My vicious grandma

I don’t want to call that cruel and vicious woman grandma, it’s because of her that I have a deep-rooted misunderstanding of the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren! I also don’t understand the feelings between the people around me and my grandmother!

? I don’t say that out of thin air.

? The first time I experienced the feeling of being looked down upon was by the person I called my grandma.

? I was seven years old that year. The whole family, including my family, my uncle’s family, my eldest uncle’s family and my grandparents, were all cutting leeks in the field. The land must not have been divided at that time. , working seems to be done together.

After working for a long time, a neighbor from the village came to spread the news, saying that a man from out of town was looking for my father. The man was a man, and the locals couldn’t understand what he said. He had been asking about my home, but he couldn’t seem to explain clearly. My father's name, after scratching my head, I said my mother's name. My mother's name is Xia, which is easy to remember and say. When my parents heard about it, they stopped working, told my grandparents, gave me a few instructions and hurried back.

We continued to cut leeks, and everyone was guessing who was looking for my parents? What's going on? After a while, my grandma said something weird: "If a man doesn't call someone by his name, it doesn't matter if he calls a woman by her name!" Say something! Although I am young, only seven years old, a child in the countryside has already been in charge of the family. At the age of seven, I can already cook and go to the fields to cut grass and leeks. Naturally, I can understand the meaning behind her words! Seeing her insulting and wronging my mother, I was so angry that I threw down the sickle, stood up, and said to her: "You are talking nonsense! That person couldn't pronounce my father's name, so he called my mother's name!"< /p>

? As a result, she raised her hand and slapped me hard on the face! My face was burning with pain, and tears fell down my face. I raised my head to look at her, and she saw a look of deep disdain on her face. She squinted her eyes and scolded me sternly: "Little pussy girl, I asked you to teach me a lesson!"

? After being wronged and beaten, I burst into tears! There were a lot of people in the field, and no one stopped me! No one said a word for me! No one comforted me!

? I ran out of the field crying and ran towards the intersection home, wiping my tears along the way. At that time, I was thinking, why was I treated like this? Why are the children of uncles and uncles never beaten? Why does she dislike me so much? Why would you slap me without hesitation? Thinking of her eyes and expression at that time, I understood that she didn't like me and looked down on me!

? I ran home crying. It turned out to be a friend that my father met when he was working in other places. He passed by our village and wanted to see my father. After hearing what I told me, my father scolded me and scolded me for being ignorant. At first, he felt that I had lost his people by crying in front of outsiders! Secondly, he is foolish and filial. He listens to his mother in everything and never lets anyone say anything wrong to his mother! Mother is naturally even more angry and aggrieved! He was angry that his mother-in-law said this to him, that he was aggrieved by his father's attitude, and that he could not seek justice for his daughter! Seeing my crying face, I felt very distressed. I gritted my teeth, took out two cents from my pocket and handed it to me, asking me to buy something delicious.

At that time, two cents was worth more than two dollars now! I'm young and easy to coax. Just two cents will stop me from crying! By the way, at that time, the mother-in-law was a powerful being at home and could bully her daughter-in-law at will!

? But the beating that time made me completely cold towards her! I know she has always looked down on my mother! Don't like my dad! I hate us sisters even more! I also have a sister who is one year younger than me.

? My mother had a fever when she was a child, which burned the nerves in her left leg, resulting in underdevelopment of her left leg. Although she could walk, she was disabled! That’s why I married my old and poor father.

? It’s because of my mother’s disability that my grandma doesn’t like my mother and looks down on her! Later, my mother gave birth to two girls in succession, which made her look down on her even more! Because my mother's family is far away, my mother is young, and my father obeys her every word, so she is not very cruel in bullying my mother! Calling my mother a loser will only give birth to cheap and money-losing products!

Although my mother has a disabled leg, she is tall, has a good-looking face, is hard-working, has a strong temper, and does not want to lose to others! When my natal family is far away, I think that my mother-in-law is my biological mother. If I please her and treat her well, she will treat me like my own child and have someone to rely on!

