Do you know why Chaoshan girls don’t marry outside?

——When will you go home for Chinese New Year this year?

Daxin said he would not reply.

Daxin, my brother, is from Zhanjiang Hanzhi. He has a girlfriend named Xiaoxue, a girl from Chaoshan. They are college classmates and have been together for more than a year. Speaking of Chinese New Year, Daxin She started to feel worried because during the Chinese New Year, Xiaoxue asked Daxin to accompany her home, which was actually to meet her parents.

Daxin’s conditions are not bad, he is not bad looking, and his workplace is relatively OK. However, what worries him is the often-talked-about rumor that “Chaoshan girls do not marry outsiders”, so this is not a good thing for him. From the moment he recognized Xiaoxue, it became a hurdle in his heart...

After leaving his hometown to study, every time he heard people talk about Chaoshan girls, there would always be a following sentence: You girls from Chaoshan must be Looking for one from Chaoshan!

Yes, "Chaoshan girls do not marry outsiders" is indeed a common trend in Chaoshan. Many people even label Chaoshan people as "exclusive", "discriminatory to outsiders" and "traditional" for this reason. thought labels.

However, what Xiaochao wants to say is that this is all superficial.

On the one hand, there are certain historical and geographical reasons for the emergence of this idea of ??"not marrying outside."

Looking at the national map, Guangdong is located in the southern border of my country, pillowed by the Five Ridges to the north and the sea to the south. It is a relatively independent geographical unit. This results in a geographical location that is closed to the interior but open to the outside world.

In the Chaoshan area of ????Guangdong, its northwest runs across the Lianhua Mountain System running from the northeast to the southwest and ends at Dayuling; the Lianhua Mountain System consists of Fenghuang Mountain, Lianhua Mountain, Dabeishan, Xiaobeishan, The general name for the seven continuous mountain ranges such as Danan Mountain, Nanyang Mountain, and Sangpu Mountain. The northeast is continuous with the Boping Ridge in Fujian, and the southwest meanders to the coasts of Huilai and Lufeng. Therefore, it is cut into the back mountain in eastern Guangdong. The relatively independent geographical area facing the sea, the northwest and the southeast, and the double geographical closure, to a certain extent, hindered the direct exchanges between Chaoshan and the Central Plains, and Chaoshan was gradually labeled as "exclusive".

With the development of science, technology and transportation, this geographical barrier is slowly being broken down, and the deeper reason for "not marrying outside" comes from the love in the hearts of Chaoshan people!

I still remember that year when I received the college entrance examination notice and started my journey away from home. Before I left, my uncle Gao, who had watched me grow up, repeatedly told me that when I was dating in college, I must find someone from Chaoshan. At that time I always thought it was ridiculous, so I asked naughtily: Why? Answer: Because Chaoshan people don’t get divorced easily after getting married (PS. The divorce rate in Chaoshan is indeed relatively low). The question comes again: Why? Because upon divorce, they will be under strong pressure from public opinion, family, moral, and ethical pressures, making divorce a red line that every Chaoshan couple dare not easily cross.

In the past, I didn’t understand it at all. I just thought it was because the place was small and people were intimidating. Now I slowly understand why your parents hope you won’t marry far away, and why they hope you marry someone from Chaoshan. , because they understand this land and its culture, and they want you to live where they can see it. Once you are harmed in any way, they can protect you as much as possible, and even mobilize the pressure of public opinion to help you.

Chaoyang girl Zhi Yaya is my college roommate. She is fair-skinned, beautiful, quiet, well-behaved, and virtuous. She is always the one in the dormitory who works hardest at making soup and doing hygiene (ignore Xiao Chao for now). Those In 2000, our fat squad leader fell in love with Yaya, showed his affection in every possible way, and even asked me to be a lobbyist. The responsible Xiaochao took the opportunity to raise this topic in a dormitory sleep talk, but was poured cold water on her.

Ya Ya said that the fat squad leader was not from Chaoshan and had not passed the first basic level, so she would not consider it.

How is it possible that you want to send me away for such a meaningless reason? So, Xiaochao then asked, why does it have to be from Chaoshan? Oh, what era is it? Don't be so traditional. The other girls in the dormitory also helped to make noises.

Yaya paused for a long time and then started to say: When she was a child, although there were many children at home, her father loved her the most and gave her all the delicious food. At that time, she was still accompanied by her father when she went to college. She came, and the night before she left, she pulled up a stool and chatted with her father in the corridor. Under the moonlight, she inexplicably discovered that her father had begun to grow old. From that time on, Xuanzi told herself not to let her father worry about her in the future. She must try her best to be nice to her father, and she also hopes that the people she will be with in the future can accompany her and treat her father well.

Curious Xiaochao asked, does this have anything to do with being from Chaoshan?

Yes, because I don’t want my partner to have trouble communicating with his family. I don’t want that embarrassment, and I don’t want to see my parents’ disappointment...

Parents want to protect you because of love, and children also choose to fulfill you because of love~

So, please respect and understand this love!