is time to teach the children other things.