Why can't some men accept that women lose their spouses before getting married?

Because many people still have feelings for their ex-husbands or ex-wives after being widowed, in fact, if they find another half in the future, they still can't let go of their former people and can't be so kind to the new half wholeheartedly, so everyone cares very much.

First, superstition. Marriage is not only a problem of two people, but also a problem of two families, so when talking about marriage, parents will consider each other's personal and family factors. For some widowed spouses, people will be prejudiced against them, and many elderly people will think that their life is too hard, leading to the end of the other spouse's life. So many old people don't want their children to find such a partner. They are afraid that their children will be hurt, so they will be more concerned about widowed people and will not allow them to enter the family. But this is just a superstition, because people's birth and death are determined by the environment and what they eat, and have nothing to do with the other half. So this statement is not true, but the prejudice left by some old people's traditional ideas.

Second, I still think about others. If couples divorce because of contradictions, they may not have the idea of remarriage and will not forgive each other. However, if the ex-husband died of illness or died in the early stage, there will always be a pain in their hearts and they will always think of themselves. So they may not be able to integrate into a new family wholeheartedly. Even if two people get married again, they will still have the former person in their hearts and regard their new object as the shadow of the former person.

Each of us wants to be the only one of our other half and take each other's life away, but for these widowed people, we can't completely heal the pain in their hearts, so many people don't want to find such a other half. They are also afraid of getting hurt and quarreling over their dead ex-husbands or ex-wives.