Do you regret marrying a girl far away?

When I was a child, my family often ate around a table. My parents, my brother, two sisters and six people are surrounded. I always hold chopsticks for a long time. My mother smiled and told a joke, "chopsticks are long, but they are far from getting married." I don't know what that is. I looked down at my two sisters. Both chopsticks are very long, but mine is the longest

If you use chopsticks for a long time, you will marry far away. Now, more than ten years have passed. The three of us are far from home, one is in Changzhi, the other is in Hangzhou, and I am in Xiamen.

I used to be too headstrong to know what a rare luxury it was to be with my parents. I always rush out. When I was in college, I went to school in Urumqi, thousands of miles away from home. Dare to go home only once a year. Only during the Spring Festival can the whole family get together.

Our parents are free-range. Where to work and where to go to college is always our own decision. I chose the city I wanted to go to, and I stayed away from that deep place-home again and again.

What is home? Only the place where the old mother and father are at home is home, where there are people who care about you the most and those closest to you in the world.

After working for three years, my sister and three girls got married at work. I have been in Xiamen for more than three years. Looking back on these three years in Xiamen and four years in Urumqi, I have never expected to have a day off. I just wish I could go home during the Spring Festival. And I am the farthest, always tossing and turning. My second sister can get home in three hours by high-speed train, and so can my sister. It's good for me to go home in one day.

It is even more difficult for children who travel far away to go home. When you go to college, you can stay at home for a month at will; I work for three or four days at a time, and I have seven days off during the Spring Festival, plus the time on the way back and forth, three days on the road and four days at home.

When I was young, I didn't want to go home. When I am mature, I always think of home with tears in my eyes. I fought back on the phone and said, "Mom, I'm fine. You should eat delicious food. "

We three sisters can only be regarded as children who travel far away, not married far away. The place where you leave home to work is your home. What is home for people like us? From a family, in a strange city, there is a person who cares about you. It's a modest place. It's home.

There is another kind of person who is different from others. They married far away.

No parents don't want their children to never leave themselves, right under their noses. But it's impossible. When I grow up, I have to accept small separations again and again. Birds should learn to fly, and children should go out and rush. Who wants him to stay at home?

Xiaonuo told me that she was very upset and fell in love with someone. Should she be separated from him because of her parents? Affection and love are multiple-choice questions, so we always have to choose one side and the other. In fact, Xiao Nuo is not married in a long distance, but her parents don't want her to leave her too much. Her mother wants her daughter to be downstairs in her house, so she can often drop in or something.

Xiao Nuo and her boyfriend are in love in college and have a good relationship. Boyfriend is the only son in the family and a well-off family; Xiao Nuo is not an only child, but also has a younger brother; The two houses are not far away, and it takes two hours by car. Before the Mid-Autumn Festival, Xiaonuo's boyfriend was going to visit, but his parents didn't agree.

"Ipoh elder sister, what should I do? I'm afraid I can't hold on. I can't talk to my mother about it now. She got angry as soon as I mentioned it. She wouldn't let me marry in a foreign country, saying it was embarrassing to find a foreigner. She didn't recognize my boyfriend and we met secretly. "

One kind of marriage that parents oppose is a girl who is about to marry far away. Parents' affection is understandable, and they always want their children to be around, always with them, and enjoy family happiness. But for Xiao Nuo, it is not easy to find the person you like, and the family members are quite similar. The key is to be friendly.

My advice to Xiao Nuo is that if this boy is really nice, his family is reasonable, and you are married and don't live together, you can consider continuing your efforts and getting the consent of your parents.

What is the best marriage? Men cherish you, you can have your own living space, free from the interference of both parents, and have the right to make decisions for your own affairs. This is your own little family.

I have read many articles before, and it is best for girls not to marry far away. There's a little misunderstanding here. The most important thing is whether the man you marry is worth it. You should polish your eyes.

In fact, there is nothing perfect or imperfect about marriage, and everything is relative.

Regarding distant marriage, if you are not strong enough, then choose someone close to you as soon as possible. What kind of person you want to marry is not his family. Relatively speaking, you have all left family of origin and formed your own families. No one wants to leave their home, but when we grow up, we will always face too many separations. This is life.

Dear girl, if you fall in love with a man and are about to divorce, I want to tell you some suggestions:

First, this man should be reliable, not a baby boy, able to live independently and take responsibility.

