Why do you have to leave room for yourself?

Remember to leave room for others at all times when you get along with others. Only by not doing things absolutely, saying things to death, being emotionally extreme, and being unreasonable can we get along with people with ease. Many young people find fault with others if they can't get a little sand in their eyes. No matter what occasion and when, unless they are severely criticized and attacked, they will feel at ease. As everyone knows, his own criticism has pushed the other side into a desperate situation, and I don't know that the other side already hates himself. Everything you say and do should take into account the feelings of others and leave room for others. While facilitating others, it also gives yourself the possibility of success.

When Crowley was the general manager of new york Central Railway Bureau, he almost had a big accident. There are two engineers, both of whom have served on the railway for a long time, but that's how they made a big mistake: due to their negligence, two trains almost collided head-on. Such a serious matter is totally unforgivable, and the boss ordered Crowley to fire the two employees. But Crowley objected.

"A situation like this should be given full consideration," he objected. "Indeed, their behavior is unforgivable and should be severely punished. You can punish them severely and teach them a lesson, but you can't deprive them of their positions and the only job they can earn a living. Generally speaking, they have created many good achievements in these years and made great contributions to the development of railway industry. It is unfair to completely deny their previous achievements just because of their negligence this time. You can punish them, but you can't fire them. If you must fire them, even I will be fired. "

As a result, Crowley won, and two engineers were left behind and stayed there all the time. Later, they all became loyal and efficient employees.

Crowley left room for his subordinates and gave himself a better way to develop his career. On the other hand, if you cut off the retreat of others in a short time, no door will open for you when the crisis comes. The fox and the donkey are very good friends. When the fox is sick, the donkey looks for food for the fox everywhere. Under the careful care of the donkey, the fox recovered quickly. To this end, the fox was very grateful to the donkey and vowed, "Brother Donkey, I will definitely repay you in the future." The donkey believed the fox and regarded him as his most sincere friend. As long as the donkey found something delicious, he left half to the fox and sincerely said to the fox, "Brother, as long as we unite and help each other, there will be no insurmountable difficulties and we need not be afraid of the lions in the forest." "Yes, yes, as long as we join hands, the lion will be afraid of our three points." The fox said while chewing the food sent by the donkey. One day, the fox and the donkey went to the forest to look for food. On the way, they met a lion. After discovering the crisis, the fox told the lion that he would help the lion catch the donkey as long as he promised not to hurt himself. The lion agreed. Hearing this, the donkey said angrily to the fox, "Now the enemy is in sight. As long as we unite sincerely, we will certainly defeat the lion, but how can you betray me?" "Yes, I this is a battle of wits with the lion! I just lied to it. Look, there is a big pit over there. You jump in and hide, and I'll deal with the lion. " The fox deliberately lowered his voice and said to the donkey. "Thank you, good brother." The donkey was moved to tears and jumped into the pit without hesitation. "Dear Lion King, I have tricked that donkey into a deep pit. Now you can let me eat your delicious food. " The fox flattered the lion. "Bah, the donkey can't escape, and it will become my food sooner or later. Now, I want to eat you! " Afterwards, the lion swooped down and killed the fox.

No one can always be smooth sailing, and no one can guarantee that he will always sit back and relax in life. Just like that fox, no matter how beautiful and proud it is on weekdays, it will face the crisis of failure one day. When you face a crisis, will you have friends to help you? Will your colleagues enthusiastically lend a helping hand, or do nothing? It all depends on what you do on weekdays. If you leave room for others, then you will find that there are many hands to pull you out of the mire. And if you always cut off others' retreat and always push others to the wall, who will help you? It's good for you that they don't hit people when they're down.

As the saying goes, "people's faces are alive and trees are alive." This sentence reveals a major feature of human nature: loving face. But you can't just love your own face and not give others face. Everyone has a last line of psychological defense. Once we don't give others a way out and don't let others walk down the steps, he will have to use the last resort-self-defense. Therefore, when dealing with people, we should keep in mind a principle: leave some room for others.

