Nowadays in rural areas, there are "five no questions" when meeting acquaintances and talking to each other. What do these "five no questions" specifically refer to?

Hello everyone, I am Tianyi, focusing on the fields of agriculture, rural areas and farmers. Living in the countryside, you will find that there are some differences from urban life. Whether it is dealing with people or some etiquette in the village, you need to be extra cautious. A word that is not careful may change the relationship between neighbors. Gotta be embarrassed.

Especially now when acquaintances meet and talk, it is more sensible to "don't ask five questions". Some questions can be chatted casually, but there are some private questions that cannot be asked openly.

The first is not to ask questions about fertility. Especially nowadays, people are under great pressure and often stay up late, so the phenomenon of infertility is increasing in rural areas. If there happens to be such an acquaintance in the village, asking when you meet will not only make the other person feel embarrassed, but may even lead to infertility. Fall out.

The second is marriage-related issues. Whether divorced or not married, there are now more men than women in rural areas, resulting in many people who cannot find wives, and the divorce rate is also on the rise. Therefore, if someone from a village who doesn't know how to speak comes up directly and asks about other people's marriage problems, it is easy to cause resentment, especially when there are many people in the venue.

The third issue is related to income and wealth. There are some bad phenomena in rural areas, which are comparisons or jealousy. Whoever makes more money will have a psychological imbalance. . Therefore, asking such questions rarely yields real answers. The more familiar people are, the less likely they are to tell the truth.

The fourth issue is gossip. In rural areas, especially aunt-level people, they like to gossip about their neighbors. So when you hear some gossip, don’t rush to verify it. Ask acquaintances. , basically we can’t get accurate facts, many of them are just rumors passed around.

The last one is not to ask questions such as borrowing money. Everyone has some difficulties, but the more familiar you are in the village, the more likely you are to fall out of control at critical times. They are not as good as relatives or friends with a general relationship.

First of all, "acquaintances" here refer to five topics that are very good friends and are avoided in order to avoid embarrassment.

Chatting with each other in rural areas is a science. When you sit down in your free time, you will find that the parents are gossiping. There are always some women in the village who like to gossip and gossip about others behind their backs. These gossipy topics are just acquaintances. It involves all aspects. Generally speaking, it can be divided into five situations according to personal circumstances:

Nowadays, many young rural people are working outside, and it is most embarrassing to go home during the holidays. There is nothing better than talking about income with each other. If you ask someone with a high income, it will make people feel arrogant. If you ask someone with a low income, others will worry about you borrowing money. The person asking will talk casually, and the person listening will be in a dilemma, especially an acquaintance. After all, if you tell the truth, those with low incomes will feel inferior and lose face, and their mentality will almost breed envy and jealousy. Anyway, there is no positive side. If not, the friendship between each other will be gone. Therefore, men should never ask about income.

For girls, what they worry about before getting married is their beauty and age. After getting married, they worry about marrying the wrong man. No matter what, don’t ask about marriage. In rural areas, if older girls cannot get married, the villagers will talk about it until the day you get married. Therefore, for older girls who are not married, even if it is out of concern and the girl does not mention it herself, do not ask about marriage.

Those who are married should not talk about marriage. Women are afraid of marrying the wrong man. When asking about marriage, they just talk about their husbands. This is the same as men regardless of income. It is easy to compare with each other. It doesn’t matter if you are both good and bad, but you are afraid of being good. It's bad. If someone with poor conditions marries well, if someone with good conditions marries well, the heart will be unbalanced.

There is a very typical example in our village. The two families have been quarreling for most of their lives. They were best friends when they were young. They married in the same village. The man who married first introduced the man who married later. You are making money, and your family conditions are getting better and better. Compared with the past introduction, it is more than one level behind. How can you balance this in your heart? We often quarreled over trivial matters, and we became strangers from then on.

Today’s young people, I don’t know if it is due to lack of exercise, have more difficulties in getting pregnant than in the old days. Take the farmer’s explanation of himself as an example, he got married seven or eight years earlier, and two years after the marriage, he was in the village. I have notified my relatives and friends about the big event of the wedding. I have stopped using birth control since the year when I started drinking wine. But three years have passed and there has been no response. I am so anxious. The most annoying thing every time I go back is the seven aunts and eight aunts in the village. I kept asking questions at every turn, which was so embarrassing that my wife didn’t dare to go home later.

