What are the reasons why students break up?

This is the reason why many couples break up. When a person feels unfair in his feelings, he thinks that his efforts have not been rewarded.

In the short term, you can also accept that you pay more and the other party pays less; But after getting along for a long time, considering the state after getting married and starting a family, they can't accept that they have been wronged.

And pay includes: time, money, emotion and so on.

In the process of falling in love with each other, you spend a lot of money on each other, and half of your monthly salary is spent on love; When buying gifts for each other, it's your treat to eat, and it's also your treat to watch movies and drink milk tea. Compared with your contribution, the other party's contribution is nothing at all.

Every holiday, each other's birthday, you prepare gifts long in advance, and want to surprise each other.

But on your birthday, there are only lukewarm cakes. Every valentine's day, you have never received a gift.

This extremely unbalanced state of love is bound to make the passive party start to shrink back.

After retiring, you will make a decision after weighing the pros and cons: break up.

Lack of communication, cold treatment to solve problems

How many couples choose the cold war to deal with problems after conflicts?

Every time we quarrel and bicker, there are contradictions. Because of the differences caused by inconsistent concepts, because of the small things in life, there is no first time to deal with the problem.

A common scenario is usually like this:

Girl: You apologize to me.

Boy: Why should I apologize to you?

Girl: You made me angry, so you should apologize to me.

Boy: I was right. Why should I apologize? What did I do wrong?

Girl: Think for yourself.

Most contradictions and quarrels will become such a tit-for-tat situation.

The next development is often that boys respond to contradictions with silence, while girls are obsessed with problems and must admit their mistakes.

No matter who is at fault in this contradiction, girls should beat their boyfriends in momentum and let them admit their mistakes.

Boys tend to be more proud and won't admit their mistakes at the first time. If it's not their fault, boys are even less willing to bow their heads easily.