HR bird knows how to do personnel, not "personnel". How to avoid getting into social difficulties?

The work of HR is easy to offend people, and it is already a knowledge in the circle. An old HR bird said with a smile, do what you want and don't do what you want! Although it is a joke, it is enough to see HR's social dilemma.

A Dai consulted this HR old bird and summarized four kinds of social common sense for your reference.

Some scientists have proved that there is a golden distance in social interaction.

Within this distance, we can get along with others freely. If we cross this distance, we will feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, anxious and so on. Do you know this golden distance? Do you realize the importance of golden distance in social activities?

It is easy for HR to fall into a misunderstanding, thinking that as long as he is enthusiastic enough, even a friend who meets for the first time will be treated as a confidant who has known him for many years, but he doesn't know that he unconsciously infringes on others' social distance with enthusiasm.

The distance between us and our partners and customers should be kept at 0.5-1.5 meters, which is the golden distance in social interaction. Once the distance between you is less than 0.5 meters, it is easy to be embarrassed, such as the breath of breathing or even the tiny "raindrops". If the distance between the two sides is kept at 0.5- 1.5 meters, it is most appropriate to reach out and hold each other's hand without touching each other's body easily.

Eye contact is very important in interpersonal communication, and we can see their mentality, relationship and even subtle psychological changes.

When the people you are talking to avoid sight, they don't want to be seen by you. When he stares at you, he is very interested in it; If his eyes twinkle, it reflects mental instability or dishonesty; Also, if he doesn't want to make eye contact, he may be hiding something or feeling guilty.

Treat people with different relationships and look at different positions. When communicating with colleagues, eyes stay in the triangle area between eyes and mouth, which makes people feel very comfortable. This is a common gesture of eye contact in social situations. When you communicate with the interviewer, your eyes stay in a triangular area on the other person's forehead. This kind of gaze can make the atmosphere serious and make the other person feel formal.

A person's words and deeds can reflect a person's character. If you know the code word of sitting posture, you will know how to communicate in an appropriate way.

1) like to shake your legs: most of these people are smart and resourceful, and have strong acceptance, but they are not very patient. They are impetuous or anxious, sometimes giving people the feeling that they are not stable enough. When HR communicates with such people, they basically say something and go straight to the point.

2) Sitting in the first half of the chair: This kind of person is generally introverted, modest and polite, and is good at listening and understanding others. Most of them are mature, friendly and easy to be trusted. HR should be enthusiastic when talking to such people, and adjust the communication atmosphere.

3) The chest is close to the table and the legs are close together: this posture is introverted, stiff, a little shy and not confident enough. Most of such people are indecisive and inflexible. HR should be careful when talking to such people, to avoid hurting self-esteem because of inappropriate language.

4) Cross your legs: This kind of person is usually casual, sometimes arrogant, likes to find fault, likes to tell others what to do, and likes to make suggestions. HR needs to be tactful when talking to such people, so as to avoid losing the theme because of imprecision.

Have you found that different speech speeds represent different emotions?

Everyone has this experience. For the first time, we had prepared a five-minute speech and finished it in three minutes. The reason is that nervousness can speed up people's speech. When you give a speech, you dare not face the audience. If you want to finish your speech quickly, you will not be free to speed up your speech to release yourself.

Also, people who have always been eloquent suddenly become hesitant. There may be something hidden from you, so you need to pay attention. There are many cases about the relationship between speech speed and emotion, so I won't list them here. If you are interested, you can leave a message for A Dai.

Social intercourse in the workplace is an art of speaking. As a compulsory course in life, you are not qualified to refuse!