Widow's joke

This is mainly due to the traditional feudal concept. Sadly, ancient women thought so in their own hearts. People will attribute the reason of widowhood to women themselves and think that it is caused by their own reasons, and women must be "chaste" after widowhood. Only in this way can it be regarded as chastity, can it be regarded as a model, and erect a "chastity archway", which was a compliment to women at that time, but now it is a huge joke. In fact, there are such jokes now, and it will take decades to realize them. Looking around, some ideas and practices decades or even hundreds of years ago have now been told by young people as incomprehensible jokes.

It is ridiculous to see a woman give up love and live a normal life for the sake of "chastity memorial arch" now, but it was not like this in ancient times. It can be said that once this happens, this person should be concerned by everyone, and it seems that all women, especially women, want to get clues, so once there is any suspicion of "Gua Tian Li Xia", it will be amplified and spread.

In ancient times, unlike now, women not only persisted for half a day, but some were even strong women. They have the ability and attitude to choose their own lives. From this point of view, this is a great progress of society, which fully shows the status quo. Some people began to worry about "Yin flourishes while Yang declines". In fact, the diversity of society makes people no longer pay attention to other people's lives, which is a good thing. In a sense, this is the essence of gossip, life and life. If a person arranges his life in order and has a full schedule of work and study, he will have no time and energy to pay attention to her private life. It is immoral to "chew one's tongue" on others. Few people care about it now. It should be regarded as the progress of the times.

In the past, women could not live without men. Some men are kind and will help widows in need, but they should also be careful. This is the meaning of the so-called taboo "Gua Tian calendar", which is incomplete. "Gua Tian doesn't tie her shoelaces, she wears an inappropriate crown." Although there is no theft, it is easy to arouse others' thinking. This is to prevent any suspect from falling into other people's ammunition. Unlike now, people can have blue confidants in the process of communication.

With the progress of society, people's thoughts are also changing. With the improvement of women's status, these traditional old ideas should have been forgotten long ago, and it is everyone's right to pursue a happy life. It is meaningless and immoral to interfere and judge other people's lives. We should take care of each other. Isn't there a saying in the ancients that "jokes are not as good as people, and someone will catch up with them sooner or later"? In fact, it is a warning to such people, and people gossip about right and wrong.