You have clearly seen through many people, but you cannot easily turn against them. Why?

In life, we often come into contact with all kinds of people. Some of them seem to be innocent and sunny, but in fact they hide their secrets in their smiles. We clearly see through certain people and certain things, so why can’t we fall out easily?

1. Because we cannot block the road.

As the saying goes: It is better to offend a gentleman than a villain. The water in society is too deep. If you don't pay attention, you will make mistakes.

It is not easy to make a friend, but it only takes a minute to offend someone. We clearly see through the leaders' perfunctory pushback, the customers' unreasonableness, and the colleagues' schemes, but we can only keep them in mind. If you try to talk fast for a while, you will only make the road narrower and narrower, and finally you will have no way to go.

Wounding the enemy a thousand times and damaging yourself countless times is not worth the gain.

2. Because we want to show our inner cultivation.

It is a gentleman's behavior to treat many things without telling them thoroughly, and to treat many people with knowledge but not judgment.

Civility and politeness are a person’s business card, and connotation and accomplishment are a comprehensive reflection of a person. Years of education have forced us to restrain our tempers, not to act arbitrarily, nor to demolish others casually.

Shutting up and not speaking doesn’t mean that you don’t understand, but that you don’t bother to say and do it.

3. Because we don’t want others to laugh.

To point out other people's thoughts without leaving any room is bound to cause a dispute of words. The society is complex and people are panicked. When encountering this kind of situation, there are few people who sincerely help, but there are many people who add insult to injury and watch from the sidelines.

When we argue with others, no matter whether we are justified or not, they will end up being the subject of conversation after dinner and making other people laugh behind their backs.

It is the behavior of a smart person to have a clear mind and only treat others as a show.

4. Because we want to be a wealthy person.

Society is like a big dyeing vat. When pure white people are thrown into it, they will be dyed with some color. We often hate people who are scheming and smooth, but we would like to be like them.

People with a strong sense of security tend to observe and think quietly, rather than expressing their wishes and thoughts casually, allowing others to easily guess the gaps in their hearts.

Be cautious in your words and deeds, not to be a politician or conspirator, but to be a person with a big heart.

You must not have the intention to harm others, and you must have the intention to guard against others. As for unauthentic people, as long as we don't touch the bottom line, we only need to keep many things in mind and there is no need to fall out with them. Time will verify everything, and bad things will not last long after all.

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First, see through but don’t tell.

Because humans are a social species, if you see through and fall out, there will probably be few in the end. My friend, I am left alone and messy in the wind. Seeing things through but not telling them through is a sign of high emotional intelligence. It's good to know some things by yourself. If there are no issues of principle involved, just do your own thing well.

Second, keep a line in your life so that we can meet each other easily in the future

Although you have seen through many people, in life or work, you are in the same circle or the same environment . If there is no issue of your own interests or dignity involved, there is no need to fight to the death. The survival rule of this society is more of a win-win game than a zero-sum game. Keep a line in your life so that you can meet each other easily in the future. Falling out means that you are going against many people. Making too many enemies is not conducive to your own development. This is the principle of having many friends and multiple paths.

Third, human relations and society, relationships will change

The market is always changing dynamically, society is always changing, and the relationships between people will also change. You are rivals now, maybe friends in the future. You are friends now, but you may be enemies later. If you fall out after seeing it through, you will have fewer and fewer friends in the future, because everyone has shortcomings and selfishness. If it is not a matter of principle, tolerate those who can be tolerated, and do not care if you can not care. Accept the people around you with an open mind, but you still have to be wary of some people, and avoid contacting some people if you can.

Seeing through is a skill, and surviving after seeing through is a science. After all, in this complex society, a person who cannot tolerate a grain of sand can easily be excluded or even alienated.

What do you think?

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People often say that wherever there are people, there are rivers and lakes. Since you have clearly seen through many people, why can't you fall out easily?

1: As people grow older, they will experience a lot and their minds will become broader.

After a person enters society for a period of time, he will come into contact with many different kinds of people, see more, and listen more, and he will accumulate rich social experience, and his mind will naturally be much broader than when he first enters society.

A broad-minded person will never put trivial matters and boring people in his heart, because it would be unworthy and meaningless.

A broad-minded person has a gap in his chest, and he will not let some people who talk about right and wrong in front of others disturb his good mood for the day, because he has seen through it, and he has a clear distinction between right and wrong in his heart. If you listen to nonsense, why should you take it seriously, and why should you fall out with it!

It is no longer the age when we hear different opinions and argue with others, that is the past tense. Now it is up to you to raise other people's opinions. Whether you listen or not is up to you, because only your own feet can walk your own path.

Two: Face is mutual. Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. Only good friends can see through but not tell.

As the saying goes: "A tree has a skin, and a person has a face." Face is face, and everyone often talks about face.

We Chinese people pay the most attention to face. Face is given to each other. Sometimes we know it contains water, but we still have to give it away. This may be the philosophy of life!

No one is perfect, everyone has shortcomings and advantages. Friendship is about valuing the advantages of others, having the same language and hobbies, and two people or a group of people come together and become friends

It is the stupidest behavior to fall out after seeing it through. It is the most unskilled operation, but people have to continue to live. You may encounter difficulties one day, but many people you know will give you help and support.