So, Mom always thought about grandma and baked the chive pancakes herself. She asked me to deliver the first few to my grandparents before letting us eat them. She bought a few pieces of tofu and hurriedly gave them to grandpa. Grandma sends a few pieces over; when she buys watermelons, she also gives one or two to her grandparents first; when she buys tomatoes, she also gives half of them to her grandparents; when she buys apples from grandma’s house, she picks out three large and good ones. , sent to grandparents, eldest uncle's house and uncle's house, picked out a few good ones for use, and finally left the small and rotten ones for us to eat!

? Mom thinks that grandma will feel better about her! But I think she is quite stupid!

? Otherwise, why would my grandma come back from the market and meet my uncle’s brother on the street? The sister who came out of my friend's house was stunned for a moment and looked around. Many people were watching, so she called my sister over and gave her three small ones, which were wrinkled and dirty. The one with a few coins on it was The size of a rotten peach. When my mother saw it, she was so angry that she cried and scolded my sister for having no eyesight! Throw away the peaches that those three grandmas generously rewarded!

? Otherwise, why would my grandma be so happy when two aunts went back to their parents’ home to visit relatives? He ordered my father to go to town to cut the meat, and ordered my mother, who was several months pregnant, to make noodles. She wanted to make dumplings. However, unfortunately, my grandpa and grandma missed their daughter and drove a carriage for more than thirty miles to see my mother. My grandpa sat for a while and saw that there were so many people in the house. There was no room and no food. I didn’t eat, I didn’t even drink. I said a few words to my mother and then went back. After sending my grandma and grandpa away, my loving grandma opened the street door and shouted to my dad with a relieved and happy expression: "Little (son), chop the meat and make dumplings!" My mother shed tears of grievance. She could only do this. She didn't dare to say anything. My grandma and grandpa didn't even drink a sip of water! He even brought something with him!

? Otherwise, why didn’t my third uncle let my mother show up when she got married? Because he disliked my mother’s disabled legs and felt that my mother was embarrassed! So the day before my third uncle’s wedding, my grandma specifically told my father to ask my mother to stay with the two girls at our house that day and not to go there, they are all human beings!

? Otherwise, why would grandma say to my sister and me among the many grandchildren when relatives came over to cook? "Go back to your house for dinner! Your mother shouted Where are you two?" Even though we wanted to play with our brothers and sisters for a while, we were sent home after we asked not to eat!

? Otherwise, why, one time you and dad watered the fields and didn't come back until almost ten o'clock in the evening.

We two sisters were afraid of the dark and didn't dare to stay at home, so we went to my grandma's place. As a result, they kicked us home during dinner. We said we were afraid, and she yelled and scolded us, saying there was nothing to be afraid of and it was nothing! When we got home, we didn't dare to enter the house. The house was dark, like an evil ghost with a big mouth and two staring eyes! The two of us were in the yard, I hugged the dog, and my sister hugged the sheep, and fell asleep hungry!

? Otherwise, why, when you were checking family planning in the village, your legs were inconvenient and you couldn't raise two children by yourself. You wanted your grandma to help take care of one, but you took the other to hide somewhere else. , after calling for a long time, the person came to open the door reluctantly, without even looking at us, and sat back in the room to eat. When I was young, I couldn't read people's faces and kept saying things in my mouth. When I asked my grandma to shake someone's arm, I was pushed to the ground by someone's elbow?

? Otherwise, why would you complain to your father that every year on August 16th, your aunts visit relatives to get mooncakes and never eat them? When my uncle’s younger brother can eat them, my father probably thinks it’s unfair. He said to us: "Let's go, I will lead you there!", but when we got there, dad just said a few words to grandma and aunts, didn't even mention the mooncakes, and came back in despair?