It is even more inappropriate to ask about such a situation between acquaintances. It is typical to rub salt on the scars, and maybe even good friends will have to do it.

Divorce represents the complete failure of a marriage. It is a past event that neither party is willing to happen or talk about. Most people who get together and stay apart in marriage are self-deception. In marriage, they always think that they are the recipients. For the injured party, if you discuss your ex at this time, every little bit about your ex will bring back the unbearable past. Therefore, among acquaintances, the "exes" usually know each other, so don't be ignorant and ask everything. .

No matter how acquainted people are, whenever they talk about money, they will respond to the saying "talking about money hurts feelings." The acquaintance will ask, for the person who lends money, it is a dilemma. Borrowing money will most likely end up with a dull relationship.

Money is hard-earned, and you are always worried if it is not in your hands. You are worried that you will not be able to get it back. You are worried that you have borrowed it again and again. After putting money between "acquaintances", they become strangers. So for the sake of deep friendship, never ask your friends to borrow money easily.

Summary: When interacting with acquaintances, you should think twice about these five questions. Try not to do things that the person asking is unintentional and the person listening is intentional. In the end, you may offend the person without even knowing it.

As a child who grew up in a rural area, I have rich experience in rural life. As for the "Five Don'ts", each place has its own explanation. Here, I will talk about the "rural areas" in Sichuan. "Five no questions".

1. Don’t ask about income when meeting

Many people in rural areas have their own ways of making money or have low incomes. Income is a big taboo, so when rural people meet, they usually say: " Have you eaten yet?" instead of "How much is your monthly salary? How much is your mortgage?"

Don't ask about your children's status

I don't know if you have noticed a phenomenon: "No matter how poor you are, it's difficult." Therefore, especially in rural areas, even if the children who go out receive a good education, it is difficult for them to live a decent life due to the housing prices and living pressure in big cities, so it is inevitable to feel sad when talking about it.

3. Don’t ask about private family matters

There are many talkative women in rural areas who like to talk about the parents of the East and the shortcomings of the West. Such people are the most hateful. It has also aroused the disgust of many people, so naturally we should not pry into other people's privacy. It is easy for people to misunderstand and also makes people feel that we are prying into privacy.

4. Don’t ask about the death of the elderly

The most taboo thing for rural elderly people is death. Do not talk about coffins, death, child support, and pension issues in front of them, otherwise it will make them feel uncomfortable. The old man is emotionally unstable.

5. Don’t ask couples about having children

There are many young couples in rural areas. Some are unwilling to have children due to physical reasons, some due to financial reasons, and some are unwilling to have children due to family reasons. We should not inquire when there is a problem. The reason is the same as before, it is easy to touch sensitive nerves.

When we meet acquaintances in the countryside, we like to chat a few words, whether they have tea (eat), where they are going, etc. However, there are some things that cannot be asked. I have listed below the rural areas. When acquaintances meet and talk, "five questions are not asked".

1. Don’t ask about family income: In rural areas, no matter whether the family is rich or poor, with high or low income, they don’t like to be asked. After all, this is family privacy. If you are asked about your income, if you have a low income, you are afraid of others looking at you differently, and if you have a high income, you are worried of being borrowed money, so it is best not to bring up this topic.

2. Don’t ask about private family affairs: As the saying goes, family scandals should not be publicized. No one wants their family’s private affairs to be commented on by others, let alone a place like the countryside where news is well communicated. If you ask about other people’s family affairs, If you have a private matter, others will definitely worry about whether it will be spread out. Not only will they not tell you, but you will also be looked down upon by others.

3. Don’t ask about fertility status: Rural people basically don’t like to be asked whether they have a partner, when they will get married, when they will have children, and how many children they will have.

There are very few only children in rural areas. Issues such as childbirth are basically embarrassing topics. If you don't want to talk to death, try not to bring up such topics.

4. Don’t ask about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a relatively sensitive topic in China. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been very complicated since ancient times. They have different ideas and concepts, and there is a generation gap in getting along. The conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have also evolved with time. It's getting more and more serious with time. Of course, I don’t want to reveal this kind of family scandal to outsiders. After all, no one wants to be laughed at.

5. Don’t ask about the condition of the elderly: Birth, old age, illness and death are human nature. No elderly people want to be discussed about their health status, whether they have any diseases, etc. Topics such as discussing elderly diseases are very serious in rural areas.

