Is discretion the most difficult thing to grasp in the emotional world?

0 1 Interpersonal communication has certain appropriate limits.

Strangers have a bad relationship and need basic etiquette, otherwise they will inevitably be notorious.

For example, if someone helps others to hold the elevator in the community, you need to say thank you; For example, if you are carrying a heavy thing in the street, it is not convenient to bend down to pick it up if the key is dropped. Someone will help you pick it up at this time, and you need to say thank you.

On the other hand, if you help others, others will swagger without your gratitude, and you will inevitably be unhappy.

Therefore, strangers need to be polite. You can be willful and arrogant, but your willfulness and pride need to be measured and you can't trample on the goodwill of others.

Appropriate restrictions are also needed between colleagues or friends.

You know, it's a kindness for others to help you, and it's self-discipline not to help you. What you are most afraid of is that some people take others' mutual affection for granted and forget their discretion.

Of course, between colleagues and friends, helping others also needs to be measured, otherwise it will inevitably make the other party "sell well after getting cheap."

The "golden mean" is not only reflected in life and work, but also in marriage.

People who know how to deal with this situation usually have a smoother married life.

I have been reading on the Internet that "in marriage, a woman who can act like a spoiled brat has the best life", but if she doesn't know how to be measured and only acts like a spoiled brat, then this relationship between husband and wife will probably be difficult to maintain.

In life, there are some women who know how to be coquettish and are good at being coquettish. For example, they spoil their husbands when they are lazy, so they don't cook, do housework or go to work. I don't want to solve the problem, and I also ask my spoiled husband for help.

Obviously, my husband is upset because of his work, but he still gets his company by coquetry.

In fact, such women are often selfish. They don't understand others. They just want to get others' care and love by coquetry.

If a spoiled woman has the best life, will such a spoiled woman really have a good life in marriage?

The importance of appropriate restrictions is reflected in all aspects of life, especially in marriage.

In life, we will always meet a kind of people who speak straight, seem to have no intention, don't like them, and scold them when they are angry, just for the sake of being quick, and don't pay attention to methods.

It is undeniable that many people often do the same in marriage.

For example, when there is a contradiction with your lover, you can openly target each other, poke the pain of each other, expose the shortcomings of each other, and ignore the feelings of your lover.

When there is a contradiction with your lover outside, criticize your partner regardless of the occasion.

Although such people are honest and feel harmless, it is also because the exam does not take into account the occasion and the discretion of speech, which is easy to cause humiliation and embarrassment of their partners, thus hurting their self-esteem.

What aspects of marriage and family are appropriate restrictions?

The most common thing is that couples keep prying into each other's privacy.

It is a well-known truth that husband and wife should trust each other, but in marriage, even if they trust each other, it is still difficult to escape the knot of "suspicion" because of care and love. So many married men and women are eager to pry into each other's privacy.

For example, check who the other person is chatting with on WeChat recently, for example, want to know if the other person has been in contact with the opposite sex recently, and so on.

In fact, it is understandable to want to know more about each other's whereabouts or life, but it is important to keep a good balance.

Some people don't know the limit. In order to know each other's whereabouts, they not only keep calling each other to see what they are doing, but also ask them to locate themselves, and even ask them to take pictures or answer video calls to avoid misplacement.

I heard a very helpless thing. One day, the woman found that her husband had a lot of WeChat actions, and she kept asking her husband what he did, because he didn't need so many steps to go to work.

The husband explained that he had gone to a client, but the woman didn't believe him. After all, since he took office in this company, he has not run any customers, nor any business, nor is he a salesman.

Despite her husband's repeated explanations, the woman refused to listen and even called her husband's colleagues. After repeated confirmation, she was willing to believe what her husband said. The doubts in a woman's heart have been solved, but her husband's face in the unit has also been lost.

And this woman's behavior is without proper restrictions.

Anne Baby wrote in her Rose Island: "The best love is that two people accompany each other, don't be bound, don't possess, and don't rush to dig meaning from each other."

Therefore, even the closest people need appropriate restrictions when they get along, rather than blindly possessing and binding.

Zhou Zeng said in "Watching Distance" that it is best to keep a proper distance between the two sexes, whether it is love, marriage or some kind of close friendship.

A truly long-lasting relationship needs to keep a certain distance and get along within an appropriate limit.

In the relationship between men and women, the so-called appropriate boundary does not appear to be agreed, nor can it be too much. If you agree with talking about feelings too much, the meaning of two people together will be gone. But once it goes too far, many feelings or things will go bad.

Appropriate restrictions mean respecting yourself and each other.

Some people may ask, what can we do to master the discretion? What I want to say is that no matter what you say or do, use your head more and think about whether you have considered each other's feelings and given them enough respect.

You know, the so-called appropriate limit is to pay attention to a "degree."

There is no denying that the appropriate limit is not easy to master, which needs to be understood and felt over time in life. If you feel the disappointment and chilling of the other person, or if you feel uncomfortable or embarrassed, you might as well think about whether the problem lies with yourself.