After eighteen years of marriage, all couples take a closer look.

After 18 years of marriage, I, a 42-year-old woman, have been married for 18 years, and summed up some small feelings. Soon after I got married, I found that I was out of place with my husband. It was not a big deal, just some living habits.

For example, every time he goes to the toilet, he always doesn't mention the toilet seat. He doesn't care if he spills urine on it. When I go to the toilet, I will naturally get wet. For example, he doesn't pay attention to wearing clothes, no matter how expensive the clothes are, he doesn't care. He eats and rubs oil on his pants at will.

There are many such details. In short, I don't like them very much. I think he is full of problems and I can't help nagging him. But he thinks I'm too picky, which only limits his freedom.

This kind of nagging is much more. One day he broke out: Are you taller than me? Why should I do as you asked?

after that day, I thought about it seriously. Everyone has different living habits. Obviously, it is difficult for me to deliberately change him and make him a habit like me. More importantly, these are small things. Why can't I get used to him? Why are you angry about these trifles?

After eighteen years of marriage, I tried to turn a blind eye to his little problems. For example, when I go to the toilet, I remember to mention the toilet ring. For example, when he rubbed oil on his pants, I reminded him to change his pants and help him wash them.

when I stop trying to control him and change him, he gradually changes himself. I will be informed if I forget to mention the toilet ring occasionally. I stopped nagging him about these trivial things, but our relationship is getting more and more harmonious.

You should be able to accept the other half of your marriage, which is different from you in many ways, no matter your preferences or living habits. Instead of changing him, try to respect him.

after getting married, I decided that from then on, I was his man, and he was mine, and we were the closest place. So I have a lot of demands on him, that is to say, I want him to accompany him when doing anything, when shopping, and when watching a drama. Wherever he goes, he must take me.

if he goes out at any time, for example, to get together with his classmates, and I am alone at home, I immediately feel lonely and uneasy. I can't help calling him again and again and asking him when he will come back. Usually at this time, there will be a lot of worries, always afraid of what will happen to him.

In fact, when he did take me to the party, it was mostly a group of men. When I do go, I will feel bored. The topics they discuss are all men's favorite. Actually, I don't like it at all. The same is true when shopping. In fact, he doesn't like shopping and can't give good advice. When I go shopping with my best friend, he is not as happy as me.

Later, I realized a problem. Men and women have different preferences at first. If I want to catch him to accompany me, his heart is reluctant and my heart is unhappy, so why suffer? Later, I no longer asked him to accompany me in everything. He could get together freely with his classmates, and my best friend and I went shopping happily.

It doesn't mean that after marriage, two people must stick together all the time, but they have their own hobbies, their own space, their own friends and their own happiness.

every time I go shopping and see those handsome men's clothes, I can't help buying him one or two. I carefully selected it for a long time and spent a lot of money. But after buying it, he didn't say, he only wore it once or twice, saying that it was uncomfortable here and inappropriate there, so he stopped wearing it as an excuse.

another time, on his birthday, I thought of the old couple, but I needed some romance. The candlelight dinner even took two hours and fried two steaks. As a result, he just saw that moment and seemed surprised, and then told me that steak was not used to it. Can you give me a bowl of noodles?

I'm very angry. I think he's heartless, wasting my thoughtfulness and concern for him. He has no mood at all.

Every wedding anniversary, he will buy me a bunch of red roses, just like when he chases me. But after all, I am not a little girl in love. Roses are too impractical for me. You'd better buy me a bunch of delicious food. Later, I gave him some advice. He looked at me aggrieved and said, I think you like it.

you see, I thought he liked it, and he thought I liked it, but it turned out to be a grievance.

After eighteen years of marriage, we always fall in love in a self-righteous way, thinking that the other party will like it, but we are often disappointed. In fact, this is actually your preference, not what the other person really needs.