What should I do if I look down on my loved ones when I am down and out?

I saw a question on Douban: What should I do if I am too poor to look down on my relatives? As soon as I saw this question, I thought, after all, relatives are relatives, so I look down on them, probably because I am angry. But the next answer made me very shocked.

Some of these interviewees said that they were looked down upon by caring lovers, some said that they were looked down upon by their parents, and some said that their children looked down upon them. This is very shocking. A down-and-out person may be unlucky, but I didn't expect that even the closest relatives don't like it.

In fact, in this world where the poor love the rich, it is the same everywhere. Even in America, there is a woman named Anna who has not escaped the fate of being rejected by her children. She grew up in the countryside, and her parents are honest farmers. 18 years old, she married a farm worker and gave birth to 1 1 children.

Anna has never been to a big city. She has been living in that small ravine in the country, with her children and her husband's family, and has only been to a nearby town as far as possible. In this way, 40 years have passed. When she was over 60 years old, her husband died unexpectedly, and she became penniless, so she had to live with her youngest son. However, her kannika nimtragol looked down on her, thought she was a burden, bossed her around and sometimes abused her.

Although the youngest son still loves the mother and son, he has been angry with her for a long time under the encouragement of his daughter-in-law. Anna felt extremely chilling. I didn't expect my own flesh and blood to treat me like this. She brought them up with great pains, but she was looked down upon by her own flesh and blood because of poverty. She doesn't want to do this anymore.

Resolutely returned to the house where she and her husband once lived, picked up the brush and began to learn to draw. She overcame the difficulties of life and insisted on painting by herself. An old lady who painted with a brush often appeared in the fields and hills of the village, and the villagers began to think that she was crazy. But she finally finished her first painting, autumn on the farm. Once published, it attracted great attention and love from new york people, and was finally exhibited in France. The Louvre Museum in France bought her exhibition for 654.38 million yuan. Countless newspapers and TV media have reported this matter.

Finally, Grandma Anna achieved great success. She got rid of poverty, gained fame and fortune, and her children began to respect her. What can we learn from Grandma Anna? I think there are two main points:

First, we should respect ourselves and give ourselves confidence.

When relatives look down on themselves, our hearts are extremely painful. Why do you say that? Because an outsider looks down on us, it is easy to understand, because they have nothing to do with us. It is natural and normal for them to look down on themselves, because we are poor.

However, when our closest relatives and loved ones look down on us like this, it is just adding salt to our wounds. We didn't get the sympathy and help from our relatives, but it was emotionally unacceptable to be hurt by them. What is the difference between this and outsiders?

However, we should think so. After all, relatives are not saints. They are also ordinary people. They have the feelings of ordinary people and love rich people. We should understand and not blame them.

But our hearts are very painful. We may belittle ourselves and think that we are useless, even our relatives look down on us. Actually, let's not think so. How can anyone be smooth sailing? Isn't the road of life full of bumps? When others look down on you, you should look up to yourself. When others say you can't, you should say you can. It's never too late to start from scratch. Just like grandma Anna, she began to learn painting in her 60 s and achieved great success.

Second, we must have good talents, so as to solve practical difficulties.

There are two foundations for people to stand on in the world, one is character, and the other is knowledge and talent. We must have at least one available talent in order to make contributions to society and get corresponding rewards. This is what we often call a rice bowl. You don't have any talent, that's no good, because then you won't have a job to eat.

It's hard to be looked down upon by relatives, but the problem of not having a job is more serious than your survival plan. People are capable of learning. Without skills, we can learn. When we get home, we don't have to worry about our livelihood. The stronger your housekeeping skills, the more rewards you will get, the richer your family will be, and then others will not look down on you.

People are plastic. When others look down on you, it is actually God who kindly reminds you to work hard. Just like the American grandmother who was rejected by her children, she never complained about life, but actively sought change, worked hard, taught herself to paint, and finally became a favorite painter.