Why do many people like to keep quiet when buying a house and only tell their friends or relatives after the purchase?

Because I am afraid that telling friends or relatives before buying a house will cause a lot of unnecessary trouble.

It is possible that before the house is purchased, some relatives and friends around you start to find various excuses to borrow money. Even if he knows that you are going to buy a house, the money cannot be lent to him. He may say : "In our relationship, you must help me. You can take a moment to buy a house. My matter is very urgent."

It is also possible that some relatives are sick and need money urgently. If you say whether the money should be borrowed or not, or not, they will say you are impersonal and unsympathetic. So maybe even before the house is bought, the money has already been borrowed.

It is also possible that some relatives are sick and need money urgently. If you ask whether the money should be borrowed or not, if you don’t, they will say you are impersonal and unsympathetic. So maybe even before the house is bought, the money has already been borrowed.

There is another possibility: instead of asking you to borrow money, the three aunts and six wives will give you all kinds of opinions, and these suggestions will give you a headache. You know that these relatives and friends are doing it for your own good, but it takes a lot of time to deal with these interpersonal relationships. With this much time, you can research real estate information by yourself.

If the house you buy in the end is different from the opinions they provide, you may be told that you will suffer losses if you don’t listen to the advice of the elderly.

After buying a house, some people are envious and jealous, and then make all kinds of sarcastic remarks. If the value of the house they buy does not increase, many people will sarcastically attack it. Originally, I bought the wrong house, and it was very uncomfortable if the value of the house did not appreciate. It kept nagging about it, which was very annoying.

Some people may really care about you at all times, while others wish you were bad and unpredictable, so it would be better not to say anything to save you trouble.

There are also many people who will not tell their relatives and friends before buying a house, and they will not tell their relatives and friends after buying a house.

The main reason is that buying a house is a necessity. In fact, everyone needs it, and there is no need to show off. You may feel that you are very impressive and show off, but in the eyes of others, it is not a big deal at all. It may be that others dislike you for buying a second-hand house or that the house you bought is too small, and they look down upon you.

It is also possible that some villains will be jealous and say sarcastic things everywhere, such as: "I asked him to borrow money before and said he had no money. Look, it has only been a while now and I have money to buy a house."

Also Some relatives and friends will think that you are a rich person when you buy a house, so every time you have a party or go to the city where you live, they will make you pay for food, accommodation, entertainment, and buy specialties to take back. Do you have it? You should hire the rich people and spend the money. They don't care if you have a mortgage to pay. Are you very frugal at ordinary times and don’t want to go out to a restaurant?

My friend Xiao An’s family’s financial situation is quite good. After moving to a big city, he found a boyfriend. Xiao An’s parents sponsored Xiao An’s down payment, and the couple bought a 130-square-meter house.

Xiao An’s parents are more respectable, so they show off to relatives that Xiao An has bought a new house and plans to join a family.

One or two relatives said: Your family is so rich that you can buy a house in a big city. This time, we will be invited to join the family.

Xiao An’s parents are so generous and so kind that it’s hard to deny their hospitality. On the day they joined the family, these relatives drove for three or four hours and came to Xiao An’s house. Not only were they provided with food and accommodation, they were also provided with companionship. After playing, I stayed here for a few nights before reluctantly going home. Before going home, I asked Xiao An to help buy some specialties for them to take home and give to their neighbors. After Xiao An bought it, they didn't even show any courtesy or give Xiao An any money. They just took it as a matter of course and went back to their hometown after eating and drinking.

For such a trip, his relatives didn't even pay a penny, and even the gas money was paid by Xiaoan's parents. What surprised Xiao An most was that these relatives didn't even receive a red envelope for joining the family. Usually when these relatives joined the family, Xiao An's parents would give each family a big red envelope.

Just this trip made Xiao An's heart bleed. She had spent nearly ten thousand yuan like this. No one would have thought of her difficulties. In those few months, she could only tighten her waist and live her life.

From time to time, relatives want to travel to the place where Xiaoan lives. They directly say that it doesn’t cost money to travel here and they can stay at Xiaoan’s house. If you live in her house, Xiao An won't have to pay for other expenses.

When Xiao An bought a house for the second time, he kept a very low profile and did not tell these relatives and friends. Even if some relatives knew about it, Xiao An told his parents that he was buying a new house instead of buying a new house. Xiao An is really afraid of these relatives.

Not all relatives are like Xiao An’s family.

Many people feel that there is no need to tell relatives and friends, and that there is no need to compare, because not everyone is willing to be sincerely happy for you.

We are all an ordinary family, so there is no need to stand out from the crowd. Sometimes I buy a house without telling my relatives and friends, but everyone can still live in harmony. How to stand out from the crowd may change the relationship.