My mother-in-law calculated her daughter-in-law's dowry of 300 thousand, but her husband actually said that her daughter-in-law had no culture. Should women get divorced?

Since ancient times, the topic of marriage has always emerged endlessly, because there are so many things involved in marriage. Nowadays, there is a kind of "precise poverty alleviation" marriage in society, that is, to marry the other party is to fully assume the life of his family, which can't help but make people feel embarrassed. After all, marriage is never to help the poor. Marriage is a process in which two people work hard together for a better future.

A writer abroad once said, "Don't be with people who are good at calculating." People who are good at calculation are often egoists. Similarly, this sentence applies to the husband's family. Should I escape when my husband's family makes various calculations about herself?

My name is Yang Jun. My husband and I were together for more than three years before we got married. We were already planning the wedding, but I didn't even do it because of my mother-in-law's instigation. I am so wronged.

In fact, my husband and I got the license first, and then prepared to hold the wedding, but my parents-in-law didn't even show up, and I always advised my son not to spoil me too much. We both got a certificate and lived in a small bungalow of mine, which was my parents' legacy.

I am a girl who is good at life. After working for so many years, I have also saved a lot of money for myself. This is the money I have been saving. I usually do some small business, about 300 thousand. I didn't hide the money, so I told my husband that it was my own dowry, but it also belonged to pre-marital property. At the same time, I also told him that I don't need a bride price, because this is a new society, and I think it is too old-fashioned to ask for a bride price.

But my parents-in-law never let us have a wedding. Mother-in-law said to us, "Son, you have got a marriage certificate. Live a good life and don't waste money." Besides, the wedding is for others to see. The most important thing for you now is to decorate the house and pay the mortgage. "

I bowed my head and said nothing. My mother-in-law said to me, "Daughter-in-law, I heard that you still have 300,000 as a dowry, so you can take out this 150,000 to decorate the house. Your bungalow is too long and too small. How can I live without decoration? " If you have150,000, you can buy a scooter, so that you have a house and a car. "

I still didn't speak. I can't refute my mother-in-law's words. I felt particularly wronged at that time. The wedding event in life just passed in such a hurry. My friends around me are taking a set of wedding photos as a bride, but I have nothing. Even the wedding room is provided by herself, and my mother-in-law dislikes it as an old house.

And my 300 thousand is my hard-earned money, which I saved by saving money. How can my mother-in-law say so confidently that she will share my money? What's more, I haven't asked for a bride price, and I haven't asked their family to buy a car or a house.

Because of this, I am very unhappy. I lost my temper with my husband that night, but I didn't expect him to say, "Actually, my mother is right. Don't you think this arrangement is reasonable? We are all family, what do we care? "

At that time, I began to have the idea of divorce, but it soon stopped. After all, I just got a license and divorced soon. Is this not a joke?

This matter passed, but not long after, another new calculation came again.

I also have a brother-in-law, my husband's younger brother, but my brother-in-law seems to be not very successful. Still staying at home and doing nothing after graduation can be said to be a serious old foodie. And my parents-in-law family conditions are very general. For so many years, I only have a house with two rooms and one living room. This house is a long time, and I haven't bought a house for any of my sons, because I really can't afford it.

My mother-in-law knows that my 300 thousand hasn't moved, and she wants my money again.

That day, she just found an opportunity to say to me, "Daughter-in-law, in fact, you haven't been married to our family for a long time, but you have been with my son for so many years, and my mother still likes you very much." You are sensible and can live, and you don't pay attention to ostentation and extravagance. " I think your 300 thousand is still there. It is better to buy a house and pay a down payment. As for the name of the house, you can fill in your father's and my name. We will pay back the mortgage as a filial piety to the two old people. My son will treat you better because of your filial piety. what do you think? "

After listening to my mother-in-law, I was completely speechless. It turned out that my money was randomly distributed as their money, and their names were written on the house I bought. This is my own hard-earned money. How can we prepare them? However, after this incident, I have thoroughly seen the true face of my mother-in-law. I told my husband about today that night, thinking that he could defend me and tell his mother.

My husband listened to my dissatisfaction and directly confronted me fiercely. We had a big fight. He pointed at my nose and said, "I didn't expect you to be such an uneducated person!" " "

After this incident, I completely figured it out. It is better to live a chic and free single life than to live an exploited marriage. I filed for divorce with my husband. Anyway, I have never had a wedding myself, but I have a legal marriage history. I don't mind.

At first, my husband didn't agree, so I told him, "Since we both got the certificate, your family has been trying to save me 300,000 yuan. I didn't ask your family for a penny as a bride price, so it seems that I am easy to bully, right? " What's more, I paid this 300,000 yuan as a bride price for your family. Many of your mothers want to use the money to decorate their houses just to buy cars. Now they want to pay the down payment on the house and write her name. What a good abacus! "

My husband didn't say anything, so I went on to say, "To tell the truth, such a family, such a mother-in-law, and your ignorant husband, I was really blind when I got married. Will there be a good life in the future?" Let's get together and have a rest. "

Shortly after the divorce, I heard that my ex-mother-in-law was very proud because I didn't have a wedding. She thinks I am a soft persimmon and can be pinched by others, so she wants me to buy a house for that former brother-in-law. But it took some time to know that her son and I had received a divorce certificate.

My former mother-in-law is very reluctant. She went to work for me directly, saying that I was ungrateful and didn't want to marry my son. She called me unappreciative. Later, she was taken away by security guards. Actually, I don't care. I know people like her will make trouble.

After reading the case of Yang Jun, I think her marriage is actually a poverty alleviation marriage. Mother-in-law had no money to buy a house for her son, so she put her mind on her daughter-in-law. This marriage has become qualitative and emotional, leaving only calculations and meaningless.

In fact, in any relationship, it is most important for both sides to treat each other sincerely. After all, marriage and family can't stand calculation. So being honest with each other is the best way for marriage and family.