How to improve your own pattern?

Settle accounts first, and take the so-called social phenomenon "who doesn't settle accounts" to reduce their own pattern. Failure is a kind of happiness. It is simple. If it falls on yourself, it won't work.

We joined a team because of 1+ 1 > 2, and if we want to 1+ 1 > 2, we must pay more than we get in stages, and this excess pay is the reward of others in the team. If you keep your own 1 first, you won't generate additional value due to superposition and synergy, and finally no one will get more than 1. It is common sense to give first and then reap. Always believe that you are the biggest beneficiary.

2. It's too urgent

Many colleagues and friends around me have worked hard, actively seized opportunities, worked hard and achieved good results. They got a lot of affirmation and some rewards and became role models for others.

After working for 3-5 years, I feel that my ability is good and my youth is fleeting. Compared with the best students in my class, I am a little impatient. A watched pot never boils. You often know that if you stick to it, the opportunity will come, and you may be able to directly change from Alto to Audi. However, if you are impetuous, you may not see that far, or even change to Pu Sang in anger. Success is a small probability accident, and a good hunter always chooses an ambush point and keeps enough patience; Young Hunters reminds me of the story of kittens fishing in primary school textbooks.

3. Don't be wronged

Blx is also fatal. The workplace is full of adults. Some students do a good job, but they are just too fragile, too sensitive and too proud.

There are countless such examples, such as leaving in one breath; I found that my colleagues who are similar to me have higher wages than themselves and can't sleep well at night; Equal pay for equal work is necessary; What should I do if I don't get the recognition and reward I deserve? In this world, unfairness is absolute and fairness is relative. As long as you are confident and strong inside, always remember why you set out.

I don't know what I want.

Knowing what you want and why you set out is the first step to mental maturity. In this process, we must constantly cultivate ourselves. It is normal to accept the blame and upgrade, and realize that life lies in tossing. Your so-called success is actually your own experience and has little to do with others.

Can I do that? Can't do it. So, this is life. We should accept our imperfections and remain in awe of the efforts of others.

Maybe what you want is not a promotion and a raise.