High-quality singles are far better than low-quality marriages. Can you understand this sentence?

I once met such a pair of sisters. My sister got married early, had a husband and children, had a stable career, healthy children and a mature husband. It seems that everything is what women want most.

My sister was never married or even in love until she was nearly 40 years old.

These two diametrically opposite situations, anyone who looks at them will envy her sister's situation, but pity her sister's experience.

However, as parties, their feelings are just the opposite. My sister envies her sister's life. My husband was introduced by my parents and has a mature personality. However, there is a lot of male chauvinism. Healthy children also mean that they are naughty and need to be distracted by their families all the time. They never have their own time. Life is simple and ordinary, and it also represents mediocrity.

Once, she had many dreams that she wanted to realize, but she got married before the opportunity came. She thought about doing it after marriage, but she got pregnant unexpectedly and had to put it off again and again. Now, I think it is too late.

Seeing that my family always compares me with my sister, it seems that I am not as good as my sister anywhere. Instead, I lived my dream, traveling in Tibet, hiking in Qinghai, spending my holiday in Hainan in winter and eating shrimp in Qingdao in autumn. There is always a lot of time, and one trip after another.

Sister thought, where is my sister inferior to me? The only difference is that she has no marriage that she will never let go of.

Mavis Fan, 43, has been in love with her boyfriend for 16 years, and never wanted to get married. She said that she was unmarried, but not getting married doesn't mean that she doesn't want love. It is human nature that some people talk, some people keep warm and some people share. However, the future of this relationship does not necessarily lead to marriage.

As Mavis Fan himself said, "I can live without marriage and children, but I can't live without love."

And I also use practical actions to prove my point. Live high is simple but what I want. Meaningless gossip and gossip are simple but extraordinary.

Bian said in Broken Chapters: "You stand on the bridge and watch the scenery. The scenery watcher is watching you upstairs. The bright moon decorates your window, and you decorate other people's dreams. "

Maybe you will feel sorry for being single and lonely, but now there are a lot of people who envy you, just like my sister envies her from the heart.

So will my sister be lonely all her life? No, once I heard my sister kiss and say, "I won't be like this all the time." I will actively accept the arrival of the other half, but he must be what I like and make me feel comfortable. " Even if I don't meet in the end, I won't feel sorry. After all, I have myself, I have books, I have parents and sisters, and I have a dear nephew. Maybe everything will disappear in the end, so I still have loneliness to be my partner, bring me my shadow, and let the three of us. "

In life, the greatest happiness is not to force or refuse. For love and marriage, I am lucky and have to die. For a short life, high-quality singles are far higher than low-quality marriages.

Earlier, a reader Xiao Yu sent a private letter about her 34-year-old unmarried cousin's view on marriage.

Cousin Xiaoyu is beautiful, has a good job and good health, but she is not interested in marriage. Even if her parents threaten to seduce her, she is determined to be single.

Xiaoyu also privately asked her cousin what she thought.

My cousin said, "My world is unknown to others, and most of them can't fit in. I don't want to grovel into other people's world, so I don't want to walk into that besieged city. I like my present life and am free. "

Xiao Yu said, "If you don't get married for a long time, others will say that you are mentally and physically ill. Besides, what should you do when you are old? "

My cousin smiled and replied: "My own world, why should I care about other people's ideas?" I am single by strength, and I am proud. I have the ability to support my parents and myself. That's enough. "

Old and lonely? When I was young, I didn't cherish time and did what I wanted to do. Everything is for the sake of old age. So what are these decades now, doing everything too much for the sake of old age? I cherish the present more than I am old. "

Therefore, Xiaoyu admires her cousin's opinion and courage. She lives her own life, not her wife or mother. You are yourself when you are alive, and you live for yourself most of the time.

Xiaoyu expressed envy, but she didn't have the courage. She said that she is a secular person. Even though her marriage is in constant conflict and her quality is not high, she is too concerned about her carefree mouth to give up the fetters of the secular world, so she is doomed to be unable to be as free and easy as her cousin.

Admittedly, I remember Schopenhauer saying, "The biggest weakness of human nature is to care too much about other people's eyes."

And few people can escape this shackles.

In fact, the quality of single and marriage is a personal idea. If it is worth it, the quality is high, otherwise, the quality is low.

Those women who envy being single are actually more or less stuck in marriage, living a low-quality marriage, but there is nothing they can do.

Then, instead of getting married inexplicably, it is better to be alone, keep your own pace, adhere to high-quality singles, and avoid perennial troubles.

After all, life is short, life is full, and inner strength is your own happiness.