"Mom, why are you always partial to your brother?" "Because you are a girl", is it terrible to prefer boys to girls?

With the development of society and the improvement of women's status, more and more people think that there are very few women living in patriarchal families like Fan. And in modern society, many families also like girls. However, you and I must admit that although there are fewer families that prefer sons to daughters than in the past, it does not mean that this is a very special case.

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Every night before going to bed, I will lie in bed and brush Tik Tok for half an hour.

I often see such a video these days: there is a lovely boy and child in the picture, running or jumping, so cute. A thin girl stood beside her and looked lonely.

Then her parents will leave a message: "We gave birth to a younger brother because we hope that one day we will be gone, and you still have a relative in this world and a home to go back to."

However, when the conversation turned, the parents said touching words, but the actual action was to give all the love, all the food and all the smiles to the younger brother.

I'm so happy about this, and sure enough, opening the comment section is a bombardment.

Netizen A said: If you want to have a son to support the elderly, don't flatter yourself. We are all adults, so we don't have to put on airs here.

Netizen B: Why do you have a son when you love your daughter so much? It would be better to buy her a suite if she has a younger brother. One day, I was bullied by my husband's family. There's at least one place to go.

Netizen C: If this brother doesn't get married, he may be able to go back. If he gets married and has a sister-in-law, it will be difficult for him to go home.

It seems that everyone is deaf and blind.

It is not difficult to find from the comment area that even with the development of society, there are still many families who prefer sons to daughters.

By my side, as far as I know, there are three such patriarchal families.

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Case 1: Daughter is the spilled water. If you marry someone, it has nothing to do with this family.

Lv Hui lives in a small county in Jiangbei. Besides himself, there is an unmarried brother at home.

Lv Hui often advises parents to care more about their younger brother and less about those irresponsible people. Father was deeply impressed and said, "You are a married woman, mind your own business."

Three years ago, the county began a vigorous transformation of the old city. The old house of the Lv family was demolished in exchange for the 2.7 million demolition money given by the government.

This is a number that many people dare not dream of, and the whole family is ecstatic.

After Lv Hui got married, her family was not well off, and Lv Hui always wanted to open a small shop, so she felt that as long as she got her share of the demolition money, she could rent a shop and do some small business, at least life would not be as hard as before.

Because the amount of demolition money is closely related to the number of people in the household registration book. Earlier, I heard that her family was going to be demolished, so when Lv Hui got married, her parents persuaded Lv Hui to leave her hukou at home. After demolition, Lv Hui may have some money.

But a month passed, but there was no news at home.

"Let's go back and have a look," Lv Hui said to her husband.

Lv Hui and his wife went back to their parents' home and met their parents. Mom was very happy and hurried to make lunch, but dad was indifferent.

After dinner, Lv Hui made it clear to his parents that he wanted to open a small shop, so that his family would not be so hard up as it is now. Because Lv Hui has to take care of the children after giving birth, she has never worked. Without a job, she has no income, which makes it difficult for her family.

Father took out two thousand yuan from his pocket and gave it to her. Said: "You are supposed to be a married daughter, and there is nothing at home without you. But dad knows it's not easy for you, so I will help you more or less. "

Lv Hui looked at his father's two thousand yuan in cash and didn't stretch out his hand. She felt that the father seemed strange, as if she were an unnecessary person.

Lv Hui smiled and said, "Dad, I can't take this money." After thinking about it, Lv Hui added: "We are still young. If we want money, we should earn more and earn less."

Father took the money back in a hurry. The money was hot, but he was very happy. Lv Hui left with her husband without saying anything.

On the way home, Lv Hui has been crying silently.

She remembers her poor family. After her husband and herself ran before and after her father was ill, she remembered that she usually took things home with big bags and small bags.

What can my brother do, but now he has nothing, is it because he is a girl?

After that, Lv Hui and his relatives borrowed some money to open a small supermarket. The husband and wife are busy all day, and the days pass by. Slowly, she goes home less and less every time.

First, my own shop is really inseparable from people, and second, something happened, just like blocking a wall, blocking people's hearts and never going back.

Birds of a feather flock together. Something happened to brother idle. I don't know when, this group of second generation began to play more and more crazy. If the creditor doesn't come to collect the house, the family is still in the dark.

More than two million demolition funds, a building, said no, my dad got out of bed. She is physically and mentally exhausted, taking care of her father in the hospital and her mother at home.

There are some things that we can't change after all.

After burying her old father, she took her mother to her supermarket and settled down. Mother said, "In fact, your father was ashamed of you before he died." He should listen to you and not give all the money to your brother. Instead of helping you, he hurt your brother. "

Is this the so-called life

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Case 2: "Your brother is married, so you can buy a house."

For a long time, China has been a typical farming society. After the marriage, the woman went to live in the man's house. Therefore, sons have a greater interest relationship with their parents to a certain extent.

In addition, for a long time, sons bear the responsibility of supporting their parents, and the executors of manual labor at home will form a patriarchal society.

However, with the development of the times and the continuous liberation of women's functions, this function has also been weakened.

Marriage is never about two people. It involves more aspects of the two families behind it. Sometimes parents may not point in the right direction, but it's a pity that Qin Xiao understood this too late.

In fact, she originally had a happy family, but some trivial matters at home became the last straw to overwhelm the camel.

