How miserable can a divorced middle-aged woman be?

I'll tell you how miserable it is! My husband and I divorced four years ago. I have nothing after the divorce. It was just given to me by my only daughter. I am. There's no place to live. Thousands of miles from home. I didn't tell her about my divorce in order not to worry my parents. My children and I live alone in a small house with only a dozen square meters. My daughter goes to a kindergarten nearby. I can only work part-time to make a living. . . Especially during the Spring Festival. Watch the lights. I can only spend the holidays alone with my daughter. Eat the simplest food. I don't remember buying clothes for myself within three years, and I only occasionally buy a discounted dress when I go shopping with my daughter. . Children always ask me? Mom, why don't I have a father? Why am I different from other children? . I can only lie to her. . Dad went to a far away place. . When you grow up, she will come back. . . She always naively thought that her father had gone to a place called faraway place! The saddest thing is that good people always help me introduce people. . But when I think about children, I don't think about them. I'm afraid it's not good for children. . . Every helpless night, every sick night, every night when I feel afraid and lonely. . . I can only stand silently. . Tell yourself. Everything will pass. Everything will be fine. . .

There are two divorced women in the office, both 43 years old. I feel that they are not painful at all, but happier than before the divorce, but they have different views on marriage and live different lives after the divorce.

Li Jie's child was given to the man. She chose to remarry and married a rich man ten years older than herself. This man has a good temper and especially likes Li Jie. Li Jie also enjoys the feeling of an innocent girl. Last year, she also gave birth to a big fat son to that man. The family is happy, and Sister Li speaks delicately.

Sister Yang doesn't think so. After the divorce, she lived with her son 10. She once made it clear that she would definitely not consider remarriage until her son grew up. Of course, Yang Jie has also had an affair with many men, either falling in love or living together. Sister Yang feels that life is very free now, and this state is very good.

In fact, many people think that after divorce, middle-aged women will be at a loss and have a hard life without a beautiful face and youthful beauty. But now women are very confident, and people are still very attractive in middle age, which is not as difficult as imagined.

We were together 15 years. From nothing to better conditions, he cheated. Maybe people who have not experienced that kind of pain don't know. The hardest thing after divorce is not the fear of not being able to live, but how hard it is for you to quit that person. The process is as painful as detoxification. When you are addicted to drugs, your whole body is shaking, your body is twisted, and your internal organs are rolling. You want to hit the wall, you struggle, cry and even lose your dignity as a human being. In short, that feeling is suffocating at any time. Now, I have to live with my ten-year-old son, work and take care of the baby alone. It's difficult, even embarrassing, but sometimes I think there are no obstacles. If I stick to it, everything will get better gradually. Please, a single mother like me.

At the age of 38, my mother left me with terminal lung cancer. A week later, her ex-husband filed for divorce. Later, I learned that he had already fallen in love with a woman 10 years younger than him. The woman is not divorced and unfaithful to her husband. My ex-husband and I were college classmates, and our relationship finally lost to time and reality. During that time, I knew what was worse. It took me a year to get out, let others go, let myself go, and I didn't entangle my past life. After that, I lived with my father, rebuilt my house, bought my own car and bought a house in the city. Sometimes I play with my friends when I'm not at work, sometimes I read books and raise flowers, and sometimes I go swimming and do my favorite things. At that time, I found that life is actually not so miserable, depending on what kind of mentality I use to live. I am 43 years old in a flash. I have been in contact many times and feel inappropriate. I always refuse the enthusiasm of others. I don't want to settle down at this age, especially those who have experienced love. They know what love is and how to protect themselves. They are used to a person's strength, even if a person's life is good, it is also a sign of love for themselves.

When I divorced, my child was only in the third grade of primary school, and his father refused to go out to work, so he divorced.

I went out clean, and my daughter fought hard to get it. A week later, when it rained heavily, he left it at the door of my unit. It broke my heart to see the child soaked to the skin and holding a bag of clothes belonging to her in her arms. He said that because he had no income and couldn't afford him, he sued me and changed my sentence. And on the grounds that he has no job and no income, he won't give me 300 alimony.

