The 47-year-old woman cried: I live to middle age, why do the three disadvantages of brother-sister love make me feel very painful?

A person's appearance is just a skin. Over time, the skin will eventually get old, and finally all the charm will be swallowed up by wrinkles. The soul doesn't. This soul includes the road you have traveled, the things you have experienced, and the thoughts of your life. —— Wang Xiaobo

What on earth can keep two unrelated men and women together forever? I think two souls are attracted to each other. As Wang Xiaobo said, the hidden thinking in the soul and the definition of life are all infiltrated into the bones, and others can't change them at all.

The topic of sister-in-law's love must be familiar to everyone. Faye Wong, who has an immortal face value, can not only reverse all sentient beings, but also let Nicholas Tse, who is 1 1 years younger than her, accompany her for so many years, which proves that she has a unique soul to deeply attract this once arrogant and unruly man.

Then, if two men and women who are very different in age, wealth and appearance are simply blinded by face value and money, can they continue on the road of marriage?

A 47-year-old middle-aged woman gave the answer with her unique experience. Netizen Zhai Ruomei cried to me in the middle of the night: "When I live to middle age, the three major drawbacks exposed by brother-sister love make me miserable in this marriage."

If you have money, you will be willful. It has been a long time since she remarried.

Zhai Ruomei is very rich. She is a rich second generation. Her parents' wealth did not bring good luck to her marriage. She was married twice, and her ex-husbands came for money.

Her elderly father told her that if the failure of marriage failed to teach her a lesson, she always used her love brain to measure a man's charm, and did not know how to see through the essence of the problem from the surface, so she would never find a suitable man.

She didn't listen to a word of these words. Finally, in the third marriage, she chose a man 15 years younger than herself. Because this sister-in-law relationship has caused quite a storm with parents.

Because she is the only child in the family, she doesn't listen to her father's advice, knowing that her little boyfriend is also after her money rather than people, but she just wants to marry this handsome guy.

The novelty of marriage has dissipated, and the disadvantages of brother-sister love have gradually emerged.

Zhong Quantao, the third husband chosen by Ms. Zhai, is only 32 years old this year. Their marriage has reached the fourth year, but she already feels that this marriage is teetering again.

She gradually felt that when the novelty brought by brother-sister love disappeared, she fell into endless regret. Not only because of her husband's boredom, but also because of the disadvantages brought by brother-sister love. The three most prominent drawbacks even seriously interfered with her normal life.

Disadvantage 1: The age gap changed her from pride to confidence.

Zhai Ruomei said that she used to be a very proud woman. With superior family background and proper appearance, she always thinks that she is rich enough and beautiful enough to deserve any good man in the world. Self-confidence exploded, and she never thought that she would go out with her husband one day and become less confident.

After all, no one can resist gravity, and Ms. Zhai is no exception. At the age of forty-five, she gradually felt that skin care products had lost their previous magic on her face and body. Unable to hide wrinkles and spots, she can't be confident. She goes out with Zhong Quantao. Once they distance themselves, she will be very angry and think that her husband is beginning to dislike herself.

On the other hand, the husband is at the best age of a man, and he is full of high spirits, which adds more charm to a mature man than his twenties. She also feels that every time two people go out together, their mood will become very bad and they always find fault. And this undoubtedly hurts the feelings between husband and wife.

Disadvantage 2: In marriage, it is impossible to restrain random suspicion, and the trust between husband and wife is reduced.

Because of the decline in appearance, Ms. Zhai not only envied her husband's young appearance, but also began to feel insecure. The most obvious performance is that she began to secretly check her husband's mobile phone to see if he kept close contact with the opposite sex.

Because of Zhong Quantao's outstanding looks and his rich leisure, he will certainly be more attractive than men of his age. No matter where he appears, he will become the focus of the opposite sex. In this regard, not only he knows, but also Ms. Zhai is very clear.

After two years of marriage, the advantages and disadvantages in this respect are vividly reflected. No matter what occasion she attends, as long as other women look at her husband more, Zhai Ruomei will be jealous.

She also knows that it's not good for her to make unfounded guesses, but she just can't let herself calmly look at Zhong Quantao and the woman on her back and laugh, even if it's just to say hello. Every time they go home, they will have a big fight over such things and finally break up.

The result of this vicious circle is that after four years of marriage, Zhong Quantao becomes unwilling to go home. Spend the night outside under various excuses, sometimes without even saying hello.

Disadvantage 3: The inferior party surprised her to find that people who can't live without each other have become themselves.

With Ms. Zhai's proud character in the past, there is no room for men to neglect themselves. What's more, today's husband's money and status are given by his own family. But now she is surprised to find that she has become the one who can't live without each other in this sister-in-law relationship.

When they are in love, Zhong Quantao usually coaxes her, because as long as she is happy, she will satisfy all his material desires. But when they really got married, she became a cautious person, and her mood fluctuated with that man.

It is true that she is at a disadvantage in appearance, but what is more tragic is that she sacrificed a part of herself to make it perfect in order not to let people around her see her jokes and to make this unpopular brother-sister relationship last longer.

She doesn't want to let go, because bragging in front of her parents can control this man 15 years younger than her. But if she doesn't let go, she can't get the happiness she wants. Not only that, she will continue to use money to build happy lies.

Your partner's shallowness is your vision, and the unhappy appearance is only the skin of marriage.

It can be said that the biggest benefit that Ms. Zhai got in this sister-in-law relationship before and after was to satisfy vanity. Her topic revolves around the appearance of the third husband again and again, which shows that she essentially cares about the appearance of her spouse.

Although appearance is a choice for judging mate selection criteria, none of us can ignore it. However, it is too hasty to just regard good looks as a criterion for choosing a spouse.

Zhou said, "What kind of love is humble? When you are sick, weak, dirty and ugly, you dare not face him for fear that he will dislike you. It is normal to fall in love with your advantages, and it is true love to accept your unbearable. "

The misfortune of Ms. Zhai's marriage is not simply because she fell in love with her younger brother and sister, but because she is humble in nature. The wrong cognition made her think that they were not matched in appearance, but never thought that it was the mismatch in soul that made her love humble.

If a person really came for your money instead of you, your marriage was a disguised business from the beginning. In the later marriage, don't continue to have wild thoughts about the sincere collision of souls. Because it is impossible to cultivate delicate flowers with the wrong fertilizer.

To a certain extent, choosing a partner with a shallow understanding represents your personal vision. If we stubbornly choose a way of unintentional grafting, we must bear the consequences of a marriage without connotation.