What does "lesbian" mean?

The identity of lesbians in the circle is generally divided into P and T, lesbians = lesbians = lesbians; T = tomboy, "a girl like a boy"; P=T's wife, T refers to the "masculine" side of lesbians, and P refers to more feminine lesbians, who generally like to wear women's clothes and have long hair. T is a more masculine lesbian, generally likes to keep short hair and generally wears casual clothes; Whether it is between P and T or not, the appearance characteristics are generally neutral, and the role can also depend on the role of the object, which can be P or T.

However, the division of these three boundaries is not absolute. There are feminine T, tomboy-like P, and even P or T. This vague boundary is not only in appearance, but also in psychological preference. Some P may be psychologically biased towards T, so not necessarily P will love T. Similarly, some T may be psychologically biased towards P, and T may not necessarily love P, and P can also love P, T can also love T, whether it is love or not, but it can also love P or T and so on.

Everyone's choice of lover is always varied. In the lesbian circle, it is also because of different personalities, different concepts, different acceptance criteria, and different opportunities, different situations and different choices. But generally, P and T fall in love and fall in love regardless of rank.

In fact, this either-or classification is harmful, because it simplifies and distorts the complex and diverse behaviors and psychology of human beings, and of course it can't reflect the true face of lesbians in real life. Some experts suggest that love between same-sex women should not be divided into male and female roles like heterosexuality, and the distinction between P and T should not be based on the world's concepts of "husband" and "wife". It may be more appropriate to really call it "lover". This means that psychologically, two women always help each other on the basis of equality, even if they are divided due to individual differences. P, T, no matter they are women, there is no what P should be, what T should be, no matter what it should be. Just like choosing a woman to love a woman, this identity is only what you think is appropriate.