Ignorance at the time of marriage, endless quarrels between families, parents' repeated intervention in her marriage, many demands on her husband, and various views on their marriage seem to be that it is not her but her parents who are married.

Finally, she became a single mother and returned to her family with her six-month-old daughter. She also gradually got used to the cynicism of her family.

However, soon, the family was making up their minds for her divorce of100000 yuan. The family took turns to go into battle, bombarded indiscriminately, and looked ugly. They would never stop until they got the money.

Qin Xiao's mother said, "Qin Xiao, you should help your parents no matter what this time. Your brother can't marry a daughter-in-law, and you can't get away with it. "

"But mom, that's the only savings for me and my children. If this last sum of money is given to my brother, what will my children do in the future? "

"Do you have any idea to talk about what deposits, things have priorities! We are a family, even if we buy a house, we can still live together. "

This last sentence is nothing good. Qin Xiao can't beat three tigers by himself. She finally made a decision that she regretted.

People can always see the bright side of things, but they don't know that every family has a difficult experience.

My brother bought a house and married a daughter-in-law. While her parents fulfilled their wishes, they also shouldered huge debts. She began to pay the mortgage with her parents when she was at home. Even she had to open the box downstairs and secretly pick it up.

All happy families are similar, but each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

Accurately speaking, it's not even her home. After a little nephew was added to the family, family conflicts finally intensified.

At first, it was a young couple's men's and women's singles, then an old couple's men's and women's mixed doubles, and finally it became everyone's Three Kingdoms kill.

She doesn't want to go home. She felt very tired at the thought of that home.

Let Qin Xiao give up completely and leave that home. One day after work, she went to the kindergarten to pick up her daughter. When she saw her daughter alone in the classroom, she felt ashamed.

"Baby, which child did you fight with?"

"Mom, my aunt hit me."

Qin Xiao's heart ached. She couldn't wait to rush home and had a bad fight with her sister-in-law. However, after hard work, the family still lives together, or they don't look up and see each other, or they are noisy. Parents always favor their younger brothers and sisters-in-law.

Finally, Qin Xiao made up his mind to move out and leave this small town. From then on, she only lived for children.

It is often said that parents are eager to love their children and are willing to make far-reaching plans. And their family only has a far-reaching influence on their son. So look at yourself.

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Case 3: "Your brother has no money to spend, so send it back." "Mom, I don't have that obligation!"

It is often said that gold is not enough, and no one is perfect. Of course, so are our parents. When we cannot change them, we can only change ourselves.

How long does it take a person to forget the harm that childhood has done to him? Chen Xiaoyun wanted to think, this life is impossible.

My alcoholic father, my gambling mother, and my always messy home are all my childhood impressions.

She clearly remembers eating hot pot when she was a child. My mother cooked some fish balls one by one. Three of them are for my brother, and six are ready, but there are still no fish balls like my sisters. ...

A few hours later, Chen Xiaoyun once asked his mother, "Mom, why do you always favor your brother?"? My sister is not your child, we are your own daughters. "

Xiaoyun's mother replied, "Because of your girl, the girl will get married sooner or later. When you get married, it's someone else's house. It will be your brother who will give us a pension in the future. You two sisters, I can't count on it. "

Later, after Chen Xiaoyun and his sister graduated from work, my mother said the most to them: "You two sisters should make money quickly, otherwise how will your brother marry a wife in the future?" Chen Xiaoyun's ears are grinding cocoons.

The whole university, her family is useless, but for the sake of her sister, she can't even finish college. She went to work, had her own family, and her parents reached out to her again.

"Why not send money home?" Qian Qian always has money!

Chen Xiaoyun said, "Don't I give you living expenses every month?"

Xiaoyun's mother still said, "Do you have enough money for the whole family?" Your brother doesn't even have a wife. Send some money back quickly. "

"I don't have that obligation!" Xiaoyun said sadly, "Mom, who do you think will marry her daughter to a gambler and family like us?"

"So you don't care?"

Xiaoyun sighed, her voice was full of despair. She replied, "Yes, for you, I have the responsibility to provide for the aged. But for my brother, I didn't. Your son is addicted to gambling, lazy and doesn't look for a job. It's your own fault. You are responsible! "

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As children, we have an unshirkable responsibility to provide for the aged, but we don't have to pay for their son's life, not to mention their selfishness.

Every adult should be responsible for his actions and his children. If parents prefer sons to daughters, don't blame their daughters for being cruel when they grow up.

Just like Chen Xiaoyun and her two sisters, they have lived in such a patriarchal family since childhood. They were wronged and sad when they were young, and they couldn't change it. However, as adults, they all have the right to choose their own lives.

Fortunately, the two sisters have their own ideas and are not led by their parents. When my sister went to college, her tuition and living expenses were all on her own, and so was Chen Xiaoyun, but fortunately she had her sister's help.

In these years after graduation, the two sisters have been away from home and seldom go home. They support their parents and pay their living expenses regularly every month, but other than that, they are determined not to "help their brothers".

In contrast, Lv Hui and Qin Xiao are not so lucky. They have been influenced by their own family all their lives, and even when they are adults, they can't get rid of the boulder that is pressing on them. Fortunately, the road is still long, and they still have time to change the status quo and let themselves live again.