Reading Zheng Boke Duan Yanyu

Zheng Boke Duan is from Zuo Zhuan, which tells the feud between three important figures of Zheng, Wu Jiangshi and Duan Shu in the Spring and Autumn Period.

What is the relationship between these three people? To put it simply, Uncle Duan is a brother, and Uncle Wujiang is their biological mother.

? This is the real blood is thicker than water. However, these three people have staged a cruel power struggle game for 22 years.

? Finally, I gave my biological brother Uncle Duan to K.O. Of course, K.O here didn't really kill him, but completely ruined his political life and expelled him from Zheng, so that he couldn't resist any more.

? The book says, "So I married the Chiang family and vowed,' It's better to be buried and never meet again!'" "Regret after the job is done. "What does this sentence mean? That is to say, at first, Zheng Zhuanggong wanted to exile his mother, Wujiang, to this small corner of Ying (now northwest of Linying County, Henan Province) and never meet each other, even if he died, he would not die for her.

This is a decisive sentence. In an authoritarian society where the rulers strongly advocate "filial piety first", saying this is tantamount to lifting your veil and giving yourself a slap in the face.

? Therefore, Zheng Zhuanggong felt very guilty and a little regretful. Why regret it? I'm afraid everyone will laugh at him for giving up his own mother, which is against filial piety. His idea was seen by a doctor named Uncle Yinggao at that time, so he persuaded Zheng Zhuanggong after his early morning visit.

How to persuade? Uncle Ingo is very clever, he thought. Being with you is like being with a tiger. Zheng Zhuanggong is a visionary and arrogant person. If he speaks frankly, it will only irritate him and leave a bad impression of being self-righteous and nosy. Maybe he will be killed.

? This persuasion was tactfully said, which made him listen. Otherwise, if what he said in his heart is to lay a beautiful step for the king, this flattery will be loud and clear.

? Therefore, Uncle Kao made up a reason that he had something for Zheng Zhuanggong. Zheng Zhuanggong met Uncle Yingkao and gave him food. When eating, Uncle Yingkao deliberately put the meat aside.

? Zheng Zhuanggong looked at it in surprise. (Probably not Doha before. Uncle Yingkao used to eat meat, but he doesn't eat it this time. The most important thing is that the economy was underdeveloped at that time. Unlike us now, no one eats meat, and everyone is scrambling to eat vegetables. Things are different. ) Ask him why he doesn't eat meat?

? Uncle yingkao stood up, knelt down to the ground and replied respectfully, "I have a mother, and I have tasted the food of little people." I have never tasted the king's soup. Please keep it. "

? What does this sentence mean? It is easy to understand, that is to say, "I have an old mother at home." She has eaten all my usual meals, but she hasn't eaten the broth given by the king. Please allow me to give it back to her. "

? Is this uncle Ying Kao a filial son? His words suddenly touched a chord in Zheng Zhuanggong's heart (I don't know if it's true or not, but it's implied in the history books). Zheng Zhuanggong suddenly looked gloomy, sighed and said, "I have my mother's legacy, but I am the only one!" What does this sentence mean? I will explain later. Let's learn two words first.

? The first word, "legacy": reading "wèi" here means "gift". It can be understood as "support" here.

? The second word, "Mi": Huh? The modal particles at the beginning of the sentence, alas.

? Now it's easy to understand, "I have my mother's legacy, but I have nothing!" " You have a mother, and you can provide her with food, but only I don't. "

? Zhuang Gongzheng is sad. Seeing that others have an old mother to support, he is envious. But whether this is the historical truth or not, we can't know whether Zhuang Gong ever said such a thing, because after all, we are not Zhuang Gong himself and don't know his mind. However, we can still imagine the beauty of human nature. Just like when I was a child, I saw other children driving to and from school with their mothers dressed up, and their mothers were dressed in shabby clothes. Of course I am envious and sad, thinking that I can save pocket money and buy a decent dress for my mother. Children love their parents, so does everyone.

? Here's a short film about Zhuang Gong who was a restless master when he was still in his mother's belly. He often jumps up and down in his mother's stomach and turns it upside down. Once, while he was having fun, he hissed and kicked his mother in the stomach, which broke the placenta.

? No way, before the naughty baby could turn around and squeeze out from his mother's birth canal, his feet had already been propped out-yes, Wu Jiangshi was dystocia. The child who was born with the first foot was named Sheng Mao, which was later Zheng Zhuanggong.

? Wu Jiang suffered a lot since he was born at home, so he didn't like him very much in his heart. Zuo Zhuan said that he was "evil" and especially loved his younger brother Duan Shu. How much do you like it? I prefer this second son to replace the eldest son as heir to the throne.

This is a little hard to understand. If you don't like your son just because of dystocia, this mother Wu Jiangshi is too delicate and melodramatic. A mother can no longer be so headstrong and immature. It is even more wrong to blame the baby for dystocia and deprive him of the right to inherit the throne.

You know, the mother is in pain during childbirth, and the baby is also in pain. Many babies are born with flat and sharp heads, and dystocia children have to work harder and bear a lot of tension than other babies. Visible, in order to come to this world, Sheng Mao suffered bitterness and pain is not less than his mother Wujiang stone.

? There must be something else in here. I guess Wujiang's anger at his son Zheng Zhuanggong because of dystocia is just one of the reasons; Another reason should be that genes don't like it.

? This man is very much like his father, while Uncle Duan is more like Wu Jiangshi. Wujiang's affection for her husband, Zheng Wugong, should not be deep, or he was dissatisfied and resentful, so he took it out on his son, Zheng Zhuanggong.

