The road of self-growth under the coat of essential oil

Carol has a saying that this is a road to self-growth in the coat of essential oil.

For me, it is also a deep recognition.

How did it happen to me? Let me try to comb it!

I) relationship with my daughter

In the past, my daughter seemed to be my private property. I am very concerned about everything that the outside world (except me) inputs to her, and I am very nervous. I am afraid that something will go wrong and my parenting philosophy will fall short. So I guarded my daughter like a hedgehog. Raise her with what I think is a tall theory.

I don't know when I started, but I began to relax more and more. I would rather spend some time to really be her role model than stay with her and be afraid of everything.

Perhaps last April, when I attended the annual meeting in Taiwan Province Province, Emily said: I want my children to truly understand the value of dreams and know what a gentle and strong mother should look like.

So I started a business trip.

Sometimes, I take my daughter on a business trip. She will play quietly alone or with friends.

At home, I massage her with essential oil almost every day, including her stomach, back and soles of her feet. When we massage, sometimes, we whisper; Sometimes we tell jokes and play games.

We have many games based on essential oils. For example, close your eyes and smell it and guess what essential oil it is; Open the lids of several bottles of different essential oils and match the essential oil bottles by smelling the lids; Choose 2-3 kinds of essential oils for aromatherapy before going to bed every day; Also, put a sticker on the newly arrived essential oil (a big challenge for children who haven't learned to read).

Essential oil is like a real angel, guarding the baby. Especially when I'm not at home, I can also ask grandma or dad to apply essential oil to the baby every night.

She likes traveling with me very much, but she doesn't reject or resist being apart from me. She will proudly tell others that her mother is an essential oil teacher and her mother is a teacher and a leader.

Her constitution is much better, from the rhythm of illness almost every two months before to the fact that she is rarely caught in the flu season. Sometimes colds and coughs have relatively mild symptoms.

2) Relationship with mother

My mother and I have been fighting since we were children. If you spend more than one day together, you may quarrel. I don't want to admit that I am like my mother at all, but when we are together, we are really as grumpy as before. I don't remember when it started. I try to avoid any skin contact with her.

More than 80% of my original intention to embark on the road of self-growth is to smooth out the negative influence of my family background, especially my relationship with my mother. I read some books and participated in some offline workshops. However, as soon as I saw my mother, I still made great achievements as always. Sometimes, it is self-attack.

Because of essential oil, because I want to verify the effect of essential oil, I gave her facial essential oil massage, overtreatment, shoulder and neck massage and aromatherapy massage (massage back and feet). Although I still talk to my mother gruffly ... at that moment, I can naturally kiss my skin and teach her how to care for skin and how to use essential oil. And she, from time to time, told me that I was uncomfortable and asked me how to adjust with essential oil; Then, give me feedback from time to time: sleep is good, constipation is good, white hair is less, and the spots on my face are light. ...

Perhaps my relationship with my mother will never become a kind of filial piety, but we have created a brand-new experience of getting along with each other, with more mobility and warmth.

3) Relationship with husband

It is said that husband and wife are the most profound practice and home is the best Dojo.

That's true.

I felt the deepest frustration and helplessness in my husband. Open your heart and come back lost. Trapped in this cycle again and again.

I know the best solution is in myself, but male and female servants can't. ...

The cycle of independent personality formation cannot be calculated in days, or even one year or two. You have to do the homework you didn't finish in the past sooner or later.

I went through a process:

The first stage is to realize that you have a dream and have the ability to realize it, but you may lack the ability to deal with some sticking points in the relationship between men and women. So save energy, you can't afford to hide if you can't be provoked?

The second stage: you need support and help when you encounter difficulties and obstacles on the way to realize your dreams. In the process of asking for help, I didn't find resources for support and help, but I met more obstacles and difficulties. Did the house leak and it rained all night?

The third stage: seeking common ground while reserving differences.

Ha, how does essential oil work?

The direct effects are: first, you can massage each other when you are in a good mood. Second, my husband is a surgeon. When I don't understand my friend's problems, his professional knowledge can provide me with ideas. Also, doctors are also troubled by sub-health, and of course they can be my "mice" to verify the effect of essential oil.

The indirect effect is that we all learn that essential oil is a tool to express love and tolerance in times of conflict. And the founders of Dortmund, Mr. David and Mr. Wenya ... these teachers, I am proud of them and set an example for them. They have been running their families and partners with love.

4) Relationship with oneself

I am a very contradictory person, and I am harsh and casual with myself. The key problem is that I am too harsh when I am casual, and too casual when I am harsh. Without this balanced wisdom. The simplest and most direct example is the image problem. I have good facial features, but I can't dress myself up. I am hidden in the crowd, ordinary to fuzzy ... and my shoulders are getting inward, and my back doesn't seem to be straight.

Because I have more and more essential oils at hand, I began to use them slowly on myself, wiping my face, abdomen, waist, arms and soles. I began to notice where I had a mole and where there were several wrinkles. My stomach, lower abdomen and side waist always feel cold ... I really spent time on myself, paying attention to it and talking to it.

Because there are more and more lectures to be given, I began to realize that I need some beautiful and textured clothes. The first time I went to Florence, I was still scared. I tried shopping and finally bought a dress. I took a fancy to it at first sight. The deepest feeling is: I feel that I can't dress myself up, I can't choose clothes for myself, and I have no aesthetic vision.

When I put on my favorite clothes, they are beautiful, bright, energetic and textured, as if waking up the sleeping real me. This is an unrefined diamond.

I see myself differently in other people's mouths and eyes; The first time I walked out again and again, I saw a different self.

And when I know myself more clearly, I also know the people around me more clearly. Some are already radiant jewels, and more are unrefined gold jewels, which are seriously underestimated or misunderstood like me.

We are ignorant, fearful, nervous and anxious, but we encourage each other and accompany our peers. We were so lucky that we met Dortmund and were deeply moved and attracted by its culture. There is a teacher like Carol who protects, leads and spurs us with her wisdom. There are a group of silly and kind friends who love learning and pursue progress.

Navigation and lighting for each other.