Would you choose to go with the flow or be independent?

Where is the life you want?

Life is a torrent, either drifting with the tide, being independent, or going smoothly. There is nothing wrong with any of these three.

I can be born, go to school, grow up, work, get married, have children, raise children, be filial, provide for old age, look back on my life, and quietly close my eyes. Then say goodbye to all perceptions of this world.

But I also wonder if I would be happy if I disrupted these rhythms, or even didn't do a few of them. Although I am not a person who follows the crowd, I am not a maverick either. I choose the way I like and live the life I want. I don't argue about right or wrong. I just ask myself whether I will be happy.

Although, work is something I can’t get rid of and is used to meet material needs; marriage is the strongest obstacle that I don’t want to carry out and want to directly take the next step; my parents are my most precious and important things. What worries me the most is the fragility of my heart; my lover is the greatest force that accompanies me and supports me.

This is a portrayal of my life following my own heart for more than ten years. I am different from the public, and a bit like Buick (this is a bad joke). Even though I still have a lot of longings that have not been realized, and there are still a lot of ambiguities that make me hesitate, I cannot re-choose my own decision.

Life is like a game. The biggest difference is that you can’t start over. No matter how badly you play the game, how unsatisfactory it is, or how glorious it is, you can only keep going. Going down, there is no turning back.

It’s your immature choice, your persistence, the years you want, and so on, none of which can be turned back or changed, nor does it erase any past functions.

How should we face the ups and downs?

The entire society also follows this model and provides us with certain help step by step. Therefore, following the masses, we don’t have to think hard. This is the life goal set by the world for us. We don’t need to be a pattern designer, we only need to achieve goals and fulfill expectations at each stage. You decide the degree of completion, so that you can have the same topics and think the same way as others. We usually define it as a participant in a game.

If you are the best in this game, you have accomplished these goals well enough, set better game rules, and developed more attractive game principles. We usually define it as the controller of the game.

The creator of the game is a model developed by humans from ancient times to the present that is beneficial to human reproduction and survival.

If we cannot escape these three models, there is nothing wrong with it;

It is understandable that some people are stable and smooth, and some people are ill-fated;

Follow As the game progresses, we are faced with the ups and downs of life, which must be experienced, crossed, and moved forward. I think this should be growth.

Growth has nothing to do with age. You may understand life at the age of 20, but you may not understand the world until you are 90.

When we are caught up in joys and sorrows, when we are caught up in a life of extravagance, when we are caught up in hardships, our growth can help us solve all problems.

The so-called solution is not forgetting, not letting go, being indifferent, only four words, face it with a smile.

?, this expression contains calmness after anger, respect after contempt, speechless choking, vicissitudes of life, and simple feedback after seeing all kinds of things in the world. This is a grown-up expression. It is the best portrayal of how we face life.

What will happen if I don’t play the game?

There are three important stages in life. The three stages I want to talk about are not ordinary life.

Birth, growth, aging

If I don’t like the rules of the game of life when I am growing up, can I break it and choose a willful life persistently?

This choice is very difficult, which means that we have to break the rules, take everything lightly, and move forward persistently.

This choice is very lonely, which means that you are the only one around you, and there is no one to accompany you to chat, discuss and progress.

This choice requires perseverance. Being a maverick is both desirable and abandoned. You have to say goodbye to the conventions of this society. But he grew up in the routine.

If we choose, will we really be happy?

If we continue, can we really persevere?

If we cannot measure the road under our feet, do we have any other options?

I have reached this day with doubts and stubbornness. Along with the distress and forgiveness, I insisted on giving myself a moment of peace of mind.

Wrong and right don’t seem to matter, and right and wrong don’t seem to have any influence.

However, whether you are happy or lonely can only be known in your heart.

Have you ever had such an experience or are you insisting on yourself and having unique insights? Hope to share with each other!