My husband gave me a cold war. Should I calm him down or punish him?

My husband gave me a cold war. Should I be cold or clean him up?

A cold ending.

First, he completely indulges himself: think about it, you may still be in charge of him before, when he will come back and who he will be with. But now you are cold to him, and as a result, he is even more unscrupulous and indulgent. He may have known where he was going before, but now he can't even see the figure.

Second, it is even more embarrassing to have to bow your head: especially with children, you often have to discuss something with your parents. When you have to bow your head, you talk to him and look at him like a villain. You said you couldn't stop it.

How to clean up.

The first move, be soft: how to sneak up on him from behind? This "sneak attack" is quoted, in fact, it is to let you hug him from behind. Because from the psychological point of view, there is a certain conflict in the front hug, so he is prepared, but you hug behind your back, and then give full play to your particularity, showing your grievances and your softness. It's hard for him not to be moved.

The second measure, static braking: in short, when you have been in a quarreling environment, both sides will feel hostile to each other, so you can avoid war by being cold. So at this time, let's calm down, don't make noise, don't make trouble. When he realizes that the current environment is safe, he will naturally let his guard down. At this time, if you talk to him again, he will easily listen.