A year after I married my ex-wife's best friend, I became my ex-wife and my 70-year-old mother became a servant. What happened?

Readers who are familiar with me will know that I really seldom touch the topic of "betraying marriage". I know everyone is concerned about this issue, but I don't want to write it because I always think this topic is meaningless.

It's meaningless because betrayal is not worth forgiving. Even if the other person is wrong, you can talk, you can choose to leave, you can choose to end.

Even if there are thousands of reasons to desecrate the sanctity of marriage and dislike each other, it is absolutely wrong.

Betrayal is never worth analyzing. That's my rigid idea. There are contradictions between husband and wife, friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and problems between relatives. Even if you pour dog blood again, the problem will still be a paste. I can understand the whole story and analyze the mistakes of both sides.

But betrayal alone is obvious malicious harm, which has gone beyond the scope of family conflicts.

And those who betray are not qualified to regret.

After all, they are all adults, not children. There is no turning arrow before opening the bow. Some things, if you do it, you will definitely do it. If you do, you will pay the price. This is your own karma, you can only bear it yourself.

Wang Yu is a successful man. In his early forties, he started his own small company and made a lot of money. In front of people, people have to call him "Boss Wang". Later people also envy his life, successful career, happy marriage, children, everything is very happy.

Originally, his life should always be envied by people, but now he is still "Boss Wang" in front of people, and he will still be complimented. Later, people secretly ridiculed him and laughed at him because of his second wife.

Since he married his second wife, his life has completely changed.

He married none other than his first wife's best friend, and it was because of this special status that he was criticized at the beginning of his remarriage. In addition, he divorced his ex-wife for less than two months and married a second one. Even if he didn't say it, outsiders guessed the story.

Many of his sincere friends advised him not to get married, but he didn't care at that time and still felt that he was right:

"They don't understand that she and I really love each other. With her, I can feel real happiness, which I can't feel with Yan Liu (predecessor). "

He thought that he married true love, even if he suffered some strange eyes and even some cynicism, it was worth it.

But after he got married, he found that the reality was far from what he imagined.

Zhang Ting (current) was considerate and obedient to Wang Yu before marriage, but suddenly changed after marriage.

Before getting married, Zhang Ting often cooked for Wang Yu. When Liu Yu is drunk at night, he will cook rice porridge and hangover soup and feed it to him bite by bite.

However, after the marriage, Zhang Ting didn't do any housework except buying by credit card at buy buy and spending in major shopping malls.

There's no need to be Zhang Ting. Wang Yugu has a nanny, whom Wang Yu invited to take care of her 70-year-old mother.

Once upon a time, there was no nanny at home. While Yan Liu was here, Wang Yu took her mother away from her hometown, and Yan Liu has been taking care of her.

My mother-in-law is old and has some Alzheimer's disease. She doesn't remember. She needs company. Wang Yu is very busy at ordinary times, so he has no time to take care of his mother, so he asks Ada to quit his job and take care of his mother at home. Yan Liu used to be a nurse, and she has always been the head nurse, but in order to reassure her husband, she finally agreed.

The old lady is ill and has a big temper. Sometimes she often curses for no reason. Yan Liu is not angry, but she always coaxes her mother-in-law. Yan Liu takes good care of her mother-in-law, and Wang Yu is always at ease with her.

But Zhang Ting can't. After she got married, she left without waiting on the old lady for a week.

"Take care of your mother, I can't do that. There is too much housework at home. Please find a nanny quickly, or I will go crazy. "

Compared with the latter, the former is immediate. In fact, since then, Wang Yu has some regrets. He suddenly felt that marrying true love was a mistake, or that this so-called true love was also a mistake.

However, the one who should get married is already married. When I got married, I swore that I would never regret it. Now I dare not punch myself in the mouth.

But after a long time, he discovered that he had met all kinds of people and thought he could see through people's hearts at a glance, but Zhang Ting was completely wrong about this woman.

Zhang Ting's former disguise was completely removed, and Wang Yu found this woman crazy.

"Things at home, she doesn't care about anything. What else does she do? She makes her face look like a sculpture. She goes out to bars every day, goes out for the night, and often comes back drunk after midnight.

Worst of all, I came back once and found my mother squatting on the porch cleaning her shoes.

I asked him if she denied it, but I'm not a fool! Obviously, my 70-year-old mother is a patient and has to be used as a servant.

Before I got married, I really didn't find her such a woman. She was a student brought out by my ex-wife. She is very naughty and often comes to my house to play with my ex-wife. I looked at her from a distance and thought it was cute.

When you talked to me, I was innocent, inexperienced and unforgettable, but now ... it's a long story. "

He didn't realize zhangyan's madness until he thought about divorce.

