What is the psychology of those who live for face? What if I dare not divorce and live for myself?

Dare to divorce is not all a matter of face. Don't divorce easily, even if there are no children and no property disputes, let alone children and property.

There are no two identical leaves in this world, and there are no two identical people in this world. Get along for a long time, you will always have his disappointments, and he will always have yours. What should I do? I can only raise my hand, close my eyes, think about each other's benefits and let everything go by with time.

I once had a boyfriend who had been together for two years. All he needed was a marriage certificate. There is nothing wrong with him, but he is too ambitious and looks down on ordinary jobs. He always thought he was capable and unwilling to take a leadership position. As a result, no unit wanted him. No background, no education, no money, a second education, where did you get the confidence?

Now this is down-to-earth, without those problems, it will become my husband. The terrible thing is that I love drinking. I can't wait for three meals a day at home. There is wine at every meal. I used to go out for a drink, but now I go home for a drink more and more. If you drink too much, you will either throw up in a mess or play hide-and-seek with you like a child. He thinks he's cute, but he's as annoying as he is. When he woke up, he forgot all about it and couldn't communicate. This is not what I want. What should I do? It can't be changed any more. Besides, is there anything wrong with me?

You can't always stare at these unpleasant things when you are alive. You should think more about happy times and find each other's beauty. Who will you live with all your life? For too long, perfect love exists, and perfect marriage does not exist. Perfect. God will envy you.

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Hello, I'm glad to answer your question.

1. This problem is complicated. Say it one by one. Let's talk about the psychology of people who love face first:

1 bluff. First of all, people who love face are trying to gain respect and envy from others. Through a series of "bluffing" behaviors, I indirectly expand my influence in the hearts of others.

Self-esteem is too strong. Secondly, people who love face tend to have high self-esteem. Even, it has been strong to the point of "conceit". As a result, they live in the praise and envy of others all day long. Their will does not change with their own changes, but with others' evaluation and vision of themselves. In other words, they live to satisfy others!

③ Abnormal psychological sensitivity and fragility. Then, people who love face are often psychologically fragile. They can't stand the storm and stormy waves outside, can't stand the blows and tempering of failures and setbacks, dare not face up to reality, and can't form a more objective, rational and sober understanding of the world. So in the end, they will even form a psychological shadow of extreme inferiority, which will have a very adverse impact on their lives.

4 self-deception. In addition, face-saving people are good at deceiving themselves. If you don't know what to do, you must do it, even if you bite the bullet, you must finish it! After a long time, it will form a vicious psychological cycle. The result is internal imbalance, constant contradictions, constant troubles and misery.

⑤ The loss outweighs the gain. Also, face-saving people pay more attention to the external environment, and they never consider or rarely consider their inner self. This leads to a serious decline in their quality of life, and their satisfaction with self-happiness is extremely low, which is not worth the loss and troubles them.

6. Lose your true self. Finally, a face-saving person may have lost his inner self. This leads to: they have not formed their own goals, they are often hypocritical, tired and self-deceiving, and they will hesitate and stop in the face of some unsatisfactory things. In other words, they have become "living dead", and the souls of the living dead have long been numb.

These are the psychological characteristics that face-saving people may have.

2. Dare not divorce, possible psychological characteristics:

(1) Afraid of retaliation. First of all, I dare not divorce, because I am afraid that the other party will attack and retaliate against me. The result is unnecessary harm and pain.

I' m afraid the loss outweighs the gain. Secondly, I dare not divorce, perhaps because I am afraid that I will not get the property or other privileges I deserve. In other words, after the divorce, I was afraid that the loss would outweigh the gain, so I was unwilling and hesitant.

(3) Always think about the past and think about the future. Then, dare not divorce, perhaps repeatedly weighing the pros and cons. What can I get after the divorce? What will the world think of me after my divorce? After the divorce, what about the children and who will take care of them? Therefore, we are afraid of wolves before and tigers after, and we have been unable to make correct decisions.

(4) always around the secular. In addition, not daring to divorce may not be what you want! But I am always too easily influenced by the secular environment! Always afraid of others gossiping, cynicism, and discussion! Because I don't want to live in such a psychological shadow all the time, I will continue to choose accommodation and forbearance. However, I feel deeply unwilling.

5 may also be reluctant. Also, I dare not divorce, perhaps because I feel reluctant. Reluctant to have a rich family environment and children. Because once divorced, you must stand on your own two feet. Besides, you may not find a suitable partner in the short term. Besides, it's hard to say who has custody of the children. So, I just don't want to take such a big risk.

6. But more often, they are filled with indignation. Later, divorce will become more and more troublesome and complicated. Therefore, you have formed a great contradiction in your heart. Therefore, it is particularly prone to anger and extremism.

7 Depression. Finally, you are likely to live in the psychological shadow of "self-anxiety" and "self-anger" for a long time, and then evolve into a "depressed person".

These are the psychological characteristics that may exist behind fear of divorce.

3. What is "living for yourself"?

(1) Not impulsive. First of all, living for yourself is definitely not an impulse. In other words, it is definitely not a whim.

