Why I choose not to get married —— An open letter from an older woman to Professor Hatsune Hatsune.

? Qi Yuan said that Chu Yin said that marriage is the most ideal choice for most people, because 55-year-old needs to be taken care of, which was unanimously vomited by Ma Dong and fans. What Ma Dong defends is freedom of choice, and don't kidnap the minority's right to choose because of the situation of the majority. Chu Yin is talking about his understanding of life. You have the right not to get married, but you have to bear the dilemma of No Country for Old Men behind the choice.

? Is Chu Yin wrong? Yes, but the words "most people" and "ideal" with a sense of superiority have deeply hurt ordinary people struggling in floating world and floating city. From the standpoint of a professor preaching and teaching, and from the perspective of the upper level of the social pyramid, his understanding of marriage is only an optimal choice. For travelers living in rented houses, marriage is the hardest promise to say, and being single is the last protective film for dreams and self-esteem.

? Who doesn't dream of going to the world with a sword and seeing the prosperity of the world? I want to have a place to sleep and eat, but I can't even get a down payment. The answer is a girl from a small county in northern Jiangsu. Her parents didn't catch up with the dividend of reform and opening up, and they worked in factories with low wages. However, my family is poor and I can't get the care of my parents. Although I am not materially rich, I have never been short of clothes and food. So I went to an ordinary university and found a decent bank job in a big city. For me who just graduated, in the envy of everyone, I seem to feel that my life is smooth sailing.

? But what you didn't want to know before, what you don't know, life will always be taught slowly. The book is "what are bells and drums, delicacies and treasures?" But the reality is that you have to count how much you spend and how many cards you take every month to buy the cheapest instant noodles until the end of the month; What I learned in the book is "poetry and wine take advantage of the time". The reality is how many nights I smell the fragrance of thousands of meals and hand out leaflets building by building; What I learned in books is "Don't bend over for five buckets of rice", but the reality is that in order to complete an index, I have always been timid and timid, and I have called many customers to beg humbly in the gentlest tone. But you're not. You're not Lee. Such mediocre efforts can't compare with the easy work of a director's father and a boss's uncle, and can't compare with the praise easily won by others, but I can only get a stable and meager salary by my own efforts.

? Who has never dreamed of getting married, but the heavy work has deprived you of the ability to find love freely, and the blind date activity has put the value on the table naked. Dress, salary and family conditions are just the cold numbers behind each other's exquisite glasses. His intention has already been inadvertently presented between the shaking cup and the leg under the table. The corners of your mouth that are raised gradually get cold in each other's impatience and indifference, and often end in polite goodbye.

? Even though we are lucky to meet the best people, we have to taste the bitterness on the back of love because of poverty. Rent in the cheapest basement, endure the noisy snoring next door every day, squeeze the first subway before dawn, and drag your tired body home when all is silent. Love is often only 20 words of encouragement and care between work, and even many times you have to wait two hours to see one of his jokes, and he may have seen your reply for a day. Your parents in your hometown always ask you why you don't get married. You always deal with the past in a loose tone, but when you look back, you will find his lonely eyes. Even if you think your dreams are absurd and dreamy, you will growl and bite each other like wild animals in the Colosseum. In the end, he will slam the door. On your mobile phone WeChat, there is an unsent message that I want to give you a home.

? The 55-year-old middle-aged life is out of reach, and the 25-year-old wandering life is full of bitterness. Therefore, Professor Hatsune Hatsune, some people's lives are multiple-choice questions, and some people's lives are multiple-choice questions. I don't marry, not because I don't know the natural laws of birth, illness and death, but because I want to be a truly independent person and have the ability to support my family.

? The last song "Blue Lotus" by Vae, which I like very much, was given to countless ant families:

Nothing can stop it.

Your desire for freedom

A bohemian life

Your heart has nothing to worry about.

Through the dark years

I'm also confused.

When you bow your head.

Only then did I realize the road under my feet.

The free world in my heart

So clear and high

Flowers never die.

Blue lotus

Nothing can stop it.

Your desire for freedom

A bohemian life

Your heart has nothing to worry about.

Through the dark years

I'm also confused.

When you bow your head.

Only then did I realize the road under my feet.

The free world in my heart

So clear and high

Flowers never die.

Blue lotus