57-year-old woman on the road: Su Min, a person's Spring Festival.

This Spring Festival, Su Min is alone in Hainan.

Hainan is not as warm as expected. The strong wind a few days ago made Su Min afraid to come out in the tent. Fortunately, the wind stopped, the sun came out again, and Hainan became a warm Hainan again. From September 2020 to now, Su Min has been driving south, from Zhengzhou to Xi 'an, and from Chengdu, Yunnan to Hainan. The scenery of five months is a life that Su Min has never experienced in 57 years.

Now that the Spring Festival is over, Su Min wants to experience a person's Spring Festival, a clean and comfortable Spring Festival. For Su Min, behind the excitement of the Spring Festival reunion is the bound life trapped in various identities such as daughter, wife, mother and grandmother. Now, away from the crowd and excitement, Su Min wants to be herself.

This Spring Festival, there is no plan.

The plan for the Spring Festival is to drive around and go anywhere, find a beach to park, get warm, watch the sea by yourself and take a walk. This is Su Min's idea of a perfect New Year.

"I walked out of the busy family and wanted to be quiet. In the past, there were too many people in the family and there was no quiet time. " Su Min said that during the Spring Festival in the past few decades, she had had enough of "excitement" and she couldn't breathe. In the past Spring Festival, Su Min's husband will go back to his hometown Zhoukou for the Spring Festival from Zhengzhou. Su Min went back with him at first, but her mother-in-law had no place to live for Su Min, so she had to stay with her relatives, and everyone else was busy. Only Su Min feels like an outsider.

"Living in other people's homes is embarrassing everywhere. Especially in the morning, the winter in the north is so cold. I really don't want to get up too early, but I'm afraid to lie down and make jokes. " Su Min doesn't want to follow her husband back to his hometown for the New Year. Her husband didn't want to accompany him, so he went back to his hometown for the New Year. Su Min often chooses to be on duty in the New Year. Later, after her daughter got married, she went to her husband's house for the New Year, and Su Min was alone in coping with and arranging the festival for the New Year.

Su Min didn't go back to his hometown for the Spring Festival this year. Her daughter and son-in-law expressed their support. She felt that the epidemic was serious and it was safer to stay in the warm south. The husband didn't call-his parents-in-law had passed away, but he still chose to go back to his hometown to spend the New Year with his younger brother.

It is obviously more comfortable and pleasant to stay alone in Hainan. January in Hainan is like spring in the north, so it is enough to wear a sweatshirt suit and sportswear coat. Su Min drives her little white POLO car, with self-driving equipment such as tents on the roof and pots and pans in the trunk. Oil, salt, sauce and vinegar are all available, and she can stop as she goes. This is her home on the road.

One should also live a good life. Before the festival, Su Min went to Wenchang's farmer's market to buy food. Tofu is four yuan a catty, and Su Min bought half a catty, which can't be eaten by one person. Before the holiday, the market price rose, and a plate of eggs rose from 20 to 24; Pork belly is 28 pounds, and the price is also rising; Chili must be bought. Su Min loves Chili, but because her husband doesn't like spicy food, Su Min hardly put Chili in cooking in the past few decades. This time, she bought 10 yuan peppers at one time, and the booth was mainly the "hottest"; When Sakyamuni was the sweetest, I bought one, "I want to try it because I haven't eaten it", a 28 yuan; With seasonings such as oyster sauce, it took nearly 150 yuan to visit the vegetable market.

"I can't go out to buy things. I really feel that it hurts to spend this money. " Su Min smiled, "no money, I still go back to eat vegetables and carrots. In this case, I will not feel too much pressure. " After repeating "holidays are really expensive" several times, Su Min explained it as if to enlighten herself. "After all, it is a holiday, treat yourself."

Leave the "roommate"

In the crowd, Su Min, 57, is not conspicuous. She is not tall, not slim, with dark skin and thick fingers. At first glance, she is a long-term domestic expert. Hair neatly combed back, tightly tied into a ponytail, speaking with a distinct Henan accent.

