28-year-old Xiao Zhang had just given birth to a precious son and was in confinement at her husband's house. One after another, her relatives and friends came to express their congratulations. Wheneve

28-year-old Xiao Zhang had just given birth to a precious son and was in confinement at her husband's house. One after another, her relatives and friends came to express their congratulations. Whenever everyone complimented her and said, "Wow, this child is so beautiful and looks so good," Xiao Luo would pull her mother-in-law over and solemnly "state": "I am young and don't know how to take care of children. It's all thanks to my mother." Ah! My mother hasn't even slept well these days for our mother and son. She's been busy cooking and washing diapers every day. It's so hard!" Her mother-in-law kept saying, "No, no!" She was actually happy! flowers. Therefore, as a man, you must rationally solve the problems you encounter. Of course, as a woman, you must also understand your husband's situation. In short, you need to think from his perspective. How should mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along? 2 After getting married, I live with my parents-in-law, but our daily habits are also different. I don’t want my parents-in-law to change their current lifestyle for the sake of us. I would like to ask my daughter-in-law What can I do to reduce the differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Emotional consultation for netizens: Hello teacher, I have been caring for you for 2 years and have benefited a lot. Now I have questions about the problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Due to the requirements of my husband and his sister-in-law, it is inevitable that my parents-in-law will live with us, and I try to accept it. But the old man is very frugal, and his frugality has reduced the quality of our daily life. We are afraid of going out to restaurants casually, and we have to keep the dishes we can't finish. And his lifestyle is also different. Sometimes he is not allowed to buy some clothes for him, and he is not even willing to go out for a bowl of noodles. The prerequisite is that our income as a couple can be met. What I want is that they don’t have to be so frugal, and at the same time it can improve the quality of our lives. What can we do as a daughter-in-law? My husband no longer wants to change his parents. Thank you to the teacher and his assistants. Emotional counselor's response: 1. You don't want to live with your parents-in-law, but you still live together in the end, which shows that you have never had the initiative in your marriage. "Due to the regulations of my husband and his sister-in-law, my father-in-law and mother-in-law have to live with us." It means that your resistance has failed and you have never had the initiative at home. In the face of your parents-in-law's unwillingness to accept your lifestyle, your husband "is no longer willing to change his parents" and once again asks you to give in. You can see that you have not achieved success in the five questions before getting married. The first time he had a conflict with his parents, he always stood by his parents and asked you to change it. The relationship between your husband and your parents-in-law is a problem that needs to be discovered and solved before marriage. This is because of the problems that appear in the first five questions before marriage. Discover them early and deal with them early, and then think about relying on sales after marriage. It is impossible to change it with words or some tips. Second, raise the MV to a high enough level and the PU to a low enough level, and be united with your husband. This will reduce conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Regarding this kind of problem left over from history, when you and your boyfriend take it hard and force him to evaluate or even make a choice between your parents, your PU will rise rapidly and the situation will always get worse and worse. What you can do now is long-term planning. If you don’t have the initiative and even your parents-in-law can interfere with you, it means that you don’t have enough weight in your husband’s heart. As long as you raise the MV high enough and the PU training low enough to win over your husband, I don't need to change his parents. We can just live our own lives. "You have to save all the dishes you can't finish." Just keep it. If you don't like it, you can eat less, and your parents-in-law will definitely have their own solutions. If you go to a restaurant and your parents-in-law are reluctant to part with it, you will be fine by yourself. If you and your boyfriend work together, just quietly going out for a meal can create excitement. And normally, there is no need to ask the parents-in-law for their consent for this kind of thing.