② The advantages far outweigh the disadvantages. Secondly, behind your choice, you have fully considered the possible consequences. Moreover, the advantages far outweigh the disadvantages.

(3) be far-sighted and take the overall situation into consideration. Then, you should have a broader vision. In other words, you must stand at a certain height, fully grasp this problem, and your thinking must be more sober, objective and sober. Only in this way can we make a more correct choice.

4 think twice before you act. Even so, you still have to reconfirm and think about the ins and outs behind it in detail again. Thus, sort out the clearest ideas.

⑤ Consider the possible consequences. Then, you should fully consider all possible consequences! For example, the custody of children, the division of real estate and property, their own economic ability, future settlement and settlement and so on.

Have the courage to bear all the consequences. Then, you must have the courage to bear everything you will face in the future! In other words, you are fully prepared for this.

⑦ Make a choice that suits your heart. Finally, you can make a more correct choice! Of course, we can't ignore every process and every link in front! Otherwise, it will have a very negative impact on your future, and even make you homeless and driven to distraction!

And this is the real "live for yourself"! ! !

I hope my answer can help you better. Good luck ~

Those who live for face are those who die for face. Face is more important to her than anything, even life!

Especially for women living in unhappy marriages, it is often the husband's infidelity or deception, cold violence or even domestic violence. They will choose to be wronged and will choose to submit to humiliation. I didn't know that men's violent arrogance and bossiness were used to it. A face-saving woman doesn't want to be criticized. They all like to be silent lambs. They don't want to say no even if they are covered in scars. They often choose to escape from reality to paralyze themselves! Although I have experienced too much pain, I still want to live in my dream! This is the sorrow of a weak woman who loves face.

It's a pity that women in marriage, especially those with strong dependence, mostly choose to be wronged, silent and play dumb, because men take advantage of her weakness and dislike her dependence, and even when she is transparent and does not exist, they can lie to her face! In the face of her weakness, this is the reason why she is heartless.

No matter whether a woman is lucky or unlucky in marriage, she should follow her heart, live high, and say loudly whether she loves or not! Learn to respect yourself, be strong and independent, reduce dependence, and be an intellectual woman. If you are excellent, you won't care who you are ... It's up to you to leave, and you can choose to live the life you want and pursue your happiness!

People who live for face are actually responsible people. They don't want to divorce for their children to have a complete home and for their healthy and smooth growth.

Such a person deserves our admiration. Children are the future and hope. Only when children grow up healthily and smoothly will there be a bright future and hope.

Many happy families have experienced ups and downs.

There will be contradictions and disputes between husband and wife, but some couples come through mutual tolerance, and some couples come to an end in mutual intransigence.

I dare not divorce, but I still have a responsibility in my heart.

Bury unpleasant things deeply in your heart, don't think about them, arrange your time full, and let yourself have no energy to think about those annoying things.

Face, psychology. In fact, it is the rest of the troubles after divorce.

The child's problem, whether the divorce of husband and wife will leave a psychological shadow on the child, and how much influence it has on the child's growth. Who should raise children?

Property, whether there is property, if there is, how to divide it. However, if you really have money to decide the future, it will not involve the so-called face problem.

Social problems, divorced, afraid of others telling jokes. The complete information is: in the first three quarters of 2065438+2009, there were 7 130800 registered marriages nationwide, a year-on-year decrease of 6.78%; The number of divorces was 3 10.4 1 10,000 couples, up 7.07% year-on-year. This realistic social problem makes young people feel that marriage is a burden more and more, and they can get rid of it when they are tired. Let's discuss it.

Live for yourself or live for responsibility. I believe that many people think of losing face when facing this problem, but how to effectively deal with all kinds of problems that will be faced now and in the future.

If the marriage is not over, why choose divorce? If the marital status is really bad to the extreme, living in another way is also an attitude of respecting life. Therefore, I want to put aside my face and look at it correctly. Face is given by yourself.

What is the psychology of those who live for face? What if I dare not divorce and live for myself?

People should live for themselves, but also for face. If a person lives only for himself and doesn't consider the feelings of others, there will be no real friendship and friends.

People should not only do it for themselves, but also for their families, because people have responsibilities and obligations. A person who has no responsibility and obligation will not support the elderly at the meeting, nor will he support the children at the next meeting.

And those who live for face are responsible people. Maybe what I said above is not the original intention of the subject. If you divorce, you will lose face.

In my opinion, this kind of face can be saved, and marriage is a matter for two people. If two people can't go on, just to save face, it is "saving face, losing money."

If marriage is a major event in life and divorce is not a trivial matter, we must be cautious. If getting married was a mistake at the beginning, we should pay more attention to divorce and can't make any more mistakes.

This is nobody else's business. Who knows whose shoes fit?

Many things should proceed from reality, and nothing is more important than a healthy body and mind.

One does not abandon an imperfect marriage, not necessarily for the sake of face, but perhaps for other reasons.

I am also a person who chooses not to divorce in the face of an unhappy marriage. But I'm not trying to save face. Face is not that important to a person. I just don't want to hurt children, and I don't want to leave a shadow in their young hearts. In my opinion, children's health and happiness are more important than unhappy marriage.