How to treat "people's hearts can't be exchanged, and many times your kindness has become the handle of others holding you"?

I think there are still many good people. We should treat others sincerely, take care of each other and be a kind person.

If you are loyal to me, you turn around. If the other person is not a good person, there is no need to associate. Why give him something?

Kindness and sincerity are a virtue. You must be kind and sincere in order to gain a foothold in society.

When dealing with strangers, you should be sincere from the beginning and leave a good impression, otherwise people will feel that you can't make friends and can't continue to associate.

Look at your heart, give your heart and see each other clearly. Kindness is not stupid, sincerity is not dull. If people can't exchange, be careful. There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people.

Communication between people is also a gradual process. The so-called sincerity and kindness is not the beginning of the heart. Instead, we need to gradually build trust and slowly exchange sincerity for sincerity.

If everyone doesn't keep his word and doesn't want to be kind, then society will be really chaotic.

When the epidemic was under control and they evacuated, people's gratitude was beyond words. Both of them left tears of emotion.

A group of strangers, because one party paid, was moved by the other.

Don't give up eating because of choking, don't be bitten by a snake once, but twice shy. Perhaps, in life, some people give their heart, but they are cheated and used in the end. Lovers cheat each other, and friends betray each other.

But we can't lose our kindness and sincerity. You can't make yourself worse because of other people's mistakes, but you should constantly improve your ability to recognize people and see through bad things before they happen to avoid being victimized.

For example, in a movie in Jet Li, Tai Zhang Chi has three peaks. His friends abandoned them to join the army in pursuit of wealth, used their friendship to betray him and killed many people.

From then on, Zhang Sanfeng was hit crazy.

Later, with the help of my friends and my own understanding, I put down my burden and ran to a new life. Not only did he not give up his sincerity and kindness, but he realized the significance of Tai Chi and finally defeated Zhang Junbao who betrayed him.

If Zhang Sanfeng has been betrayed by his friends and stopped being kind and just to his dead friends, then he will definitely have no more friends in his life.

How to avoid being bullied?

First, learn to refuse. Say "no" to unreasonable demands and obvious bullying, insulting and cheating. .

Kindness is not weakness Don't let others regard your goodness as his presumptuous capital.

Second, be good at observation. As the saying goes, the face is born from the heart, and kind people are often kind-hearted and easy to approach. So, make friends and observe first. After all, understanding a person begins with appearance.

Besides observing faces, we can learn from many aspects in the process of communication. For example, some details of his life, whether he is filial to the elderly, whether he loves small animals, and whether he often lies and cheats others.

After a long time, people will see people clearly. If a person observes for a long time, his advantages and disadvantages will be exposed. If you can't be intimate, then stay away while you can.

To sum up, it is only a few cases that people don't change their minds, and there are still many kind people in the world. Society needs each of us to contribute a kindness.

Be a kind and sincere person, make friends with your heart and do things with your heart.

At the same time, keep your eyes open and protect yourself.

Not all people can change their minds, not all sincerity can be rewarded sincerely, and not all goodwill can be rewarded with kindness. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, we should learn to recognize people, see their true colors clearly, and never let our sincerity feed the wolf and give it to the ungrateful people by mistake.

Some people measure not people's hearts, but interests and power. No matter how good you are to such a person, it is useless. If you have no use value, you are a blank sheet of paper.

In interpersonal communication, you often meet such people who bully the weak and fear the hard. When they see that you are soft and easy to bully, they trample on you indefinitely, never considering your dignity and position, your feelings and thoughts, and trampling on others for their own interests, positions and heights. No bottom line, no principles. To treat such people, you should use a sharp sword instead of just accepting and tolerating them. Tolerance has become a habit, and oppression of others has become a habit. You became the scapegoat of the other side, and you also became the scapegoat of the other side. All the bad things are yours, and all the good things are his (her). So don't be too soft and kind, and don't give your kindness to the wrong person to avoid being hurt.

Kindness is indispensable in this world.

I just need your kindness to bring some corners.

Good thoughts are the root of conscience,

Charity is the right way in the world of mortals.

People's hearts cannot be exchanged,

Often the deformed object is ugly and ridiculous.

Is the world decreasing?

God keeps the four seasons at peace,

How can I be completely clean?

Good for evil, good for evil,

Have a tolerant heart,

Only in this way can the spring sunshine shine.

