Aunt Xue sent palace flowers in a dream of red mansions. Why not send Daiyu first?

Lin Daiyu entered the Jia family, because "the old lady loves everything, sleeps, eats and lives, and falls behind like Baoyu, Yingchun, Tanchun and Xichun", so everyone has formed an inertial thinking: Baoyu and Daiyu should come first in everything.

It is precisely because of this idea that Yuan Chun gave gifts during the Dragon Boat Festival, and Baoyu's was "the same as Miss Bao's", but Daiyu was the same as Sanchun, and Baoyu's conditioned reflex was unbelievable: "Why is Miss Lin's different from mine, and Sister Bao's is the same as mine? Don't pass it wrong? "

It is precisely because of this idea that when Dai Yu received the palace flowers sent by Zhou Rui's family, his first reaction was to ask, "Is it just me, or are other girls like this?" When I learned that "everyone has it", I sneered: "I knew that others would not pick the rest and would not give it to me."

Many readers thought that Zhou Rui's family was angry with Lin Daiyu, but ignored Lin Daiyu and said, "Thank you for me!" " "

It can be seen from this sentence that Lin Daiyu came for Aunt Xue. The Zhou Rui family only runs errands. According to common sense, after running the leg, she needs to report to Aunt Xue, so there will be "thank you for me", which means to convey her gratitude to Daiyu.

Of course, Daiyu didn't mean it, because she said it after complaining.

That's weird. The Xue family is a merchant in the imperial court, and they are quite sophisticated. They live in Jia's house, so it is natural to find out Jia's habits. How can they not know Jia's ethos of "Daiyu is in the front and Sanchun is in the back"? How could she put Daiyu after Sanchun when she told Zhou Rui's family?

No wonder Daiyu was angry. When the Xue family came, Baochai was not only "older than her", but also openly challenged her position in the Jia family. This also proves Lin Daiyu's arrogance in Jiafu.

So, why did Aunt Xue do this? In fact, this is the strength of the Xue family, and Daiyu will not understand it until a few years later.

Jia's family has a lofty atmosphere, but Xue Jia keeps the habit of helping the needy. Jia Mu once said, "I know all the men and women in our family are' a rich heart and two respectable eyes'". It's funny to say this Isn't this situation of her own making? She praised Baoyu, so the girl around Baoyu ascended to heaven, which was greater than the style of the master. She and Baoyu both hold Daiyu, so Daiyu has become a demon that people dare not touch, and everyone uses her as a shield. Therefore, it is precisely because the Jia family can't make a bowl of water flat, so the Jia family has formed a lofty trend of stepping on the low.

When Xue Jia entered Jia Fu, Daiyu became the focus of attention. It stands to reason that Aunt Xue brings a pair of children to her sister, who has a mother-in-law to the letter. If she is a bit snobbish, she will be eager to please Jia Mu and Dai Yu, who is favored by Jia Mu.

The Xue family didn't, not only didn't, but also changed the habit of "Daiyu first, then Daiyu" when Jia's family sent palace flowers.

Why did Aunt Xue do this? She gave the answer at the 57th time.

The fifty-seventh time, after Zijuan tried jade, not only Baoyu but also Daiyu was afraid. The difference is that Baoyu's fright is comforted, but Daiyu's fright is not comforted. So Aunt Xue came to Xiaoxiang Pavilion to comfort Daiyu, who had lost her position in the old lady's heart. In his reply, the author particularly emphasized: "Kindness and menstrual love words comfort fools."

In the process of comforting Daiyu, Aunt Xue said, "There are many people here, but few people speak well and many people speak ill. Don't say that you are helpless, it is the pain of being a human being. Just say that we saw the old lady love you and we went to the water. "

This sentence explains the reason why "Daiyu came after three springs" when sending palace flowers. Because Daiyu was favored at that time, if Aunt Xue followed everyone's habit of "Daiyu first, then Sanchun", she would be buttering up the old lady like everyone else. Yes, the Xue family doesn't want to do such a flattering thing.

When Daiyu fell out of favor and was not sought after, Aunt Xue appeared beside her, comforting Daiyu who was still in fear with loving mother's love.

This is the Xue family's school: it is not noble to step on the low, but only to help the poor. Even after living in Jia's family for many years, the Xue family still maintained its own characteristics and was not assimilated by Jia's family.

This is the highest level in the world. The Xue family can maintain a long-term friendly and good-neighborly relationship with Jia Jiabao, and Jia Jia and Mrs. Wang rely more and more on the Xue family's mother and daughter, precisely because of this advanced world.

Daiyu was infected by the Xue family and learned the way of the world of the Xue family. The loveliest thing about Lin Daiyu is that she can wake up in time and correct her mistakes. Aunt Xue said the above, and immediately asked to "recognize menstruation as the mother" and enjoy Aunt Xue's loving mother.

Aunt Xue's love for Daiyu is heartfelt, and Daiyu is also a heartfelt mother. They all know that true feelings are the most precious, which is far more comforting than Jia's worshipping the high and stepping on the low.

After recognizing her mother, Daiyu became more and more like the Xue family, especially learned the way of the world of the Xue family, and began to pay attention to those people around her who were not taken seriously, such as Xing Xiuyan. She was worried about the situation with Baochai and Xiangyun. For example, I met Baochai, Tanchun and others to comfort Yingchun. Once Daiyu had only one Baoyu in her heart, how could she pay attention to a person who was not taken seriously like Yingchun?

This is the influence of Xue's mother and daughter on Daiyu. If the Gonghua incident once made Daiyu complain about the Xue family. Then Daiyu learned that Aunt Xue was right, but she was too headstrong and went astray after "being kind to menstruation and cherishing words to comfort her". It is precisely because of this understanding that Daiyu has become very gentle since then, and her spikes have disappeared, and she is more willing to pay attention to and help people in danger.

Daiyu, who once hated the world as much as Baoyu, finally learned the way of Xue family and became a lovely and warm person.