What would you do if someone insulted and slandered you behind your back?

What would you do if someone insulted and slandered you behind your back? There are several answers to this question.

First, if we found someone insulting and slandering us behind our backs when we were young, out of a competitive mentality, how could we have been wronged by the human body, and we would certainly impulsively debate right and wrong.

Second, when you reach a certain age, retire and have a strong mind, you will not be so impulsive. It's not that you are timid and have no mood. Only when you have experienced something can you face it calmly, because some people don't need to defend it.

Third, when you meet someone who insults and slanders you behind your back, the first thing you should do is to stay away from him, because such a person is not worthy to be your friend and associate with you. Although we often say that there is no one behind you, isn't it quieter to say that you can stay away from such people?

In short, make yourself strong, focus on your career, and don't worry about slander. When you succeed or have a certain position and are strong enough to scare them, many people will only curry favor with you and will not slander you. They will try their best to get close to you and make friends with you.

Be sure to distinguish and judge the types of people who insult and slander you, and on what occasions and in front of whom to do things that insult and slander you! Indiscriminately taking some kind of "unified" response measures will often suffer!

First, people who are inferior to you in all aspects, everyone knows that person is inferior to you in all aspects-this is a kind of crowd.

In society, in the workplace, some people have no ability, no ability. Not only do we know something about his work performance, ability and behavior, but most people around him don't think highly of him.

These people are prone to get pink eye, and when they see that others are doing well, they are prone to "acid reflux".

Generally speaking, we don't have to care about such people, nor do we have to care about their behind-the-scenes slander and insults. Because of their own image, influence, friends around them, etc. , will not have any impact on yourself.

What they said, what they slandered, and so on. They are just idle nonsense topics in their private circles to seek self-comfort! It makes no difference to us at all. Go with them!

We can't control their mouths, and it's not necessary. We don't expect everyone to say we are good.

Second, a villain who likes to curry favor with the leader and can be taken care of by some aspects of the leader around him-this is a kind of person.

We should pay attention to such people! If these people always speak ill of you and slander you in front of the leaders, but you don't react and act, it is likely to have a negative impact on your own development!

Don't think that "clean people are clean", "they have their own opinions" and "people will see people's hearts when they grow up", because those people insult and slander us behind our backs, which is likely to get us into the predicament of the workplace. It's very likely that you didn't even have a chance to "clean yourself up" and have been killed!

Aim at the villain, especially the villain who walks up to the leader and stumbles behind us. We must not adopt the so-called ostrich mentality or let it go.

In view of the fact that the villain in the workplace is a problem that everyone needs to pay attention to, we need a series of positive actions to make this group dare not provoke us and dare not play tricks in the leadership easily.

Remember: for the villain, we should not think about "how not to offend the villain" or "how to deal with it after being hurt by the villain", but how to make the villain dare not offend us, how to maximize the villain's space, and how to make the villain have no chance to be bad behind his back! -wrong thinking, will not find a solution!

For the topic of villains, the old ghost once wrote a question and answer article, so I won't repeat it here. Friends can browse the old ghost space when they are free.

Third, his direct leader insults and slanders you in front of your colleagues or his boss-this is another kind of person.

For such people, you can't be a negative responder! Instead, we should actively take accumulation behavior to save the situation.

1, strengthen their work ability and performance; Let yourself be more professional in many aspects of the work process, minimize the flaws and omissions in the work process, and leave no excuses for others.

2. Strengthen the relationship with some capable and influential colleagues and gain their trust and support; This is a necessary act to effectively resist the slander of our leaders! If you can't handle the relationship with your colleagues well and the leader slanders and insults you, you will have no idea! )

3. Think and judge the reason why your relationship with the leader is stiff and the leader is not good to you. And began to consciously adjust their methods and strategies to get along with leaders in the workplace. Try to let the leaders improve our opinions and even gain the trust of the leaders.

Many people hold a negative attitude towards their direct leaders' distrust, dislike, even slander and insult. I don't even want to think about "improvement and change". I don't want to lower myself to do something. Because I have defined myself: the leader is wrong, why should I compromise myself to get close to him? -this kind of thinking, I suggest that everyone should be particularly cautious!

4. If there is an opportunity, please establish higher public relations in the company and strive to gain more recognition, support and trust from senior leaders and even bosses.

There is a saying: there are people in the DPRK who are easy to handle affairs. If you are a subordinate of the leader, and the top leaders in the company know nothing about you, then you have no chance to defend the things reflected and reported by the direct leader, the language and conclusions that are unfavorable to you! Because no one knows you up there! Don't blame the boss and senior leaders for being blind! Because bosses and top leaders are not gods!

