Why don't parents in China get respect from their children?

Many years ago, there was a survey: among the ten people you respect most, Japanese children answered: the first is father, the second is mother, and the third is doctor; American children's answers are: first, father, second, basketball star, third, mother; Most children in China will not consider their parents in the top ten in their answers. Now 20 years have passed. When a friend of mine who was a head teacher in junior high school asked the students in the class the same question, the answer was surprisingly consistent with that of 20 years ago. Most students don't rank their parents in the top ten, and even in the anonymous survey of the class's attitude towards their parents, their dissatisfaction with their parents reached 60%. This result is sad and thought-provoking. Personally, I think the reason for this result is that 60% of parents are unqualified!

Perhaps it will offend many parents, who will collectively say: I feed my children, dress them, save money for myself, and be afraid of mistreating them. Is this also wrong? Hehe, supporting children is the obligation and responsibility entrusted by law, just as your parents have the responsibility to support you when you are old; It is even more wrong to be afraid of mistreating children and save money. Why do you abuse yourself? For example, parents obviously love fish, but for the sake of their children, they don't know that they love fish heads. Over time, children really think you like fish heads, so please don't be angry when children put fish heads in your bowl in the future, because white lies are lies after all.

China's parents' love for their children can be said to be the most selfless, the most willing to pay, and the least concerned about the return. Hehe, I want to ask parents here, can you give them the most selfless love when their children fail in the exam and do something wrong? I'm afraid quite a few parents can't answer, because when their children can't satisfy their wishes, they wait for their children to be mercilessly abused, punished, and even beaten with sticks. They even compare good children with their own children, saying, "Look at others, they are the first to win the battle for their parents." "Why are you so useless? Why can others bear the same problem?" What logic is this? This is typical of illiteracy. I don't understand the simple truth of "specializing in smell" Then some children's fathers are still Li Ka-shing. Why can't you be Li Ka-shing? Because of this, the love they pay for their children requires them to give back what they call competition, face and face. This kind of love can be said to be selfless, don't you care about the return? This is a joke.

In real life, a considerable number of parents play the image of "weak" and helpless, but place their unfinished wishes on children who should not bear this responsibility, such as "our hopes are pinned on you" and "there are no college students in our family for half a lifetime, only you!" The so-called words of encouragement. I am really speechless. One generation will do what the next generation will do. Why impose your unfulfilled wishes on the next generation? Don't tell me that everything is caused by the Cultural Revolution, and I can't afford to read at home. Since you all choose to be the weak and helpless objects in life, why do you ask your children to be the strong and progressive in life? Is this fair to children?

So I also want to remind a considerable number of parents in China that setting an example is more important than teaching by example. Only by striving to be an enterprising person, an excellent person and a brave and strong person in life can children truly respect you from the depths of their souls. To put it bluntly, if they want to get the respect of their children, they must do something worthy of their respect!