? Otherwise, why once, when my aunt came to visit relatives, I ran to my grandma’s house where I lived with my third uncle. At that time, my third aunt had not long been married, and grandma was taking care of her. When you came over, grandma was holding three tomatoes in one hand and a few eggs in the other hand to make egg soup. I said to you: "Mom, I want to eat tomatoes." Normally, I wouldn't If you dare to ask for it, you are here, so I dare to ask for it. But I embarrassed you! After I finished shouting, grandma didn’t say a word! Auntie is silent! My aunt didn’t say a word either! You couldn't keep it off your face and said to me: "We have some at home, go home and eat them!", I cried! I want to eat it! You are furious! Just hit me, kick me! From the top of the stage to the bottom of the stage, no one said a word to persuade, and no one reached out to stop him! You dragged me home, crying, and on the way you hugged me and cried, asking me if it hurt! In fact, when you heard that your aunt was coming that day, you put half of the newly bought tomatoes in a dustpan and gave them to them. Halfway through, your neighbor told you that grandma bought a lot of tomatoes. You thought there was no need to give them away. , just put it at the neighbor's door and pick me up. The result was like that. From then on, when my aunt comes again, I will never take the initiative to play again!

? Otherwise, why would grandma know that the third aunt is annoying her, and she would instigate grandpa to take out the child and give it to her to look after. And if you have something to do, ask her to look after your brother. In order to go to other temples to offer incense, she sent your brother to school and gave it to me. I was afraid of being discovered by the teacher, so I made my brother hide under the desk, fearing that he would cry and make a sound. , I gave him my homework book and let him tear it up and play with it. In the end, the teacher found out and scolded me!

? Otherwise, why would grandma accidentally bump into her uncle’s younger brother? She would be afraid of the younger brother’s pain, so she would humiliate him and coax him softly.

She once used a big bamboo broom to sweep the floor in the house. The handle of the broom hit my head. My skin was immediately broken and there were a lot of bloodshot eyes. I was in great pain, but I didn't dare to cry. But she took one look at me and scolded me fiercely. I don't have eyesight, so I stand in random places!

? Mom, you are so stupid! But, I don't want to be as stupid as you!

? Grandma doesn’t like me. Ever since she slapped me, I decided not to like her! It doesn't matter, I won't get close to her. She unjustly accused me of making noise, and I can't bear it anymore! She bullies you, I will help you reason with her and dad!

? In fact, the contempt and contempt from my hateful grandma caused a lot of damage to my young heart! It makes me deeply inferior! It makes me feel like I am redundant and not needed! It makes me feel inferior! Makes me feel like life is meaningless!

? Thanks to years of study and the enlightenment of this book, I slowly adjusted! I am very grateful that I withstood the pressure to go to school no matter what!

? However, I will always hate my grandma’s words: “Why should a girl go to school? Go out to work as soon as possible! If you get married, you will lose money!”

? What’s wrong with me being a girl? I don’t think I’m losing money! In the whole family for so many years, I am the only one who has been admitted to college! I have just started working, and my monthly salary in Beijing is 8,000! I'm proud of myself!

? I have grown up! Be independent! That vicious woman is getting old too! I didn't want to mention these past events!

? But when my third uncle’s younger brother got married, I refused to sit at the same table as my grandma. I couldn’t eat in front of her face. I didn't say anything more, so I just went to the table where a few of my aunts were sitting. As a result, my aunt was not happy! On the fourth day of the Lunar New Year, she and her son and daughter-in-law came to visit relatives. This year, it was our family's turn to receive them. I served them well with wine and food, provided melon seeds and drinks at any time, and also talked with them. As a result, after having a good meal and wine, she and her The two sons satirized me in unison: "There are some people! It doesn't matter how nice they are to her. They are ungrateful white-eyed wolves!" Then they said that it was not easy for my grandma and she had to suffer so much to raise her children. Her hard work is so rewarding!