Fourth, there is a situation that needs special attention: no matter who insults and slanders you in front of you, you should make an appropriate counterattack!

No matter who the other party is! As long as you are on the scene, if you don't make corresponding on-site response, it will be in trouble!

One principle: The other party's language and judgment involving personal attacks, please give the other party corresponding warnings, tips and warnings as soon as possible!

If you have something to say, say it well, but don't attack life. This is the bottom line!

Therefore, according to the scene at that time, respond to the identity and occasion of the person who slandered you. But you must make it clear to the other party that personal attacks and personal insults are absolutely impossible! This is the bottom line!

For example, in the process of evaluating you, your own leader suddenly said the concept of "IQ". At this point, you can simply say: Miss Li, you can say that my work ability is not enough, or that I am not doing well in this job, but don't involve any IQ issues! If my IQ is really not enough, then you are also saying that the IQ of the human resources department is not enough, and you have recruited me to a company with low IQ! -to put it bluntly, it is nothing!

Let's talk so much first. The old ghost has only one purpose: he must analyze who he is and slander and insult you in front of those people! If you don't analyze these, but want to find a fixed way to deal with them, you can't achieve the goal of solving the problem!

The above is for reference and is an introduction for everyone.

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There are villains behind them, and there are only two answers: endure or fight. In fact, there is a better way to fight back, that is, to pit the villain in the way of the villain, and the villain will dig a hole for you, and you will also dig a hole for him. He wants you to die in obscurity, so you can't let him die in obscurity First of all, we should distinguish three kinds of villains, and then prescribe the right medicine:

First, the types of villains.

One is an ordinary person, which is nothing more than a short-term move by parents. When you meet middle and high-level people, you don't pay attention to them. Their cognitive level is already very low, and their lethality is not great. One is the villain who fights openly with you, either your competitor or your enemy. His purpose is obviously to discredit you. Now that we know, we have a preventive mentality. There is also a kind of villain who secretly harms you. You don't even know why he did this to you. This kind of villain is terrible. It's easier to hide with an open fire than with a bow, but it's hard to prevent. You can't find the interest chain behind such a villain, so it's impossible to prevent it.

Second, there are different cost-effective ways to deal with different villains.

Different villains have different ways to deal with it. For example, it is better to laugh it off than to fight against ordinary people. This is the ancient culture of China, where "a little tolerance leads to great mischief". Of course, we don't have any big plans, but at least we can alleviate our troubles. It's a trivial matter for such a villain to play with you behind your back. When you meet a smart person, people will have a basic judgment on you and will not easily believe what a villain says.

For that kind of infighting villain, you have to mind your own mouth and mind your own business As long as you don't get caught by your opponent's villain, it's useless for him to play you, because everyone knows that he is your competitor and you are playing tricks for his personal interests, so you won't listen to the villain easily. There is also a mentality that others are too lazy to manage these entanglements. Personal affairs are annoying and they also manage other people's affairs.

Three, the most difficult to deal with the dark villain, to use the villain's way.

The hardest thing to deal with is the secret villain. You don't even know why he hates you and why he wants to give you a hard time. Therefore, his stab in the back is the most terrible. Moreover, such people are very smart, have insight into human nature, are familiar with the leadership style, and have clever means of killing people with knives.

For example, it is normal for you to complain about the work report of the leader behind your back. You are still loyal to the leader. But how did the loser frame you? He will quietly tell the leader that you have a negative attitude towards his report, and he will even give several examples of your negative words. He knows the likes and dislikes of the leader, understands the mind of the leader, grasps the main points, and hits it with one blow.

For example, this villain complained behind your back that you denied the report of the leader and were unfaithful and unjust. This kind of framing is very severe, because if you pass you a few words, it will make the leaders very sensitive and easy to believe. The leader will confirm it from the side, for example, when chatting with you, he will say that you have different opinions on my report. Can you listen to your valuable suggestions?

At this time, don't explain what I said at that time, in fact, it is this meaning or that meaning. The more you explain, the more confused and the darker it is. As long as there is a little clue, the leader will be convinced of what he thinks of you. If you are determined to be disloyal, your development path will be cut off.

You can answer like this: I fully support your report. If anyone says anything, it's his own idea. So far, don't explain, but also extend, kick the ball to the villain who framed you and lead the fire to him. The leader will think, is what this little man said true? Is it made up to frame people? Then how did he make it up? Maybe it's his own idea. The leader will prove the truth of the villain's speech, and once there is a sign of trouble, he will sit down and realize the fact that the villain is playing with a black gun.