After my mother-in-law passed away, her two daughters-in-law made the same comment: "It looks like she's running out of tricks, but she's actually extremely stupid." What do you think?

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How many people’s relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law ended up like this?

The daughter-in-law relies on her own conscience and fulfills the filial piety of a younger generation, while still complaining about herself in various ways.

Filial piety is due to the kindness of nature; and complaining is because I have suffered many grievances and have never resolved them.

So, I had to use this method to make myself feel better.

If you keep holding in your grievances, you will become sick in your heart.

Just like a woman said:

"She is old, what can you do? Do you really not care? I said this often when I was young, but now If I really watched, I would still feel bad."

She is a daughter-in-law, and when she was young, she was the kind of daughter-in-law who was incompatible with her mother-in-law.

Her mother-in-law said she had a bad temper and was unfilial, and she said her mother-in-law was selfish. Both of them insisted on their own opinions.

Until the years bury everything in the past, they are no longer young. She said that when she reaches middle age, she understands many things.

Only the past between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be an eternal knot in her heart.

Her mother-in-law is the kind of mother who thinks about herself very much.

Her husband once said that when she was young, her mother would not let her three children eat any delicious food at home, but she would eat it first.

If any child is greedy and steals food, he will be scolded. But my mother herself would fetch it from time to time to eat alone.

Her mother-in-law has two sons, and she married the eldest son of the family.

My mother-in-law also has a youngest daughter who has been married to a foreigner for many years. She can count the number of times she has returned home over the years on two hands, and her family affection is relatively indifferent.

In fact, she said her mother-in-law had a relatively distant relationship with all the children.

During the Chinese New Year a few years ago, my mother-in-law’s youngest son was made angry by his mother and cried, saying that her mother was too unconscionable. A man in his 40s really wiped away tears.

The reason was that my mother-in-law’s youngest son bought her a new dress during the Chinese New Year. My mother-in-law was too fat and couldn’t put it on. She then said that her son did it on purpose and was making fun of her.

My son cried, but my mother-in-law remained indifferent.

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Her sister-in-law has a soft-tempered temperament. She never gets into trouble with others and is kind-hearted.

So, no matter what my mother-in-law said, she never said anything. Naturally, my mother-in-law would not speak too much, and she had been like this since she was young.

And she is a person who can't hide her words. If she has any dissatisfaction, she must express it to feel comfortable and not to panic.

So, when she was young, her relationship with her mother-in-law could be said to be at odds with each other.

She said that her mother-in-law had really done nothing for her children.

The family conditions were not good in the past, but for people of her husband's age, if they did not read much, their parents would probably send their sons to learn a trade.

Among them, the most common ones are carpenters, bricklayers, etc. Her mother-in-law never had such an idea.

My mother-in-law is delicious, my father-in-law is also delicious. If we have some money at home, we have to use it to buy food first. If we have it, we don’t know how to save. If we don’t have it, we will borrow it everywhere.

So, when she got married, except for the house left by her elders, her mother-in-law's house was extremely poor.

And her husband, with his younger brothers and sisters, had to work at home from a very young age, and was even the main labor force.

“When it rains, we children go out to do farm work. Mom assigns us tasks and she waits at home. In other homes, when it rains, our parents go out to do work. At that time, I was the oldest and both Only 13 years old."

Later, when the children grew up, her mother-in-law's point of view was:

I worked hard to raise my children so that they can enjoy themselves when they are old. You should be filial to me unconditionally and do your best, and you should be filial to me even if you have to endure hardships.

She doesn’t think about her children.

Her sister-in-law’s family bought a house first. After the decoration, she had not moved in yet and had been working outside. Her mother-in-law said that she had never lived in an elevator room in her life, so she moved in alone.

Her sister-in-law had some objections to this point. After all, it was a new house and she hadn’t even moved in yet.

There are some things that her husband will not say, but she will complain: "If it were me and I didn't pay anything for my children, I would be very self-conscious when I get old and not ask for or enjoy too many things."

Later, her family bought a house, and her mother-in-law came to live there. However, she and her mother-in-law had a quarrel before she and her mother-in-law moved out.

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The house where her mother-in-law lives was rented to her by her two sons. The two families shared it equally. The initial rent was 4,000 yuan a year.

My mother-in-law later disagreed, saying that it would be shameful to live in a retail store. They rented a two-bedroom apartment in a slightly remote place for 7,000 yuan a year.

My mother-in-law spends the money of their two families very reasonably. She thinks that they should pay it. As her son, she should pay.

In fact, she believes that no one’s family is very wealthy, and everyone is an ordinary migrant worker. It is not easy to earn some hard money all year round, and her mother-in-law never feels bad about this.

Her mother-in-law would only talk about how miserable she was in the countryside before, but she never imagined that she would be able to enjoy the blessings in the city now.

I will make a fuss about going to the hospital for the smallest things. I will always say that I feel uncomfortable here and that I don’t feel comfortable there. I don’t like to show off my age.

She said: "She always thinks that her age is a big deal, and she wishes everyone would revolve around her."

And, her My mother-in-law likes to be smart.

The reason why she doesn't like to listen to her mother-in-law talk is because when her mother-in-law is in front of them, she only talks about whose son is filial and whose daughter-in-law is so nice.

Furthermore, in front of her, her mother-in-law will say good things about her daughter-in-law and that she is filial to her; but in front of her younger daughter-in-law, she will praise her that although she has a bad temper, she is a sharp-tongued person, like last time. She was sick and took good care of her.

Her mother-in-law’s original intention was to have both daughters-in-law learn from each other’s strengths and be filial to her.

But obviously, this is stupid.

Once, when she talked about this matter with her sister-in-law, both of them were speechless and came to the same conclusion: On the surface, her mother-in-law seemed to have run out of tricks and was planning for herself for the rest of her life. Extremely stupid.

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Her mother-in-law’s little daughter sent 500 yuan to her mother on her birthday last time. She called back and said that she was unfilial and that the money was a token of her gratitude. , I hope mom doesn’t think it’s too little.

Then, her mother-in-law said: "Then the money is not much."

This is what her sister-in-law said when chatting with her. It is really sad. , she said that her sister-in-law’s family conditions were not good and she had two children to support. It was such a great gesture to send 500 yuan back.

Unexpectedly, a bucket of cold water was poured on him.

Many outsiders say that her mother-in-law has a good life.

One time she went to visit her mother-in-law, who was with a group of old people. There was an old man in his 70s who envied her and said that her children were all filial. Her two sons had no place to go when they were old. , he disliked her for soiling the house, and the house he rented to her was also very poor. Unlike her, her son and daughter-in-law were willing to spend so much money to rent a house for her.

But when she and her mother-in-law were walking together, her mother-in-law did not mention what the old man said just now.

Whose daughter-in-law is filial and bought a gold necklace for her mother-in-law, costing more than 10,000 yuan. I have never worn one at my age.

My mother-in-law emphasized more than ten thousand yuan twice.

Hearing that she felt irritable, she left after less than half an hour and started complaining when she came back.

Now, their relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still the same.

She said that it should continue like this, and that her mother-in-law could not be expected to change anything at her age. It would not be until her mother-in-law left one day that all this would come to an end.

When talking about her relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she finally used this sentence:

"No matter what, I want to be clear about my conscience, and I don’t want to wait until I am old. , we have all tried our best to regret it or make my husband regret it.”