? She thought I was a junior and didn’t dare to say anything! but! Who am I! I am a rebel who will go to college despite the pressure of everyone and even if I refuse to listen to anyone who advises me or scolds me! Elders should be respected, but you should also act like an elder, so that you deserve respect from others! Since you don't act like an elder and accuse me indiscriminately, there is no need for me to wrong myself! joke! When that vicious woman bullied my mother and our sisters, did any of you say anything fair? Now I just don’t want to eat at the same table with her, so you can’t stand it! Is there any justice left!

? I also opened my mouth and said back: "This man! No one is stupid. Whoever tells her or treats her badly has a clear mind! People who treat others well will be rewarded by others. It’s good to go back! If someone treats others badly, it’s good if they ignore her and don’t go to her!”

My aunt came back immediately and said that her mother-in-law was also treating her badly. If you don't, I'll take care of her until she dies! People’s five fingers are all different lengths, so someone will always have to suffer!

? I am so happy! There is such a fallacy! I replied to her: "It is parents who raise their children. Children should respect their parents and take care of their elders. However, the daughter-in-law is brought up by her parents. She does not come to your house to suffer! You have not raised her family. If it weren't for the middle This son, they are strangers! If you bullied others when you were young, why should they support you in your old age? It's good enough that a person's suffering should not be a reason for her to do evil! Righteousness!"

? She continued to talk about how great my grandma is!

? I asked her: "Why do we have to treat them unfairly! We are all our own children, shouldn't we treat them equally? Don't say that a bowl of water is flat, just don't be so biased?" ”

? She said with a cold face: “That’s all housework!”

? I said, “Then someone deserves to be wronged? ”

? She nodded.

? Then I said: "In that case, let the longer ones among the five fingers do more work! Don't blame the short ones for not working hard!", I paused. After a pause, he stood up and said: "Since ancient times, people's hearts have changed people's hearts. Everyone has a steelyard in their hearts! Wood is wood, no matter how hard you apply gold powder, it can't turn into gold bars!" After saying that, I went out and found myself in this room. Just stay! I don’t want to accompany you anymore!

? That day, I didn’t see her off when she left! That's when I understood! The so-called relatives must not only be related by blood, but also be maintained by family ties! It also depends on fate! Forget it about relatives like my aunt! Keeping it will only cause more trouble!

? Although my grandma is old, her attitude has not changed! The two of us met on the road and neither of us spoke. People are still tough! The three of us agreed to give her five pounds of oil and two pounds of meat at the end of each year. Everyone at home had something to do, and I had no choice but to go and deliver it. When I delivered it, they ignored me. I put down my things and left the house, while she collected her things and closed the door. No one said a word the whole time!

? When our big family got together during the Chinese New Year, I tactfully mentioned my grandma’s inappropriate behavior, but the elders scolded me: “She is old, don’t worry about her, she is healthy. It’s the blessing of children and grandchildren! Don’t worry about the girl’s family, she will be an outsider sooner or later!”

Okay! I shut up! When people get old, they can rely on their old age to sell their old age! The young man deserves to be so angry! When you were bullied when you were young, you had no way to complain. When you get older and you don't like what you want, someone will seek justice!

? Whenever someone says my cheekbones look like my grandma’s! I couldn't help but want to yell! Killing people can only be done with a nod of the head, but there is no such thing as bullying! I feel deeply ashamed that I have a fraction of her genes in my body! If possible, I hope I have nothing to do with her!

? Because of my aunt's incident, many years of past events have been brought to mind. I have been wronged and have no place to express my feelings. I can only write it down so that everyone can see that there are people who understand me, and I feel sorry for myself in my heart. It will be more comfortable!

? Writing is also a way to vent, right?

? As for my vicious grandma, we should control her as we should, just like my uncle and uncle's family! But that’s all! Not one more!

? What I can do is, I can stop hating her and liberate myself. But never forgive! Otherwise, I'm sorry for the slap I received many years ago!

? People! The heart is made of flesh, why are some people so vicious? I don’t understand!

I don’t think about it anymore, I just hope that I will always remain kind!

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