Kind-hearted,

Adjust the corners when looking back;

Even snakes and scorpions have ways to deal with others.

It's not that we used the wrong treatment,

Send someone roses,

How many people say that the thorn is not good?

Therefore, persistence and kindness are still the magic weapons of this world.

The right path has gone through thousands of vicissitudes.

Still have to carry forward!

"Many times, kindness has become someone's handle on you", which is indeed a fact. Answering this question may become "chicken soup". Now everyone talks about chicken soup, but I want to say that chicken soup is nutritious and can protect mental health through "preventing colds" (indifference between people).

Now many self-media articles say: your kindness should be sharp, otherwise, excessive kindness will become stupid; Also said: Kindness is a choice, kind people, just because they choose kindness. This kind of article is usually 65438+ one million Canadian dollars.

In their view, kindness seems to be a quality that can be manipulated. When you need goodwill, take it out. When you feel sorry for yourself, put away your kindness again in order to avoid hurting yourself. In their view, kindness can "come and go freely" in a person.

Is that really the case?

In fact, those who are really soft-hearted and kind can't be done by him. Because, when encountering anything, it is nature that triggers a person first, and then all the words and deeds of this person will be based on this subconscious instinct, based on a "restriction" formed by "conditioned reflex" (the restriction here is a psychological term), and all this is beyond the control of the "self".

"The heart can't be exchanged for the heart. Many times, your kindness has become the handle of others holding you. " I believe many people have experienced it personally, and everyone has too many examples to prove this conclusion.

In fact, this conclusion is the reason why people tend to be "selfish and self-centered" in today's "big environment". Since our sincerity can't be exchanged for sincerity, since kindness has become a weak handle, why should we continue to be "kind"?

Therefore, in the social news section, we can see all kinds of news events caused by the "indifference" between people all the year round: Do you need help when the old man falls? Do you want to do the work that my colleague asked me to do for you? We can't get used to their bad habit of bullying the weak. Good people are easily bullied ... and so on.

What is the result of this public opinion environment and public opinion orientation?

A vast country with a population of 65.438+0.4 billion actually needs to discuss "whether the old man should be helped when he falls down" under the guidance of the official media ... Isn't this terrible? Is it funny? Aren't you sad? ……

It can be seen that moral literacy has reached a terrible situation in reality! However, the reality is already like this. The old man fell to the ground in the street and no one dared to help him. They are all afraid that "good people will be in trouble if they don't get the punishment they deserve" ...

What happened to this society? Didn't you say that "the beginning of life is good"? Why do people become so indifferent? ...

In my work and life, I have experienced many things by myself. I have been disappointed and suffered, and I still can't understand it. Your kindness and sincerity, often "good people have no good news, and even get into trouble." Then, should we also learn to make our kindness more "sharp"?

In my opinion, the existence of all these realities is actually related to the public opinion orientation of the media. The public lacks judgment, and the public will only follow the media's public opinion.

The media should establish a positive public opinion orientation, publicize more positive examples, let the foundation of "kindness" build an indestructible protective wall in the hearts of the public, and truly prevent "indifference" from spreading in society.

I still believe in the Chinese nation's fine tradition of "doing good" for thousands of years, and everyone has a gene of "doing good" in their hearts. If we generally believe that "good is rewarded with good", use our virtues to light up those darkness, make the whole environment have a kind of "good" power, and stop making "good" people feel cold ... then, at that time, we can definitely "exchange people's hearts" and "good is rewarded with good".

Kindness is not an option. It's natural.

If a person can choose whether he is kind or not in something artificially, then this person is definitely not really kind. A truly kind person, no matter what kind of situation he is in, kindness is still his nature, which is his gene and a "choice" without choice.

Even though he clearly knows that "people's hearts can't be exchanged, and kindness is often the handle of others", he will still face the reality with his sincerity and kindness, because he can't be "unkind" at all. On the contrary, those who are not kind, no matter how educated and guided, will still not be kind even a little.

Therefore, whether people want to be kind is actually a "false proposition". It's not whether you want it or not, but your essence determines your ideas and behavior patterns, and determines whether you are kind or not.

Kindness cannot be chosen at all. Even if you know that you have suffered from kindness, it won't change! No matter what happens, your instinctive reaction and what you do are still what others call "kindness". For you, this is natural. You don't think it is kind, because if you don't do it, you will suffer. It's just your instinct. ...

