How many women have been destroyed by "carrying on the family line"?

I went shopping with my cousin the day before yesterday, and I didn't mean to talk about her aunt (sister-in-law's) at lunch. Cousin said, "I finally got my wish."

I stuffed a mouthful of food into my mouth and asked, "What's the matter, what wish?" "I finally have a son," my cousin said with emotion. "How many children are there at home now?" I asked.

"Guess?" Cousin is the suspense. "I have been away from home for several years. How do I know? Tell me quickly? " I asked impatiently.

At this time, in fact, I already have the answer in my heart. Considering that we all know how heavy the burden of children is now, no one wants to have more children. I guess there are four in my mind.

My cousin opened her eyes wide and curled her lips and said, "My son's family is five. I let others adopt a girl, and I also made two or three in the middle."

This answer really scared me: "Hey, your aunt is really hard, really bitter, mentally and physically, just to have this baby."

"That didn't also way, we have to have a son here! It is not easy to take care of children and work at the same time. When no one looks after the children, they have to show their wages for more than half a month, but now they are in the early stages. " Cousin shook her head and sighed.

At this time, I am not in the mood to eat, and my mind is full of pictures of this mother yelling at some naughty children. There are many sympathies and sighs in my heart.

Didn't the book say, "Life is not your own decision? Should children be educated in an appropriate way? Are girls passed down from generation to generation? Is the first point of a refined woman to love herself? "

The mother has a job and a secondary education, and she knows it. Then what on earth made her treat herself so cruelly?

02

There is a neighbor (Ran Ma) who is a little far from my home. This is a greeting relationship. As far as I know, there are five girls at home now.

Once we talked a few more words, that is, chatting: "You are quite capable. Although there are many children, they are all neatly dressed. Is it difficult? "

"I'm used to doing this job all day (full-time housewife), but it's making terrible progress." But mom came up and said. "You must like children very much, right?" I asked.

"I don't like it. I want a son, but it backfires." However, although my mother is smiling, she is also mixed with a little helplessness. I didn't answer the phone, but I don't know what to say at this time.

It seems that I am very wronged, but my mother said to herself, "I can't help it, but I envy you people who have classes to attend." Now I feel like a frog in a well. " But my mother-in-law said that there are never too many girls, just one boy. I think even if I pass the mother-in-law, I can't pass the husband. "

I don't say much about other people's affairs, even if it is different from my point of view. But there is still a voice in my heart: "The body is your own, why should it be dominated by others?"

Don't you have your own ideas? Can't you pass the test of family, or can't you pass the test of "it would be a pity to have no son"? "

"Don't just care about children and family. You should also pay more attention to your health. Don't keep having children. Let it go for two or three years, otherwise the body can't eat it. " I was convinced.

"Who knows when I can get through it? The clothes and shoes in the window are beautiful, and I don't want to be a woman again in my next life. " But mom's eyes flashed.

I don't know whether it's tears of grievance or anger of determination. Yes, for a woman who sacrificed her health, freedom and time in this way, the beauty in the window is really insignificant.

03

The victims of the family line are not only women, but also some baby girls. As a mother, it pains me to think of those baby girls who have been cruelly abandoned. Some of them have never even seen the world and ended their lives without opening their eyes.

I saw a news on the Internet the year before last that tens of thousands of baby girls are washed away every year, and there are pictures. Dare not look at the picture, the little embryos with blood are listed on the ground.

Whose parents are so cruel and unforgivable? Now that the second child is open, family planning is no longer restricted by the state, and the number of women who may be victimized will be halved.

In my opinion, carrying on the family line is also a kind of moral kidnapping, which is the most serious and cruel.

04

They say having a baby is like going to hell. And those women who risk their lives to have multiple abortions just to have a son, their names are on the brink of death.

Because abortion is very harmful to women's health, far greater than natural production. Women who have multiple abortions will not only have sequelae, but also have new complications and even death.

A network some time ago. The report is a scene of a rural man getting married, which was opposed by his ex-wife's family, causing conflict.

It has been confirmed that the original match of a married man just died a month ago, and in order to have a son, he had many abortions.

In order to give birth to a son early to complete the task of carrying on the family line, so that I can talk at home, I had three abortions in one year. After the third abortion, my body finally collapsed and died.

The wife's bones are not cold, and the husband actually married a new woman who can "carry on the family line" a month later.

05

Beauvoir, a French woman writer, warned everyone in her book: "Women are individuals first, then women." I admire her courage and agree with and support her point of view. Women should enjoy not only human rights but also women's rights. Live like a person, and then be like a woman.

When she was old, she said confidently and contentedly, "Looking back on my past, there was no one worthy of my envy." This is what it feels like to live the life you really want.

Women, don't limit yourself with too many rules and regulations, and don't "kidnap" yourself. Women should not regard themselves as victims of their families and accessories of men. Women should learn to take themselves seriously and let their hearts get rid of the burden.

Qi's third writing class