Be a man of pattern.

There is a good saying: the pattern determines fate. The bigger a person's pattern, the broader the road of life; The smaller the pattern, the narrower the road ahead. People with big patterns are broad-minded and generous, and never care about personal gains and losses. Such people have good relations everywhere and often do things satisfactorily. Narrow-minded people, narrow-minded, always like to haggle over every ounce, can not hold a word, a small matter will be entangled for a long time. Such people are difficult to get along with others and will screw up a lot of things.

People with small patterns, if they want to make their own destiny better, must strive to make their own patterns bigger. When your pattern becomes large enough, your life will be beautiful enough. The following four signs show that your pattern is getting bigger and bigger. If you take them all, congratulations, which means that your future life will be smoother and smoother.

First, start to learn to let go of things that have been entangled.

If the person you like can't get it, hate it; If you can't have what you like, you will always be distressed; Winning or losing in business can never be forgotten; The trivial things in life are repeatedly pondered in your mind ... all these show that your pattern is not big enough. Because the pattern is too small, we can't see through it, we can't let it go, we can't let it go.

If at this time, you can face the things you have been struggling with in the past with a natural attitude. If you can really afford it and let it go, it means that your pattern is getting bigger and bigger.

If you can't let go, it will only become your burden, and your burden will only stop you from moving forward; Only by putting down what should be put down can we go into battle lightly and walk more and more easily in our later life.

Second, I no longer care about personal gains and losses.

People with small patterns always like to get it, but they can't face the loss. If you get it, you will be happy for a long time. If you lose a little bit, you will feel distressed for a lifetime, but if you don't know, you will get it.

Whether you are a relative or a friend, if you just want to take it and never give it, then in the end, I'm afraid no one wants to associate with you again. For your business partner, if you just want to put money in your pocket and never consider each other, you can't win. Too much care about personal gains and losses will make you lose more.

If your selfishness is not as big as before and you learn to pay more for others, it means that your pattern is getting bigger and bigger, and you will gain more.

Third, for those who are stronger than themselves, they become no longer jealous.

People with small patterns often cannot accept that others are better than themselves. I know I can't compare with others in a certain respect, but I just refuse to face the truth and refuse to be persuaded by it. Seeing that other people's lives are better than yours, you really can't say a blessing; Seeing that others have achieved better results in their work, I can't say my heartfelt congratulations. Anyway, they are jealous and even hostile. If you can't admit the Excellence of others, you can't see your own shortcomings clearly, you can only get worse and worse, and you can only be jealous all the time.

If you can truly face what others are better than you, stop being jealous and learn from others with an open mind, it shows that your pattern is getting bigger and bigger. Most importantly, only in this way can you make progress and become better.

Fourth, I won't be angry about some unimportant things.

A small pattern of people, an unintentional joke, may annoy him; Small things as big as sesame seeds and mung beans may make him bear a grudge. Moreover, such people only like to listen to praise and can't hear any opposition. If you criticize him, he will feel very unhappy. In short, I am very emotional and easily angry.

If you are upset at home, your family may spoil you; However, if you are always in a mood outside, you will lose. The pattern is too small to accommodate people and things, and it is easy to offend some important people; It's easy to screw up important things.

If you stop being angry when facing some unimportant things, it means that your pattern has become bigger, so that you can have good interpersonal relationships and accomplish more things.

Sometimes, your fate depends entirely on the size of your pattern. If you want to have a beautiful world, you must first enlarge your own pattern and then put the world in. What kind of pattern will accommodate what kind of life; Bake a cake as big as a pot.