In fact, this passage does not need much explanation, and those who understand it will naturally understand it. People who don't understand will never understand (this requires both basic common sense and philosophical thinking). They will think that this is a moral kidnapping and worry that their selfishness will be "shamed" in front of such "kind" people. ...

But you just kidnapped yourself, because you deeply understand:

Kindness can only be self-disciplined.

A person's life is short and long. In the long run, is it in front of you?

"A petty person is anxious and worried. An upright person is open and poised. Extend time to the length of a lifetime: a kind person is safe all his life.

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Let nature take its course, let your heart calm, start from scratch, be the strongest yourself, and not be seen by others. If you are strong, you will have a bright future!

You must be a good man, but

Kindness should also have principles and bottom lines, otherwise it will be easily hurt.

If people's hearts can be exchanged for people's hearts, then so many people in this world will not be hurt, so when we give our sincerity, we should also see each other clearly and don't let our goodwill be used.

People on earth are good at living. In fact, good thoughts are a person's nature, so why are there wicked people in the world? Isn't it because good people slowly learn to protect themselves after repeated disappointments?

Some people tend to be soft-hearted, while others are more scheming. Soft-hearted people are easy to be used by scheming people. Therefore, when you are soft-hearted, the premise is to protect yourself. If you are caught because you are too kind, it proves that you have not seen each other clearly.

When a person's kindness loses its principles and bottom line, it is aiding the abuse.

"People's hearts can't be exchanged for people's hearts, and many times your kindness has become a handle for others to hold you", which makes sense.

In this world, not everyone understands your kindness, not everyone can be moved by your kindness, and not everyone will appreciate your kindness. Your kindness is a kind of handle for people with ulterior motives, or you are a joke for them, and they can cheat you and perfunctory you.

The well-known phrase "heart for heart, four and a half pounds" is not suitable for everyone. These days, not everyone will remember your sincerity and dedication, and not everyone will appreciate your feelings and appreciate you. There is nothing wrong with being kind, just meet the right person. For sinister and vicious people, you must stay away. Don't think that kindness can win people's hearts, and sometimes it will bring harm.

Complex society also has complex people's hearts. Learn to protect yourself. Don't let your kindness be deceived by others, and don't let your kindness be hurt by innocence. The vast sea of people, the most difficult thing to understand is the human heart.

Remember, it's hard to paint a person's skin but not his bones. Cherish the present and cherish yourself.

I am an outsider, thank you for your attention.

The ancients said: Doing good deeds is the future of Mo Wen.

In other words, it is useless for everyone to do good deeds, be honest with others and ask for nothing in return. Out of sincerity, sincerity and kindness. No matter how others treat themselves, good intentions will not be rewarded, but in the final analysis, good people will be praised by everyone and will be rewarded. As people often say: Zhan can't be deceived, he didn't act as a prophet of God (man), and good and evil will be rewarded in the end, just seeking to go out early and return late.

Hua said: I bloom to the fullest to pay for the beauty in my heart, and the ruthless trampling of people is the selfishness of nature. No matter whether my kindness can win the sincerity of others, I am still me, and he can be him at will.

Being kind but not sharp, on the other hand, is cowardice.

You said, "People's hearts are not interchangeable, and kindness has become the handle of others." This is good, because subconsciously, you have vaguely realized that you seem to be being held hostage.

You feel sick.

That's right, because your heart is reminding you, "This is not right, it shouldn't be like this."

Someone crossed the line and violated your rights. You don't want to do this anymore.

Then think about it, why your "kindness" will become a "handle" for others to hold you.

When you pay "goodwill", are you also gaining "good popularity" and maintaining your personal design?

If the answer is yes, then I suggest that your kindness can be more wise. There are many ways to handle the same thing.

If the answer is no, then I suggest that your "kindness" can be sharper. Be decisive when you refuse. If you do it, you can do it. If you don't, you can't. Don't be ambiguous, give each other a negotiable illusion.

Go back to your heart and see why you did those things. Is it to seek respect, recognition, or something else.

Anyway, you are a kind person, which is a good thing. You already have the most rare quality. Next, it's time for you to learn courage and wisdom.

May you have the courage to change the unacceptable and accept the unchangeable.

Then, bless you in this process, turn knowledge into wisdom, and you will be able to distinguish the two.

Come on!