What do you think? Welcome to leave a comment below.

When you see acquaintances in the countryside, you will inevitably have to say a few words, especially if you meet a friend you haven’t seen for a long time, you will be more concerned about the recent situation. It is a good thing to care about the other person’s recent situation, but there are some topics It's better not to ask. In rural areas, people summarized five topics that they should not ask when meeting acquaintances. So what questions should not be asked?

One of the Five Don’t Asks: Don’t ask if you want to inquire about privacy. Everyone has their own privacy. Some privacy can be told to one's good friends, and some privacy can only be buried in one's own heart. After meeting a friend you haven't seen for a long time, casually inquiring into each other's privacy will not only cause discomfort to the other person, but also shorten the relationship between the two.

Five Don’t Ask Part 2: Don’t ask about the scars in the other person’s heart. Everyone has had an unpleasant experience, and some people have even been traumatized by it. With the healing of time, the trauma of the soul will slowly heal. Although asking about things that once made the other person sad is also caring for the other person, but it will cause the other person to feel sad. Thinking of that unpleasant memory.

Three of the five no-questions: Don’t ask about gossip about the other person. In rural areas, everyone has a very complex network of relationships. Even if you and your friends haven't met for a long time, you may hear about your friends' recent status from others. If it is a rumor about a good friend, you can ask about it, but if there is a rumor about the other person who is not very good, you cannot ask even if you really want to know, as it will embarrass the other person.

No. 4 of the Five Don’t Asks: Don’t ask questions about family savings. After meeting a friend whom I haven't seen for a long time, and seeing that the other person's clothes are several steps higher than before, I will have the idea of ????asking him how much his deposit is, but you really can't ask questions about deposits. Nowadays, many people People are afraid of their friends borrowing money. If they ask for their deposits rashly, the other person will feel that they want to borrow money, and they will instinctively protect themselves. Even after the other party knows that they do not want to borrow money, they will feel that your question is inappropriate. With good intentions, they may even stay away from you.

Five of the Five Don’t Asks: Don’t ask about trivial family matters. As the old saying goes, every family has its own scriptures that are difficult to recite. Whether it is a poor family or a wealthy family, there are things that make them sad. Although asking each other about family matters is also a way of caring for each other, sudden concern will make the other person appear alert, wary, or embarrassed. If the other party really has something unspeakable, they will not tell it even if you ask.

Many people will question, if you are not allowed to ask about this, and you are not allowed to ask about that, then what should you talk about when you meet acquaintances? In fact, the reason why these questions cannot be asked is because your concern may make the other party feel burdened. If the other party wants to talk to you, he will tell you even if you don't ask. The other person feels uncomfortable, what do you think?

First, men don’t care about salary.

This question is especially embarrassing to ask when a group of relatives and friends are sitting together for a drink during the Chinese New Year in rural areas. Salary itself is a hidden topic. Just say you earn more, because you are afraid that others will say you are bragging, and I'm afraid of borrowing money from you, let's just say it's less. This person who is celebrating the New Year is also afraid of losing face. If it spreads around the village, it will be embarrassing.

Second, women don’t care about their age.

Originally in rural areas, some girls got married when they were around 20 years old. However, as living conditions in rural areas get better and better, many girls have different ideas about marriage. It is easy to chat in this way. Having no friends also makes others lose face.

Three, children don’t ask about scores.

In the eyes of rural parents, if their children have good grades, they will gain face for themselves. Children who do not study well will be a shame to their parents. Therefore, in rural areas, remember not to ask your children about their scores and fraction knowledge. Representing a number does not represent how good a child is.

Fourth, married people do not care about having children.

Every family has its own difficulties. In rural areas, having children is the most important thing. So when you see this situation, don’t take the initiative to ask people why they haven’t had children after getting married. They may have I hope you understand their difficulties.

Fifth, if you are unmarried, don’t ask about your partner.

Talking about it, we will talk about these "problem youths". In fact, some of them are not without partners, but they are not ready to talk about marriage and there is no need to go home to report them.

Nowadays in rural areas, when acquaintances meet and talk, there are "five no questions". What do these "five no questions" specifically refer to?

Don’t ask about acquaintances’ family difficulties. The more acquaintances they have, the more face-saving farmers have. They don’t want their family embarrassment to be known to acquaintances, for fear of being laughed at, pitied, or pitied.