She seems to be the most ordinary woman in life. Even a glance at her will remind me of the first half of her life: I grew up according to the requirements of my "sister", got married step by step, took care of my husband and children, waited on my in-laws, diligently managed the housework, and then helped my children take care of their grandchildren when they became grandmothers or grandmothers. In such a woman, people can easily find the shadow of their mother or relatives. Dedication is the key word of their life. It is hard to imagine that a romantic trip like Wan Li would happen to her.

"I escaped from that house, and I will be depressed if I don't come out." Su Min said that the family suppressed suffocation and she felt that she could not live any longer.

"Why do I want to go to road trip?" Su Min said that she has answered this question countless times. She used to take care of her daughter at home, and many things came patiently. But now that the grandson has gone to school, it is impossible to continue living in his daughter's house. When I return to my home, it will become a daily relationship between me and my husband.

"Our family is AA. My husband loves money. Spending a little money on me hurts. I don't want to argue with him. " Su Min said that her relationship with her husband is more like a "roommate". When she is at home, she has a room and a room for herself. Later, they came to their daughter's house to see their grandchildren, so they slept on bunk beds and "lived together".

The husband keeps the money clearly and never spends a penny for himself. During the Spring Festival, he visited his relatives. Relatives on the husband's side pay for gifts, and Su Min, a relative of Su Min's family, spends money everywhere.

"I don't think we are like a family. I also cook, clean and wash clothes for him for free every day. If we say that as a family, we should do all these things, (premise) is that we are the same as the economy. He has a pension of more than 4,000 yuan every month, but he never gives me money. " Speaking of her husband who has lived with her for more than 30 years, Su Min doesn't have much expression on her face, and her tone is as calm as describing other people's stories.

Su Min can accept a clear distinction in money, but her husband's cruel violence once made Su Min suffer from depression.

"The economy doesn't give me support. He (husband) is always sarcastic, picking on you, and picking on every sentence. " Su Min said that her husband always looks at himself with a critical eye and speaks to himself with a striking tone. Everything he does, her husband will object, and then find out the shortcomings, enlarge this shortcoming, attack everything of Su Min, and even care about when to cook, when to sleep, and how much her husband cooks. Ask your husband why he is picky, and he will stare hard. "Do you blame me for being picky when you do something wrong?"

Su Min said that slowly, he stopped talking at home. When my daughter was young, I wanted to put up with it for her. When my daughter is older, she feels that she is looking for someone. Divorce will make her disgraced, but she still has to put up with it. When her daughter got married, she began to help her take care of the children, because the children and her husband had many differences, but for the sake of family harmony, she put up with it.

"I put up with everything he said, so I can't speak. But after a long time, I feel uncomfortable and depressed. I can't live like this anymore. I want to go out. I want to go to road trip. It's vast outside, and I can go wherever I want. " Su Min said that when she was most depressed, she was suicidal. I have endured it for most of my life, and now my grandchildren are in kindergarten. I really don't want to continue to endure it. The car was bought in installments before, and the down payment was 40,000 yuan, including 30,000 yuan for my daughter and myself 1 10,000 yuan. I work as a shop assistant to make money and pay back the loan every month. My husband doesn't have a penny, so he buys insurance every year. If my husband drives a little too much gas, he will take it out and calculate the money alone.

"As long as you live with him, it is depression and pressure." Speaking of which, Su Min, who has always put her hand on the steering wheel casually, sat up straight in a relaxed state and her voice rose. "I can't stand it. When my nephew goes to kindergarten, I will go out. "

Tents, outdoor power supplies, lockers, pots and pans, water tanks ... Su Min added things one by one. Before the second time, she seldom traveled. These travel equipment are basically learned by watching the travel videos of outdoor bloggers through mobile phones. "Go out that day is September 24th. As usual, the son-in-law sent the children to school, and the husband went out to play with his bag on his back. I left the community in my daughter's voice. " Su Min said, "I am free."