A word or two of understanding and being more tolerant of others can reduce the harm to others, save his face and leave him some room.

Many years ago, General Electric Company was faced with a job that needed to be handled carefully: to dismiss Charles steinmetz as the head of a department. Steinmetz is a first-class genius in electrical appliances, but as the head of the computing department, he is a complete failure. However, the company did not dare to offend him. The company will never fire him-and he is very sensitive. So they made him a "consulting engineer of General Electric Company"-the job was the same as before, but the title was different-and someone else was the department head.

Steinmetz was very happy. Gm's top management is also very happy. They have successfully mobilized their most irritable big-name star employees, and they have not caused a big storm-because they have saved his face.

It is important to let others save face, but few of us have thought of it! We cruelly obliterate other people's feelings and are self-righteous. We criticize employees in front of others, find faults, threaten them, and don't even consider whether they hurt others' self-esteem. However, a minute or two of thinking, a sentence or two of understanding, and a tolerant understanding of others' attitudes can all reduce the harm to others.

Next time, when we have to fire employees or punish others, don't forget this.

Marshall Granger, a certified public accountant, said: "It is boring to fire others, and it is even more boring to be fired. Our business is seasonal. After the upsurge of income tax declaration, many people have to leave. There is a joke in our business: no one likes to wield an axe. So everyone became insensitive and just hoped that things would pass quickly. Usually, the regular conversation goes like this: "Please sit down, Mr. Smith." . The peak season has passed, and we have nothing to do for you. Of course, you know that we only hire you in the peak season, so ... "

"This kind of conversation will disappoint the parties and have a sense of loss of dignity. Therefore, unless absolutely necessary, I will never dismiss others easily. I will gently tell him,' Mr. Smith, you have done a good job (if he has done a good job). Last time we asked you to go to Newark, the work was very troublesome. You handled it well without any mistakes. We want you to know that the company is proud of you, believes in your ability and is willing to support you forever. I hope you don't forget this. "What's the result? People who have been laid off feel much better, at least they don't feel ashamed. They know that if we have jobs, we will keep them, or they will be happy to come back when we need them again. "

In fact, everyone may do embarrassing things in life, and they may encounter embarrassing things at any time in life. A person in an awkward position will definitely feel humiliated. If you can find a step for him at this time, you can not only win the favor of the other party immediately, but also establish a good social image. People who pursue success should learn how to deal with such things.

At the beginning of the founding of New China, Premier Zhou Enlai led a delegation to express condolences to the Soviet troops stationed in the brigade. At our reception, a Soviet lieutenant translated the prime minister's speech in the wrong place. A comrade made corrections on the spot on our behalf. This surprised the prime minister and annoyed the Soviet garrison commander present. Because his subordinates' mistakes on this occasion made him lose face, he immediately went over and tried to tear off the lieutenant's epaulettes and collar. The atmosphere in the banquet hall suddenly became tense. At this time, Premier Zhou lost no time in finding a "step" for the other party. He said gently, "It's hard to translate these two languages, or maybe I didn't speak them perfectly." And slowly repeated the wrong translation, so that the translator can hear clearly. When the translator translates accurately, he also makes a toast with the translator alone. Premier Zhou's kind action made the Soviet generals and translators particularly moved. The dinner was a great success and they parted happily.

Premier Zhou's generosity tells us to give the wrong person face and "steps" because his self-esteem and vanity are particularly strong at this time. If you can help him save face and maintain dignity, he will have an extraordinary affection for you. And your little efforts may have an important impact on your future career.

Good interpersonal relationship is an important capital for a person to stand on the society and an indispensable factor for his success, which requires respect and tolerance for others, because only in this way can he be understood and respected by others. Imagine how you can be loved and respected if you can't even adapt to the people around you. How can I get help and support from others? How can we compete and cooperate to achieve a successful life?