When she was poor, her children's tuition fees were almost uneven. The snow is knee-deep, and her father's home is 50 meters away from school. She dragged the child for more than ten kilometers until midnight.

After the divorce, the financial pressure eased. I used to have two children, but now I am only responsible for Niu Niu's living expenses. Part-time, frugal, paid a down payment loan to buy a house in 2009, when the house price was the lowest. Now my daughter is a sophomore, and the mortgage is almost over. Good days are coming soon.

So don't count on anyone, you are the most reliable.

I am 48 years old, too. The ex-husband was together for three or four years, abused by domestic violence for three years, and even divorced for seven or eight years. He is lazy, irresponsible, unwilling to make small money, and can't make big money. He has been engaged in pyramid schemes for several years, and he owes a fart. I have been divorced for 23 years, and I have devoted all my energy to the children and the house. Not only did he have no money to eat by himself, but he also married an old woman in a chicken shop. When I was sent abroad for medical treatment, my ex-husband would only bully me, curse me and kick me when I was unhappy. My son and daughter were also scared by him. His own parents were ill, and he didn't pay a penny until he died. I only care about my two children. My child and I both feel that we owe him in our last life. He came to collect debts. Since he was in his thirties ten years ago, he has asked my son to give him living expenses. It is better to raise a pig.

I just got divorced at the age of 48, and I have spent more than ten years for this family. After eight months of weaning, the child goes out to work to supplement the family. Every month's salary is used for family expenses, leaving no private money. He saved all his salary. I bought a house, and he took out the money and said I was useless and didn't save money. Because I have no money to decorate, I have to pay back the money my parents borrowed. He also told me that if he wants to be nice to me, he won't be nice to me unless I pay half of the money for buying a house. I haven't bought oil at home for several days. Tell the child to let your mother buy it. I didn't give money when I was sick, so I had to swipe my credit card to see a doctor. Divorce made a lot of debts in order to give me less money. The court said that his debts were not credible. In order to avoid getting into trouble with him, I put up with everything and charged less money. I promised to give you150 thousand, and I haven't given you a penny so far!

From now on, in order to live a quiet life from now on, you can feel at ease. No arguments, beatings and curses. So what if you have no money?

I am also a middle-aged woman. Objectively speaking, when a woman reaches middle age, her energy and physical strength are really not as good as before. Personally, after the age of 35, physical strength is indeed lower than before. From young to middle age, women have experienced marriage, marriage, childbirth, breastfeeding and parenting. Meanwhile, she has to work and take care of her family. It really takes a lot of effort, so her spirit and physical strength are not as good as before. When a woman reaches middle age, she will.

Divorced again, even because of men's problems After all, I have worked hard to run a family for more than ten years and paid a lot. Once divorced, my heart will be lost and painful for a while.

But in life, you have to face it. It is good to have a skill, at least to have a job and income. As long as you are emotionally stable, everything will be fine. Maybe you will meet more suitable people, reorganize your family, gradually let go of past grievances, and actively and rationally devote yourself to a new family life. As the old saying goes, you lose the corner and reap the mulberry ~

The hardest thing is that I used to be a housewife with little work experience. Maybe I'm divorced and have a child. It really depends on my strong willpower. Within my own ability, I can find a job to support my family. I used to cook, I can apply for a nanny, I can take care of the elderly, I can apply for a nurse, and I am interested in beauty and makeup. I can get to know it first, and then find a related job. It's really bad to go to the hotel. In short, be strong and rational in the face of life, and never be emotional. It is easy to repeat the same mistakes when you rely on a man at the lowest point of your feelings.

Maybe I used to be a rich woman, so putting down my face and living with dignity is the right way! In the past, a hit drama "My First Half Life" was a drama, but it made sense. As long as it is rational, it is not a problem to live a hard life and a better life!