Being a mother, a wife, a daughter-in-law and a grandmother

Who runs away from home when going out, Su Min said it has nothing to do with courage. "I didn't think so much, just want to be alone. To be honest, if the home is very good, who wants to run out? "

Travel needs money. Before going out, Su Min saved 1.6 million. After buying equipment and maintaining the car, there are only more than 2,000 yuan left, and the monthly pension of more than 2,000 yuan is Su Min's whole source of income.

In order to save money, try not to take the highway, don't go to scenic spots with expensive tickets, and cook most of the meals yourself. "Leisurely all the way, no plan, want to go, want to stop. Drive two or three hundred kilometers every day, find a place to rest, and don't catch the night road. When it's windy and rainy, just rest. Enough money, always on the road; Stop for a few days if you have no money. "

In this way, go south and go to a warm place. Su Min posted her story all the way online and learned video editing, which was one of the preparations she made before leaving. A few days after the departure, the video of "50-year-old aunt traveling alone on the road" suddenly caught fire on the Internet. Fans from all over the world gathered in Su Min's comment area, and fans warmly invited Su Min to be a guest. Some fans provide accommodation, some send some materials such as meat and vegetables, and some friends from go on road trip who meet on the road often help Su Min who travels alone, some carry a bowl of rice, and some escort him. All this made Su Min feel flattered at the same time.

"I was the boss when I was at home. There are two younger brothers here. My husband, who was introduced, got married only after meeting two or three times before marriage, and soon had children after marriage. Never been taken care of. " Su Min said that she has always been a sister, a wife, a mother, a daughter-in-law and a grandmother, and has always taken care of people around her. I have never received so much love since I left home, whether it was the help I got during my trip or the support I got from netizens. I feel understood and recognized. "finally be yourself and don't have to live for others."

In stark contrast to the kindness of strangers, the day after Su Min left home, her husband called the only one. At first, she thought her husband cared about himself. As a result, her husband just asked why he deducted his ETC high-speed fee. "He said you deducted the fee yesterday. When will you transfer the money? "

Fortunately, after leaving home, all the unhappiness brought by family can come to an end. After leaving home, the smile on Su Min's face was obvious. She photographed the beautiful scenery on the road and the friends she met, and talked with netizens with the lens. After the video was on fire, the video also had some income, which supported Su Min to taste food occasionally. "Hainan's chicken coconut, even drank three bowls of chicken soup, delicious." In a small restaurant on the roadside, one person and a half chickens didn't finish eating, so they packed up and went back to eat. One person spent more than 100 on a meal. Although I feel distressed, I am very happy to eat. Su Min holds her mobile phone with a selfie stick and praises food for the camera. "Eating a bite of chicken and drinking coconut juice is really a wonderful enjoyment."

I finally found myself.

A person's trip, a person's Spring Festival, Su Min feels deserted and more leisurely. Where will you travel in the future? Su Min said she didn't know; Will you be separated from your husband? Su Min said no, "I have been like this for most of my life."

When it comes to her husband's advantages, Su Min doesn't hide it. "He is very kind to foreigners and very enthusiastic. Everyone says that he is kind, and he laughs when he doesn't talk. "

In addition, although the relationship between husband and wife has been deadlocked, the husband works hard and is good to the children after becoming a grandfather. "He just doesn't like me, but he can't live without me. After this life. "

Su Min said that if she could go back to her youth, she would never settle down. She will not feel that the other party is "honest and has a formal job" after the blind date, nor will she submit to humiliation for her daughter because she is "unfair to her daughter's growth"; I won't wait until now to have the courage to go out of the house and miss the original good time in my life.

The daughter told Su Min that after she left, her father was very comfortable at home and played ball every day, that is, the little grandson would clamor for his grandmother.

"Many people envy me and say that I want to live this life, but many things are inseparable. Either the children are too young, or they have not retired, or they have to take care of the elderly." Su Min said that everyone's situation is different. Not everyone can go out and take a long trip to road trip, but it's easy to travel close. "It's not that everyone has to travel away from home, but people have to be themselves and live for themselves."