"If you divorce, I will spread the news of our past, go to your company and tell every employee that I want zhangyan to know, although I don't know where she is hiding. She won't take your two sons.

What do you think I'll do? You married me, but you refused to have children with me. Aren't you still thinking about your precious son? If you don't care about me, I can't believe you don't care about your son. "

Zhang Ting this woman, crazy, but also very smart, she knows that Wang Yu is not a good husband, but she is a good father.

Since Yan Liu knew about them, divorced and left with the children, Wang Yu never stopped looking for them. In fact, Wang Yu knew that Yan Liu lived in his parents' house and his children were there, but Yan Liu and his parents-in-law hated him and closed the door on him, so that his children could transfer to other schools and he could not see each other. Wang Yu didn't want to make a big deal out of it. After all, his affairs are not honorable, and there is nothing he can do about it.

Zhang Ting is very clear about this. She is a woman who has become a master. She has all the tricks and means, and she is cruel enough. Otherwise, how can she win the fruits of others' victory?

Some men always think that women outside are gentler, more sensible and more interesting than women at home, but in fact that's just what they like and makes you feel attractive, but in fact it's just being played by others.

Zhang Ting at this time also betray oneself, unexpectedly let wang yu this originally strong man, also helpless to her, can only be unable to reprimand.

"You look like a bitch. Why do I have a crush on you? " "That means we are made for each other. No, the jackal and the butcher. What did Liu Ting do to you? " Zhangyan's words gave Wang Yu a rude awakening. It suddenly occurred to me that when he divorced a year ago, his bad attitude towards zhangyan and her fearless attitude after she found out made her lead a totally clean life, cold and heartless, bullying her without a job and unable to do anything. What's the difference between Liu Ting and now?

"I finally tasted the taste of my ex-wife, living like my ex-wife. I regret it. "

Wang Yu tried several times to find his ex-wife, only to find what he saw. His ex-wife didn't want to look at him at all, treating him like a snake and a scorpion, which made him sick.

Wang Yu said that when he confessed, although he was sincere and sincere, I was indifferent because, in my opinion, he weakened the fact that he had hurt his wife, but only highlighted the contrast between his ex-wife and his current wife.

He misses his ex-wife and wants to get back together with her. He regretted crying at first, but that was because he suddenly realized that this one was not as good as the last one, which not only made him live the same life as his ex-wife, but also made his old mother, who could have been a bully, feel the same way. This just feels uncomfortable and regrets.

But what if this one is better than the last one? Will this person say it again? I think the result is obvious. He won't.

Why, when I face the topic of "betraying marriage", I take such a tough attitude, in fact, not only because it is too difficult to discuss.

Because traitors are used to this mentality: they like the new and hate the old, and they don't stay nostalgic. Unless the new one is not as good as the old one, he will think of the old one as good, or simply find the next one.

I know that many women actually choose to forgive this problem the first time.

It's true. Although everyone talks tough, but when it comes to doing it, it's a dead duck's mouth shut. Think of men's goodness, and then choose to forgive them with a soft heart, or eagerly look forward to the prodigal son's return.

Or because of some practical factors, I have to choose to forgive, endure the nausea of eating flies and continue my life.

Why bother? With the first time, there is a second time. New Lei Zhi said a word in Mr. Love, which revealed that the essence of men is that it doesn't matter whether the food at home is good or not, and the most important thing is that Baba that has not been eaten outside is fresh.

Once you forgive, you will forgive countless times. In the end, only you hurt yourself.

Wang Yu's wife is an upright woman, and she also understands this truth. When she found out the truth about her husband's betrayal, she cut the gordian knot and divorced, out of sight, out of mind, and completely drew a line with these two people.

Now Wang Yu regrets that he didn't give the opportunity at all, that is, bullying is unforgivable, and he doesn't even bother to look at his ex-husband.

If most women can do this, there won't be so many so-called "dissatisfied wives". Just like Wang Yu's ex-wife said, if you don't cherish your man, why do you have to grieve for him? Who shouldn't get a divorce?

Live carefree, don't just add trouble. Although this philosophy of life is rough, it is not rough. Live well, okay? Why do you feel depressed and miserable for someone who shouldn't be worth your trouble and trouble?

You are dead set on him, and he gives you mammary gland hyperplasia and hysteromyoma, or lets yourself become a wolf and a leopard, isn't it good?

But the most important thing is that women should always give themselves confidence and have the ability to support themselves and their children.

When you want to leave, this self-confidence will be the greatest help to your life turning point. If you don't encounter this kind of bad thing, your self-confidence will also become the support of your family status, which will benefit you without harm.

Remember, women must not relax themselves.