There are also many examples in life. My childhood neighbor divorced because of domestic violence. A woman went to the north alone, and after many twists and turns, she even went to the temple. She was desperate and asked to become a monk. The owner of the temple is also very kind. She volunteered for a while, and the pain gradually eased. She went out to work again. She took a little money from home, bought food in the morning market and sold it alone. The man is still a village party secretary, and he is also very rich economically. She is kind, hardworking and able to live. Later, they got married, and they have been living well all these years. Letting her take care of the family's money means respecting and valuing her.

So, you see, there is no way to recover from doubt, and there is another village. As long as we don't give up on ourselves, behave well and do things in a down-to-earth manner, everything will get better gradually, won't it? !

Middle-aged women divorce, and some people will not become miserable, but become very happy.

One, my colleague, and two of them are divorced. One is to visit relatives in my hometown. It was already one o'clock at night when she went home by train. At that time, she couldn't open the door with a key. She had to wait in the corridor until the door opened and found her husband coming out with another woman. Later, she divorced. She fell in love with an American master online, and they fell in love. The boy is not married, but he loves her very much. He introduced her to his family in America, and they were very satisfied. He traveled to China, and then they got married. Now that they have two babies, they have successfully settled in the United States. Reminder: She got married at the age of 42, and her American husband is younger than her 14 years old;

Secondly, another friend, whose mother-in-law prefers boys to girls, felt the pulse of Chinese medicine when she was pregnant. Relatives of traditional Chinese medicine said that she was pregnant with a girl and asked her to drink a bowl of abortion medicine. Then she threw up secretly. Later, she gave birth to a boy. However, during her pregnancy, she was beaten and scolded by her husband many times. Later, when the child was three years old, her husband had a mistress. For the sake of her children, she endured humiliation. The man took advantage of her ability to manage and support the family and refused to divorce. When the child 13 years old, the man finally agreed to divorce.

As soon as she retired smoothly, she opened two clothing stores, a children's clothing store and a women's clothing store, which made sense to live alone.

Third, there must be good and bad divorce for women. However, some struggling women have arranged their lives better than before.

Fourth, people say that men are afraid of divorce. They have been divorced for less than a month and are anxious to find someone to cook and clean. Women are generally not afraid to live independently. They say they don't have to take care of many "big babies" like this. Maybe this "big treasure" is bullying people and has no respect for women at all.

Former colleague divorced at the age of 35.

In fact, she said, it should have been done a long time ago. After ten years of marriage, she hardly felt happy. From the beginning, the man's parents disdained her. She thought that she could change the old man's opinion through her own efforts after marriage, but instead of it, it became so fierce that her husband Ma Baonan began to quarrel with her.

Later, her husband became addicted to gambling. Both of them are migrant workers and their wages are not high. The man quickly lost all his money, secretly gambled with his family savings and lost all his money. He began to borrow money from friends around him. When his friend finished borrowing it, he began to borrow it from her friend. Only then did she know that she was heavily in debt.

She thought about this unfair life, but she didn't expect that her patience would only make others push their luck. So she decided to divorce, because there would be no more painful lifestyle than now.

They have a daughter who married the man after divorce. Later, I met the girl in dirty clothes. I asked her if she wanted a mother. She said that her mother said that she would come to see me in a few days. She is only five years old and may not understand what divorce means.

After the divorce, her life was very poor, and she had no house. She moved back to her parents' home. Shortly after the divorce, her mother had a car accident and was bedridden. She takes care of her mother when she is at work. She is very busy and has no time to be sad.

She has been divorced for about three years. She is beautiful, so someone pursues her, but she no longer believes in marriage and just wants to live with her mother.

To us outsiders, she seems to have a miserable life, but she says she has a dull happiness now and won't worry about quarreling with others. Now she has nothing and is not worried about losing it.

If we hear that a woman is divorced, we may feel sorry at first, but not everyone who is divorced is poor. They just went the wrong way and wanted to choose again. Who can't go the wrong way?

There are many women struggling in marriage in this world, and there are also many women who escape marriage and enjoy life alone. When people reach middle age, most of them will choose women who compromise their lives and have the courage to choose divorce. They either want to understand and escape from the fire, or they want to pursue a happy life. Such a woman, even if divorced, will not live too badly.