To sum up: When people live in the world and have to deal with others, they would rather leave a road than add a wall. Therefore, seeing through but not telling everything is a good way to live in the world. Why bother to fall out? If two people are friends, say it openly; if two people are not friends, there is no need to fall out.

This is a great wisdom of mankind. The so-called great wisdom is like a fool, pretending to be confused while pretending to understand.

In the real society, we will inevitably encounter some scum, some people who burn bridges across rivers, and some people who repay kindness with enmity. Since these people have been labeled scum by us, why should we argue with a scum?

Just because I don’t fall out with you doesn’t mean I like being with you. We can meet and say hello, but I will never have a deep friendship with you. I don't regard you as my enemy, but you will never be my friend.

When we fall out with some people, they are usually the ones we care about. Maybe it's because of hatred, or maybe because of some differences in opinions, but there is often room for reconciliation in this kind of falling out. So for some scumbags, there is really no need to fall out because it is not worth it.

I am a short-legged baby cabbage, the emotional expert around you.

Everyone has different origins, received different education, and grew up in different environments. Everyone has their own opinions on how to understand and view things. In daily life or work, it is inevitable that you will encounter some unjust people who are narrow-minded, spread rumors to stir up trouble, flatter others, benefit themselves at the expense of others, and are selfish. As long as there is no direct conflict of interest, it is better to stay away. This kind of people have no principles in doing things and have no bottom line in life. If you provoke it, you will get into trouble; if you provoke it, you will get into trouble. There is no need to contradict them or make judgments. Because there are not a few such people, what's the point of having to fight against them! You should see their pity and sadness from a different perspective. Only in this way can you expand your tolerance and it is a wise move.

You have obviously seen through some people, why don’t you just point them out easily? Anyone who understands the world knows that human nature is complex and selfish, so there is no need to point it out; are you willing to let others hold grudges for a lifetime over trivial things? China's social circle consists of relatives, friends, and acquaintances, and interpersonal relationships are almost like a twisted spider web that cannot be seen clearly and is still messy. If you point out other people's mistakes, others will not appreciate you, but resent you; Confucius said, "Don't be ashamed to ask your subordinates." Only those who are open-minded and not ashamed to ask, others will point out where the mistakes are and how to correct them; especially in the relationship between superiors and subordinates, will you point out the behavior and thoughts of your superiors? If you apply the ancient admonition that military attaches fight to the death and civil servants fight to the death, then your life is over. How many more lives do you have in your life? Some people don't look back until they hit the wall, and some people don't understand until they die and let others live happily. As long as the big things are not confused, why bother about other people's things, making themselves two-faced and different from human beings?

This shows that we have seen a lot of things in life, and have been tempered to a certain extent. We are no longer as reckless as the young angry young people who have just arrived in society, and can deal with people and things we don't understand calmly.

People in the world cannot help themselves. Work is the foundation of our lives. As long as we can do our jobs well, as long as they don't affect the smooth completion of your affairs, why do you have to fall out with others? If you wantonly attract hatred, it will add another stumbling block to your career path. Why bother?

My principle is, no matter what you do, just don’t sabotage what I do. As for other people’s character, whether they are hypocritical or double-dealing, they are too lazy to care. You can do your own thing well and care. Just be good to yourself.

Some people are very concerned about money and money, and when they are provoked, they are confused and troubled.

Some people are like fleas, they just like to do things. If you are not their parents, you can't control them. Just let them do whatever they want.

Different people in the life circle have different performances, and this may not exist in family relationships. In work, workplace, etc., wherever there are people, there will be various phenomena that you cannot accept. We cannot kill them with a stick. , interpersonal relationships are as complicated as spider webs. Only by seeing through and understanding can you know how to overcome these barriers. There is actually no benefit in facing everyone with your face broken, unless you don’t want your job, your relatives, or your life circle. . The ecology of various colors is about to reach a balance. If this balance is broken, a new reshuffle will inevitably occur, or you will be the one eliminated, because the relationship is too complicated, and the most complicated human hearts in the world are not It must be as you imagine.

The best way is to see things through without telling them, keep a low profile and work hard for the future. No one can be sure or guarantee that there will be no intersection in the future. Just like when Huang Bo was a supporting actor for seven years, everyone around him looked like a bad guy; now that he is famous, he is surrounded by good people. If you are good enough, good people will naturally gather; if you are not good enough, there will be many villains~~~

Seeing through but not speaking out, seeing through but not exposing, are not because of coercion or lack of words, but because we know how to understand the world. Therefore, being unsophisticated and saving face for others also leaves room for yourself.

There is no need to tell everything when you know someone. For some things, we just need to understand them in our hearts. There is no need to argue about what is right or wrong. There is no need to argue about what is right or wrong.

Besides, there are so many things in this world that you can’t stand, so how can you have so much time to fight for them? Can you fight it? If we meet them, we can just laugh them off. We can just stay away from those who are different from us. Why bother to embarrass others by speaking out?

Seeing through but not telling, seeing through but not exposing, being reasonable but forgiving, this is the true expression of a person's maturity.

It’s okay! It’s not like fighting for land, rice, or wife, let’s just forget about trivial matters! I have always firmly believed that those cunning people who do not recognize their relatives, are only interested in profit, have both sides, and cover the sky with one hand. They think they are smarter than others. In fact, they have been seen through by others a long time ago. They just don't bother to expose them. Unfortunately, they don't know it yet. I'm acting to my heart's content