Don’t ask about family income. If you ask someone how much they earn in a year or a month, they will often be wary.

Don’t ask about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Nowadays, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the center of family conflicts. Many old people can’t stand their daughter-in-law’s food, clothing, housing and transportation, and always want to use their own ideas to change their daughter-in-law’s life attitude. Now All of my daughters-in-law are inefficient lamps.

The fourth question is marital status. In rural areas of our country, there is currently a serious problem of more men and fewer women, which makes it impossible for some people to find a wife. Sometimes, no matter how rich they are, they still can't get a wife. So when you meet, don't ask others if they are married. If they are married, it will be fine. , if it is not knotted, it will make people’s faces very shameful.

The fifth question is whether you are married and have children. Nowadays, it is very common in rural areas for newlyweds to not be in a hurry to have children. It may be the living environment or their own physical reasons that cause some newlywed rural youths to be unable to have children.

Welcome to leave a message for discussion

There is no doubt that the relationship between rural neighbors is the most enviable. Everyone in the village basically knows each other. There are many entertainment activities after dinner, especially During the Chinese New Year, rural areas are no less lively than cities, but there are also many embarrassing questions that come with it. We usually call this the "Five Don'ts", so let's find out what they are.

Rural people basically work outside all year round. Everyone knows very little about each other’s income, and income is also related to a man’s dignity, so it is best not to ask. Asking others who earn more will seem like you are showing off. If you don't make a lot of money, ask others, and others will think you want to borrow money from them.

For older girls, the biggest worries before getting married are age and beauty. After getting married, they are afraid of marrying the wrong man and having an unhappy marriage, so acquaintances should not ask about marriage issues, and about their husband’s income. , these are taboo. < /p>

An imperfect marriage is a life-long pain for a woman. Influenced by traditional thinking in rural areas, many people will attribute the responsibility to the woman and believe that divorce is unlucky.

Everyone knows that a large part of the reason for the breakdown of a friendship may be due to borrowing money. This is how the so-called borrowing money hurts feelings. No matter how good the relationship is, it cannot withstand the test of money. The best relationship between friends is It's best not to involve money.

What other reasons do you think?

The countryside is a very interesting place. The communication between people may be complex or simple. Whether they are strangers or acquaintances, there are various rules when communicating. The "Five Don'ts" when meeting acquaintances are some rules when interacting with acquaintances.

So what five questions aren’t asked?

I think this is something you need to pay special attention to when communicating with acquaintances. This is a taboo for many people. Chinese people like to keep their wealth private. Even if they know that others are rich, it is best not to inquire about others. Specific income, this can be very off-putting! No matter how good your relationship is, you won't get an accurate answer after asking. He will only tell you a vague number, and he may even be wary of you!

Every family has its own things that no outsider needs to know. Even if you learn about some embarrassing things about your acquaintances through other channels, don’t deliberately seek verification and understanding, because such things are also things about acquaintances. If you go to them to find out if you have setbacks or problems, they will think you are joking, which may cause your relationship to no longer be as good as before.

There is currently a serious problem of more boys and fewer girls in rural areas of our country, which makes it difficult for boys to get married. The high betrothal gifts make it impossible for some people to marry a daughter-in-law, sometimes even if they are rich. Still can't get a wife. This will become a pain point for some families in rural areas, especially those with many boys. If you ask someone this question, it will embarrass the person and make him feel very uncomfortable, and he will no longer be willing to chat with you.

When chatting with acquaintances, especially those acquaintances who are students. It's best not to talk to them about academic matters, including grades, etc. Many people don't like to discuss these issues. Of course, if you have good grades, you will definitely be willing to discuss them. Students often relax when chatting with acquaintances, but discussing academic performance scores will make them feel heavy again. At this time, they may not want to chat with you!

When chatting with other people, if the other person is a female, it is not recommended to talk about age issues. Women in this society love beauty, and many of them dress up very young and beautiful, giving the impression that it is impossible to tell how old they are. If you can ask others to tell their age, for some older women who love beauty, It's very annoying.

This is the "Five Don't Asks" of our rural acquaintances here. In fact, it is not just the Five Don't Asks. I think there are more. We must learn to be flexible and have different policies for different people. Coping methods.

The above is my opinion, everyone is welcome to discuss!