How many people have been hurt by "Don't wash your dirty linen in public"

This is a story told to me by a friend. Xiaolin married a man introduced by her mother through a matchmaker, saying that his family background is good, his parents are honest and his young man is hardworking. The two families are not far apart, and they really get along after half a year of marriage. Later, Xiaolin became pregnant, and her husband began to be particularly happy. He really treated her like a queen. In the second trimester, he began to work overtime, but he would call back in advance. Later, he simply stopped playing and went back. I don't go home to sleep for a day or two occasionally. Xiaolin told him well that he explained that there were many things in the company, and the phone was pressed, explaining that there was no electricity. Once, Kobayashi went to his company with a big belly at night, and no one answered the phone. Until the next morning, the two had a quarrel. The man blamed her for embarrassing him in the company, but didn't ask her why she came early in the morning.

Xiao Lin simply packed up and went back to her parents' house. She discussed with her parents that she wanted a divorce and aborted the child. Her parents are very opposed.

: "Divorce is the second marriage. There are few divorced people here and they can't afford to lose this face. "

: "Life is like this. It will be fine when the baby is born. That's what men do. Don't wash your dirty clothes in public. "

: "Can you find someone like him in the future?"

: "The two are not far away. How can I get married in the future? "

Later, Kobayashi's parents sent her back to her husband's family the next day, and her husband made a statement to the four old people, and he would definitely treat Kobayashi well.

Actually, it's not. It's just worse. Xiao Lin endured all the pains in his stomach. Her parents can't say anything about it, and neither can her best friend. Finally, she simply left him alone and couldn't contact her husband that night. Maybe she was in a bad mood during pregnancy and had a little dystocia. The midwife has been teaching Kobayashi the method, but she doesn't cooperate very well, subconsciously. Maybe she was a little loveless at that moment, maybe she envied her maternal husband next to her.

Her parents turned white overnight and saw the diary in Xiaolin's mobile phone, only to find out how miserable her daughter was. Her parents especially regret it. If they had not considered face first, but whether their daughter was happy, perhaps such a tragedy would not have happened. Her mother and relatives said, "If I have another chance, I will agree with her, I will divorce her, and I will let her have an abortion. We are not around when she is most vulnerable and needs the care of her loved ones. "

In today's society, there are still many parents who use traditional and backward concepts to restrain their children. In the face of their children's marital misfortune, even their physical and mental misfortune, they are not considerate and unsympathetic, but in the name of "Don't wash your dirty linen in public", they are advised to be patient, knock out their teeth and swallow it in their stomachs, all because in their view, wash your dirty linen in public.

Back to my mother when they were girls, a girl fell in love with the educated youth who came to them and got pregnant, but the young man wanted to go back to the city and promised to settle down and marry her. But in those days, having children out of wedlock was tantamount to committing a heinous crime and unforgivable. The girl's family called her shameless, but she couldn't tell anyone. But at that time, everyone had to go out to work, so they tied their stomachs tightly with ropes and wore wide-body clothes. Earn work points as usual every day During labor, her mother delivered the baby, blocked her mouth with a towel, strangled and buried the baby after giving birth. After many years, the girl never got married and died of depression.

What are dirty clothes? Unfortunately, marriage is neither dirty clothes nor dirty clothes. Parents who ignore their children's pain are more concerned about their own face or so-called dignity. This is the real domestic scandal.

Xiaojin, my junior high school classmate, met a love rat according to her own statement: she didn't make progress after marriage, and often asked netizens to meet and get a room, so she could change ten jobs a year. Once, Xiaojin left me a message on qq: "One day she went back to her mother's house to see her mother. Her mother said that she met her former factory colleagues at a market, and it happened that their daughters grew up together. Xiaojin immediately asked her mother, the girl who grew up. Xiaojin made a tearful expression. She said, "I don't steal or rob. My job is to make money and be filial to my parents. I just got divorced, so I'm worthless. "

Some families have "older leftover women", and parents think it's a "dirty laundry". What's so ugly about this? They always think that everything should be the same as other people's homes, which is normal. There are also some excellent girls around me who are single and have the ability to get married. Lack is better than abuse, and marriage is no joke. If you hold hands all your life, what's the harm?

I pay attention to the headlines and urban news every day, and always see many young girls being molested or raped by their biological fathers or stepfathers, while the mother who should have protected her daughter's rights and dignity chose to escape.

When a reporter or policeman asks his mother, although the wording is different, the point he can express is "Don't wash your dirty linen in public".

The news of Wang's divorce became a daily headline and hot topic during that period. At that time, I saw some comments saying, "This is a family matter, not a good thing. My wife's cheating agent, such a big green hat, Wang took it out and said, isn't it a joke? "

In fact, I think in a sense, he is defending his legitimate rights and interests, because his incident involves cheating on marriage and transferring property. The exposure of his incident feels like a lesson to us people who eat melons.

No matter what "dirty clothes", such as drinking water, knowing yourself and yourself, some misfortunes, ending early, your happiness is much more important than some face.