What are the clever daughter-in-law's schemes?

how to conquer the hearts of in-laws? Smart daughter-in-law recommends scheming:

Winding thread makes her mother-in-law feel "sure" and "needed"

Different habits make it difficult for Fan Ma to fully accept her mother-in-law's cooking, but her mother-in-law's hometown has a favorite "crispy rice porridge", and Fan Ma drinks two bowls at a time.

"Mom, crispy rice porridge is delicious. Shall we eat rice porridge tonight? " Every mother shakes her mother-in-law's arm "coquetry", and her mother-in-law smiles and says, "Yes, we Yaner want to eat rice crust porridge, and the requirements are not high".

When the rice porridge with crispy rice is ready, the mother-in-law also announced, "Let Yaner drink it first." Mom knows that eating at this time is her mother-in-law's favorite, so she doesn't shirk it.

Sometimes when my in-laws say nice things, I leave my mother behind, so I have to jump out and feel aggrieved for myself. "There will be my daughter-in-law! How can such a daughter-in-law miss me? "My mother-in-law patted my mother's hand and said," Yes, yes, and my daughter-in-law! " So a thing that would have made many daughters-in-law feel lost was successfully resolved in every mother's "Chen Jiao".

The effect of this move: it not only satisfies every mother's greed and willfulness, but also realizes her mother-in-law's psychological needs of "being affirmed and needed", making her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law very happy.

listen and remember with my father-in-law.

working with parents-in-law is very hard. In the small mountain village in the 196s and 197s, the parents-in-law had to raise four daughters, a son, an elderly mother and a minor brother. The burden of the family is all on my father-in-law's thin shoulders. Every time I think of my hard life in the past, I look dignified. At this time, every mother chooses to be a devout listener, lamenting the hardships of life with her father-in-law's words.

Time and time again, every time I heard it, my mother was filled with tears and sincerely said to my father-in-law, "It's really not easy for you and your mother. At that time, all four daughters were urban hukou, and it was really not easy to give up a college student! "

Let's look at the wonderful life with my father-in-law: You see that now my sons and daughters are very filial, my daughter-in-law is very pleased, and my grandson is very good.

the effect of this move: the father-in-law wants to talk, and the mother likes to listen to the "past". One is willing to talk and the other is willing to listen, and everyone is happy.

I feel the same way, and I'm sure my in-laws' ideas are * * *.

In-laws, like many grandparents, actually have certain "son preference" thoughts. When I was pregnant, my grandparents said, "It's the same for boys and girls." My mother said, "Mom and Dad, it's normal for you to have grandchildren. I can understand your feeling. Although several sisters have sons, you still want your grandson. "

Then tell your in-laws: It's no one's idea to have boys and girls, but it's not too much for your in-laws to want their grandchildren. After all, my husband is the only child in the family, so if I were in the age and environment of my in-laws, I might want my son as well.

The effect of this move: Empathy works wonders in getting along with people. If you think from the other side's standpoint and angle, you will understand if you don't understand. If you understand, there will be no contradiction.

Yes, my in-laws have valuable experience gained from decades of life experience.

every mother will not be stingy with her appreciation when getting along with her in-laws.

On one occasion, Fanfan took Fanfan to live with her parents-in-law in her hometown for a period of time. Because my father-in-law likes to eat jiaozi in the north, whoever wants to pack more bags and put them in the refrigerator before returning to Qingdao to satisfy his hunger. When preparing stuffing, every mother just wants to wash it with water. But my mother-in-law insists on peeling one layer at a time. At that time, my mother thought, "No need?" Unexpectedly, a cabbage caterpillar was actually peeled.

I'm surprised that every mother praises her mother-in-law's wise decision: Mom, if you don't listen to the old man, you'll be cheated right in front of your eyes. If you hadn't insisted on peeling it off, we would have eaten worms today!

Mother-in-law is naturally happy, so my mother and I really "speak from the heart"!

The effect of this move: A big truth makes the mother-in-law smile, and every mother truly realizes the old saying "Don't listen to the old man and be cheated"!

be considerate and keep in mind the needs of your in-laws.

My father-in-law has bad teeth and likes to eat rotten food. On the contrary, Fan Ma likes to eat crisp and tough food. Is this a contradiction? No, it isn't. Every time it's crispy, your mother will come up with a solution. She took out half a bowl and stewed the rest for her father-in-law.

In-laws don't like triangle shorts worn by young people, and baggy boxers that old people like are not very common in shopping malls here in Qingdao. When I was on the bus, I accidentally found these shorts in a roadside shop and bought three pairs for my in-laws. My in-laws said "I spent money again", but my happiness was written on my face.

I went out to buy new year's goods with my husband during the Spring Festival one year and stumbled upon an old-fashioned monthly card. My mother bought one, my father was puzzled, and my mother didn't explain it. I took it home, my in-laws took a look, hung it on the bed, looked through it and said, "Yaner still knows the old man's mind."

my mother-in-law has high blood pressure. Once I saw a recipe for steaming lotus roots with white sesame crystal sugar on TV, and my mother steamed a plate of lotus roots for her mother-in-law every afternoon as a snack. Maybe I'm in a good mood, or maybe the folk prescription really worked. Mother-in-law's blood pressure has been stable in Qingdao for half a year.

My mother-in-law and I went out to buy food arm in arm, and everyone we met said, "Your daughter-in-law is really nice." My mother-in-law also unceremoniously "sells melons", but every mother is embarrassed. "Mom, don't tell everyone that you are a good daughter-in-law and make people laugh." My mother-in-law said happily, "Just fine."

the effect of this trick: see the truth in details and be the universal truth!