Parents: I am so angry. What should I do?

At noon today, I received a phone call from a parent: Teacher, I am the parent of * * * *. Now, my children don't go to school, do nothing at home, stay at home all day, and can't scream when eating. Hungry, make some noodles while we are not at home. At first, I played with my mobile phone and said that the right to teach doesn't matter. I hit her, broke her cell phone, canceled the internet cable at home, and the children watched TV and slept at home. As a girl who doesn't pay attention to hygiene, I'm embarrassed to say that I don't wash my unkempt hair and underwear. You say people are in a hurry, but they are not in a hurry. Let her see my little sister off, but she won't do it. Her father is not as good as me, saying that she, she ignored, was silent, and her father finally ignored it and did whatever he wanted. I said all the good things and bad things, but I fought and advised. I'm angry, but I can't. What should I do?

This is a student's parents. Now students are determined not to go to school and drop out of school at home. When I was at school, because I didn't want to go to school, my children were accompanied by their parents and consulted me because of the introduction of the class teacher. At that time, parents (mothers) were very talkative and children were very silent.

I listened carefully to the child's mother gushing, full of grievances and bitterness, and finally gave it to me. I understand, accept and become a loyal listener. Keep, uh, nodding and repeat the main points of her speech. As a result, she came and her anger eased a lot.

I clearly know that the children's mothers love their children very much and want to change, and the children also want to change, but they have strong resistance, do not accept each other, have difficulty in communication, the children's plates are broken, the children's mothers are anxious, and the children's fathers let nature take its course, regardless of whether they ask or not.

There must be family problems behind children's problems. I suggest that if we want to change our children, we should first change our parents. The mother of the child knows the crisis caused by the child's problems and tries to make changes. I also made some suggestions, and my parents accepted them.

Husband and wife are the core and pillar of the family, so we must have a good relationship. Teach your wife before going to bed and teach your children face to face.

I know: students have a face-saving mother, an arbitrary and aggressive father, and a family with discordant parents, which has caused the children's present situation. The child's father is a truck driver, who is usually busy making money. He only goes home to play with his mobile phone and drink, and never asks the children. Maybe it's because the sports car is hard at ordinary times, so I just want to relax when I go home! If you can't say a few words, you will scold and hit, and you will smash the bowl. Once, you broke your home phone in a rage.

The change of the child's parents is not enough to solve the problem, and it needs the cooperation of two methods. If the father doesn't accept it, I can help.

I also gave my children some feasible suggestions, and the children expressed their acceptance, understanding and willingness to cooperate.

After that, students and parents stopped contacting me, so I naturally didn't ask questions. What happened? Today, I heard from my mother that the problem is getting worse.

Through my mother's words on the phone, I learned about my parents' helplessness, impatience and anxiety.

In this way, a vicious circle is formed between mother and child, and the impatience of mother and the soft resistance of child are in serious opposition, and the father of the child stays out of it regardless of whether he asks or not.

What should we do?

Suggestion: No matter what the children are, they are all their own children. The reality of children today is the result of their previous words and deeds. Please reflect on yourself and accept everything.

Do you feel that people who are particularly close to others can be forgotten for a long time, but once they hurt you, they are enough to hurt you deeply and make you unforgettable? Your kind words and long-term efforts, your kindness to your children, your kindness and your kindness are all ill-considered angry words and malicious words. You know that your words are like water under the bridge, which makes your children despair and no longer have any hope for themselves.

I was really angry. I turned my back and walked around outside. I must not judge myself.

Praise children's progress in time, talk about their feelings, give them some responsibilities and things to do, let them find a sense of accomplishment from doing things, and consciously find something for them to do, such as asking their sisters to ask questions, asking them to explain, checking homework, helping their mothers cook, washing clothes, shopping, picking up and dropping off their sisters, and taking a bath and rubbing their backs together. We also discussed the division of housework together, and everyone talked about responsibility and rules to show their sense of ownership. Little by little, children should adopt a positive attitude and give various forms of timely encouragement, praise, affirmation and approval, so that children can know their own value, enhance their interest and cultivate their ability to distinguish right from wrong.

If the child's performance is not satisfactory, shake your head, tell your feelings, analyze the harm of things, put forward feasible suggestions, and make the child realize that he is still a good boy and should be responsible for what he has done.

Parents must set a good example for their children and form a good family atmosphere. As parents, they are busy with work outside and housework at home. When you are free, you must chat with your children, tell jokes, play with them, walk into them, get close to them, laugh and curse with them, share joys and sorrows, and study with them when you are quiet. Parents with children at home must stay away from mobile phones, computers and televisions. They can read by themselves, even if they don't pretend to read. They can read children's books. They can also study, explore and debate children's homework together and encourage them to express their opinions. The problem is that they are getting clearer and clearer in speculation!

In short, only you regard your child as a constantly changing and beautiful growing person, and firmly believe that your efforts will definitely help him become better and better!