I have social anxiety. I am always afraid that I will say something wrong and be disliked by others. I am afraid that others will laugh at me, which makes me afraid to speak. I am very distressed! Wha

I have social anxiety. I am always afraid that I will say something wrong and be disliked by others. I am afraid that others will laugh at me, which makes me afraid to speak. I am very distressed! What should I do?

Put yourself in someone else’s shoes, what do you think of everyone’s reaction when someone says something wrong? Even if those people laugh at him, will the person who said something wrong stop speaking because he is laughed at?

The harder you are to let go, the more strange you will be to others, which is self-defeating.

The first impression is very important when socializing. If your eyes are wrong and you are timid, others will think you are a weirdo, maybe there is something wrong with your character, and they will not talk to you. This is human nature, and you must adapt. Otherwise you will have difficulty in society in the future (you must be a student).

It is an advantage that you are good-looking. If you want to learn to be more open-minded, you can try smiling.

Maybe you will feel uncomfortable at first and want to avoid it. You can try talking to ordinary classmates of the same sex first. Even if there is a classmate who is slightly closer to you, if the other person's character is trustworthy, you can Explain your difficulties to him and let her help you. The other person's friends will understand you through her. If they can take the initiative to talk to you, it will prove your success. Don't refuse to answer because of fear or shyness, which may cause you to be rejected. If the other party treats them as cold, it may be difficult to integrate into their conversation at first. Listen carefully first to understand the topics they are interested in or what they usually talk about. Don't be afraid of making mistakes and not speak.

As for the boy you like, I think you just need someone to affirm you, not to like the other person. Among the people around you, only the other person wants to get close to you and likes you, so you naturally want to get close to him. When you When you have many friends, you may be so happy that you can't find them.

For social problems, you can ask your parents for help. After all, your parents have been in society for many years and their social skills are definitely higher than yours.

You can prepare a diary and write down your daily spiritual journey. People around you have formed a fixed impression of you, and you must take your time to change your image.

Note that you must choose the right friends. You can’t refuse everyone who comes. You can have bad grades and be naughty, but you can’t lower your principles of life. People who love lying and talk too much behind their backs can’t. To communicate and make friends is to accommodate the other person appropriately, not to be infinitely tolerant.

This is going to be a hard road for you because you want change, so stand tall and go for it!