My boyfriend borrowed 200 thousand to prepare the bride price, and my girlfriend was pregnant for five months. My boyfriend asked me to return the bride price. what do you think?

My girlfriend is pregnant for five months, but my boyfriend refuses to get married. Boyfriend: If you want to get married, give me back the bride price.

As the saying goes, children are the bond between husband and wife. Many families will not choose to separate even if the husband and wife quarrel until the Cold War, just to give their children a "family of origin". Nowadays, people are more open-minded, so cohabitation before marriage or pregnancy before marriage can be found everywhere. Jinhua native Luo Xiao and her boyfriend Ma Xiao have been in love for more than a year. Both of them are not old, but they have been together since they met through friends. Luo Xiao was pregnant before the wedding. The elders of both sides still attached great importance to the child, so they decided to consider their marriage problems, but they fell out because of the bride price.

Just got engaged and hit his pregnant girlfriend.

Luo Xiao: After we met, we thought this guy was nice at first. He drives me to and from work every day, so we just want to fall in love. As a result, our parents asked us to get married as soon as possible because we were pregnant unexpectedly. Nothing happened on the engagement day, so he hit me and kicked me in the stomach. It was okay when we were together, but when we got familiar with it, we began to manage wages. I work in a factory, and all the money I earn goes to my mother, so she never lets me give it to him.

Although a girl is going to get married, it is really necessary for both husband and wife to jointly manage the fund. In fact, in Bian Xiao's eyes, I still don't agree to give all this to my mother. However, there is no room for discussion about Pony kicking his pregnant girlfriend. There is no reason to hit people, and it is not allowed by law. But Pony said that the contradiction between the two people is not because of this month's salary, but because the loan is unable to repay, and then the bride price money.

I can't repay the bride price with a loan.

Pony: Actually, the quarrel we had two months ago was trivial, not the source at all, and I didn't hit her in the stomach. When I was ready to get married, my family had no money, so I borrowed 200 thousand. We didn't discuss the bride price, so we let them watch. As a result, they took a bride price of 88 thousand. Now I have to repay the loan of 2000 yuan every month, and I can't afford to pay it back. After our quarrel, she asked the form to take her back to her parents' house, which is why the quarrel started.

Hearing this, Luo Xiao's sister-in-law stood up and scolded the mediator. Luo Xiao's sister-in-law was very distressed by her sister, so she took out some screenshots of the chat records and said, "These chat records belong to him and my sister. It's clearly written that I have no money to support after giving birth. Get rid of them! He just wants my sister to have an abortion. Do you think this is what people say? " Not only that, Luo Xiao's father also said that Ma Xiao once went home and broke a window. Because of this incident, Luo Xiao's father was laughed at by former villagers, saying that his son-in-law seldom came to smash windows.

If you want to get married, return the bride price.

Pony: Actually, all I said was angry words. I didn't mean to abort the baby. At that time, after we quarreled, our girlfriend was picked up by our family. I want to make these things clear, so I want to find her. But when I got to her hometown, I found that there were many people in her family. I'm afraid I won't go in and break the window. I have explained it to the police and reinstalled the windows. I'm under a lot of pressure now. Of course I care about my girlfriend and children, but the loan is really difficult to pay back.

The young man pony always said that he had no money. In fact, Pony used to be a decorator, but it can be seen that he is a self-motivated person and often doesn't go to work. He has no money to repay the loan and he doesn't want to go to work. He explained it this way: "Now many factories are closed, and our work is too tired. We have to rest for several days at the end of the day. I am thinking now, can my father-in-law change the bride price money, help me solve my urgent need, and let me pay all the other money to get married! "

Wife and children should be raised by themselves

Mediator: You don't want to find a job. Where is there no job? I'm lazy and don't want to do it! It is also a rule to give bride price money when getting married. As a man, you can't ask your elders for it! Be responsible for your children and your wife and earn money to support them. If the father-in-law wants to help, he can lend them some for the time being, which is also a favor for his daughter. How does your child miscarry? As a man, this is the most basic sense of responsibility!

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In fact, it is not a big mistake for two people to get pregnant before marriage. Since they have such deep feelings that they can keep a child, they should get married quickly and work together for the family. Pony is a completely self-motivated and lazy person. Such a man is actually extremely immature. But since the two decided to go on, they should work together and not rely on their parents' help. Women are always in a bad mood when they are pregnant, so men should be generous and tolerant of the little emotions of pregnant women. After all, it is really difficult to have children!