Ma Baonan, definitely stay away from him. A man who listens to his mother too much can easily distinguish right from wrong. If all men are like this, women are more likely to fall into the corner of their fantasies.

Second, if you can get married, you must live by yourself.

If you are married far away, live by yourself, not with your parents. If you live with your husband's parents, you will naturally become an outsider to them. Why are you an outsider? Obviously, you are married. This is your mother-in-law's house. Your mother-in-law is the hostess, but you are not.

Newborn families live with their parents on the premise of having their own home. Due to the differences in living habits between the two generations, there will always be many family conflicts.

Third, have your own work and life circle.

If you choose to marry far away, you must have your own life circle. You are financially independent and have a job, not a housewife. There is something wrong with women. Too much leisure is always easy to think. In my husband's circle all day, whenever there is a contradiction, it will intensify and I feel that I have no home. Two people are in conflict, and no one is talking around. At this time, I began to miss my family.

In fact, no matter where you are, it is the same. Marriages in which parents interfere too much are generally unhappy. Our parents are kind to us, but the lifestyles of the two generations are different. It is difficult for you to have your own initiative in life, because of the differences in education and the inherent control of parents.

Whether it is a long marriage or a long journey, we all want our own life circle and have some initiative in our own life, which is very important. Why did you run so far? I don't care if I run so far, and I have potential rebellious mentality.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, it is not difficult to find that we have been fighting for the initiative in our lives.

No matter where people are, they need to have their own life circle and sense of belonging. People are afraid of loneliness. It has been a long day. You two will stare at each other all day, and your relationship will get tired after a long time.

Why are most girls who marry far away unhappy? If they don't have their own family and life circle and are strangers, they will easily imagine themselves as strangers. I am an outsider, and there is no one closest to me here. At this time, if her husband doesn't turn to her for help, he will feel that he is losing money. I married you, and you still treat me like this. Everyone treats me like an outsider, and you don't care about me. Do you think you will be happy if you keep thinking like this?

If it is such a girl, I advise you not to marry far away.

No matter where you are in this world, you cannot trust a man. It's up to him later. It is out of the question. No matter who you choose, no matter how good and reliable this man is, you should have your own life circle and initiative, instead of blindly paying for men and telling the world that you are selfless.

It's not so much that I regret marrying far away as that I can't be independent and integrate into the surrounding life circle.

Do you really know what kind of life you need?

You long for freedom, but can you bear the blame of life alone?

You don't want to listen to your parents, but can you manage without their help?

If you can't do the above, you'd better not choose to marry far away. Even if you knew, you asked for it.

My boyfriend and I came from afar and both settled in Xiamen. Since they left school, they have been able to earn money by themselves, so they have never asked their families for a penny. Even buying a house depends on oneself. What kind of life do you want? Two people discuss it. Living in a small county is not what you think. You always have to grow up and leave home. If you want a child, the child is by your side, but can you stubbornly delay him? It is out of the question.

No one wants to be separated from their families, but what you choose in your life circle is what you imagine. A girl who is married far away, you should consider this carefully.

Whether it's a long-distance marriage or a long journey, if you want to chase a piece of sky, you must always leave home. This is the reality, there is no way.

If you stay outside for a long time, you will find that you can't go home to that small country. Even if I have time to stay at home for ten days, I can't stay any longer. Life circle and work circle, everything you adapt to has become so unsuitable, and you will find that I don't belong here anymore.

As for the girl who marries far away, I want to warn:

If the man is reliable, the in-laws are reasonable, you have your own life circle and live independently, and you also have your own house, OK, you can choose to marry far away.

If you only look at love and say that you want to marry this man because he loves you, then I can conclude that you will not be happy at all.

You put the happiness of your life absolutely on this man, and you get nothing. Even if you have a few happy days, over time, you will still regret your choice and your long marriage.

Never pin the happiness of your life on a man. We want to marry a man who loves us and him, but he is not the whole of your life, he is just a part of your life.

I have seen such a saying before, people have to be parents to know that they can't live without it, but we can only feel more and always leave home. There's nothing we can do. Life can't be satisfactory. We always grow up habitually, and then leave our parents constantly.

Even if we are parents in the future, we must be like this. How can you and I stop the child from moving forward? By the same token, no matter who they are, they will always belong to each other. Be filial to your parents, be kind to yourself and live a good life.

Travel far or marry far? If you want to be happy and live for yourself, you must keep your eyes open and rely on yourself.

? A thoughtful housewife. Wechat official account: Liming ID: yibao 8690