Children are not afraid of hardship and fatigue, and they are afraid that their mothers will ignore them, because children love their mothers unconditionally.

We will find that many children will cry after being criticized by their mothers, but if their mothers don't coax him all the time, they will heal themselves, and then take the initiative to apologize to their mothers and say that they are wrong.

A while ago, I took my little niece out to play with my cousin, and I saw someone buying ice cream on the roadside. My little niece pestered her cousin to eat it, but she refused to buy it, so she shifted her target and launched an offensive against me, so I bought her one, but she still wanted to eat after eating one, but my cousin disagreed and criticized her.

My little niece was criticized by her mother and cried bitterly. It was useless for me to persuade her for a long time, so I just walked away and let her and her daughter solve it by themselves. Cousin is also a grumpy one. She just doesn't bow her head or coax her. She thought she was going to be so stiff, but my little niece went to her mother and cried and admitted her mistake. Cousin smiled proudly at me, as if to say, "See, this is the way to raise children."

First, cold violence against children

This method should be tried by many parents, especially some young parents. When they take their children out to play, the children cry and want to buy toys, but their parents just don't buy them, and the children just sit on the ground and roll around. Well, sometimes, some parents will bite the bullet and buy them for their children in order to avoid letting others see jokes.

But some parents don't. No matter how noisy their children are, they just stand by and watch their children's "performances" as a bystander. This method is really effective. After seeing the resolute attitude of mom and dad, the child knows that it is useless to make a splash, so he has to admit his mistake and bow to his mother.

Secondly, beating and scolding children

There are also some parents who are grumpy. When their children are naughty, they just give them a stick education. This method can really get immediate results, but for children, the price is too high.

I used to be a neighbor boy and I were classmates. His father loved to drink, and his temper was very bad, so he met such a naughty son. Once, when the boy didn't go to school and gave him homework, I saw him lying in bed with a black and blue face, so I guessed that he must have been beaten again.

Third, take it easy

Some parents are more fond of their children. Although they criticize their children when they make mistakes, they are not willing to beat and scold them. If they take their children out and fail to satisfy their wishes, these parents talk tough, but when their children cry, they have no choice but to give them mainly and satisfy their wishes.

Some parents' parenting styles are really extreme, with either beating or scolding or cold violence. One of the most frightening things for children is this cold violence. What we adults hate most is cold violence, but we are always blocked by an invisible door when we want to go further. This taste is very unpleasant.

It's the same for children. Maybe they can accept that their parents beat and scold them, but they just can't accept that their parents ignore them.

1. Children's dependence on their parents

Every child is very dependent on his parents, especially his mother. Since the baby was in his mother's belly, there has been a dependence on his mother. Some babies can only feel at ease and fall asleep quickly if they stay with their mothers, but they can't stay with others.

That's because although children are young, they know who is the closest and most trustworthy person. When they come to this world, they will see their parents as soon as they open their eyes. The people who spend the longest time with them are also parents. Only parents will give their children meticulous love. These children can feel it, so they also love their parents unconditionally.

2. I hope my parents can help me

Some children cry, not because they are naughty, but because they want to attract their parents' attention in this way and then help them solve some problems. Because children's ability is limited, sometimes they can't solve problems themselves, so they can only rely on their parents, and only their parents are the people they rely on and trust.

3. Children are afraid that their parents won't want to be themselves

In fact, children are insecure. When they are in their mothers' stomachs, they are very comfortable with a safe space protector. But after leaving the mother's stomach, they came to a strange world and stayed with some "unfamiliar" people, so the baby would feel insecure.

Sometimes when parents teach their children a lesson, they will do their own things without worrying that their children will leave them. Because mom and dad know that children don't have the ability and courage to leave themselves, they don't have to worry at all, and they don't admit their mistakes to their children.

But children are different. They are insecure, so they are very dependent on their parents. They are afraid that they will abandon themselves when they are angry. Therefore, even after being criticized by their parents, they will apologize to their parents and beg their forgiveness.

First of all, control your emotions

"People make mistakes without being saints". It is very difficult for us adults not to make any mistakes, let alone children. They are in a naughty age, it is their nature to play, and it is understandable to make some mistakes. As parents, when children make mistakes, they should first control their emotions.

Don't beat, scold, or be cold and violent to your child when he makes a mistake, which will hurt your child's heart. As parents, we should understand children and their nature, and don't always be too strict.

Secondly, communicate with children reasonably

Although children are young, they are not ignorant. No matter how young children are, as long as you communicate with them reasonably, they can listen to some words. Therefore, parents should control their temper, communicate with their children rationally, reason with them and educate their children well.

Thirdly, respond to children's reasonable needs

Children generally don't cry for no reason, and they cry for a certain reason. Parents should know why children cry and why they don't listen. In the face of children's reasonable demands, parents can meet them. If they are unreasonable demands, parents should also explain to their children why they don't meet them.

Finally, give your children a sense of security

As a parent, the most important thing is to spend more time with their children, care for them and give them a sense of security. Every child is an angel, and when he comes to this world, he needs the care of his parents, so it is necessary to give his children a sense of security.

Author's message

A child and his mother on the Internet said, "Mom, you have loved me for decades, but I love you all my life." It's really touching. Every child is like this. They love their parents from birth until forever, but their parents love their children for decades. Therefore, as parents, don't ignore the unconditional love of children, but also give them more care!