? Otherwise, the palm is full of meat, and the established heir to the throne is the eldest son. You have no reason to abolish him and make an uncle. According to historical records, Duan Shu is not as clever as he is. As for the benevolence and righteousness advocated by Confucian scholars, the difference between the two brothers is generally up and down, which makes no sense.

? Going back to the above-mentioned Zheng Zhuanggong sighed in front of the courtiers: "I have my mother's legacy, but I am alone!" Is this sentence the truth of history, or is it invented by later generations? Is this a heartfelt feeling of homesickness, or is it an excuse for Zheng Zhuanggong to seek fame and fool his subjects? This is not clear.

Some historians say that this is just a performance by Zheng Zhuanggong, who is used to scheming. In fact, he hated Wujiang's style in his heart and wished she was dead. There is a document to prove that "Jiang wants it, how can he hurt me", which means "Jiang wants to hurt me like this, how can I hide it?" This is what Zheng Zhuanggong said in front of courtiers. Zheng Zhuanggong called his mother's surname in front of courtiers, which was disrespectful in the ancient society that emphasized filial piety. This is an open gesture. It can be seen that the words and deeds of the mother Wu Jiangshi have deeply hurt her children, and the mother and son have turned against each other.

Therefore, many commentators think that Zheng Zhuanggong accepted Uncle Ying Kao's suggestion of "meeting in the tunnel" and staged an ugly drama of "having fun in the big tunnel" and "having fun in the big tunnel", which is inconsistent with his previous words and deeds and common sense. The end of the reconciliation between mother and son is really invented by later generations, and it is a wishful "Spring and Autumn brushwork".

? I don't think so. The complexity of human nature is born with the change of environment. Zheng Zhuanggong was suppressed by his biological mother, and the throne was threatened by his younger brother. He is always in danger and in an extremely embarrassing position. When he was helpless, he bitterly called his mother "Chiang Kai-shek", which was also a temporary emotional catharsis.

? At this time * * * Uncle Duan has been deported, and there is no possibility of counterattack; The biological mother has also seen the age and the power has been cut off; Now that you have settled down, you can relax a little and taste the fruits of victory. People will have compassion in the spring breeze, which is human nature, not to mention facing their own biological mothers.

? Although Wujiang's family suffered a lot, she deliberately trained her favorite second son, Uncle Duan, to help him fight for the throne. Of course, I am disgusted and unforgivable when I think about it. Zhuanggong deliberately planned that "if you want to take it, you must give it first" and put a long line to catch big fish. He pretended to be kind and forbearing for 22 years. After all, he got what he wanted, leaving his brother in exile and his mother in exile at the border. Although these are the results of common and forced political struggles, it is not necessarily a glorious act to finally wash your dirty clothes.

? "It's not that someone secretly accused me of treachery, deliberately set a trap to make my brother bold, connive at his words and deeds, and make the whole world laugh at him for' doing more injustice and hanging himself'. Yes, I did it on purpose. Who let my mother be so eccentric and my brother so tight! Although I tried to warn them at first and try to stop them, they were really cheating others. They will end up like this, and they are all responsible for it. Can't blame me. "

? "Now, as long as they take a soft, no longer with me, that also calculate, after all, is their relatives. What's more, killing them all is not good-looking, and it will be even more trouble to stop the world from being a hero. Then, I followed the trend, cooperated with the performance and set an example for the world. Why not! " Zheng Zhuanggong was mostly thinking so.

? Therefore, although the reconciliation between mother and child is a show element, there is no lack of affection after putting it down. Half is truth and half is performance, which is the most basic ability a politician should have, and it is also the way to forgive since childhood.

? Since ancient times, the struggle for power has always been a win and a lose. On the other hand, if Uncle Duan of * * * really took the throne and the Wujiang family also took power, then it was him who was exiled. Maybe the ending will be even worse, and it is hard to say whether you can save your life. There are many examples of relatives choking each other in political struggles in history. Didn't Qin Ershi and Hu Hai kill all their brothers and sisters? Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong, staged a coup in Xuanwu Gate, shot and killed his own brother, and forced his father, Emperor Gaozong, to abdicate. Wu Zetian also killed his precious daughter. Her other daughter, Princess Taiping, poisoned the royal food in order to seize power, and plotted to abolish the then Prince Li Longji. Although she failed, her ambition was obvious. You know, Li Longji is the son of Li Dan, the half-brother of Princess Taiping, and her aunt is going to poison her nephew. For the sake of power, she can be said to be denied.

? There are countless examples of this. Sometimes it is forbidden and forced; Others are greedy, usurp power and reverse power ... each with its own reasons and purposes.

So, how to evaluate this case-solving between Uncle Duan and him? I think there is a key person who has an unshirkable responsibility. Yes, it is Wu Jiangshi.

Wujiang hates the birth of her own son, whether because of the painful physical experience he brought to herself or other reasons, such as the genetic aversion mentioned above. In short, she is an extreme egoist, a narrow-minded wife and a very failed mother. Wujiang's support and connivance to Uncle Duan, who is fearless, ambitious and extremely stupid, is nothing more than to become the force behind him and satisfy his own selfish desires and vanity.

? Brothers killed each other, Duan Shu was exiled and accused of rebellion and "not caring"; Yan Sheng didn't teach his younger brother in time and did his duty as a brother, which led to Duan Shu's repeated mistakes and stepped into it. I was born with the stigma of "Yin Zhi is vicious", and the initiator of all these disasters is Wu Jiangshi. As a mother, it is her duty to educate her children to love each other and help each other. Making waves and playing tricks are not only against ethics, but also against human nature.

? If Wujiang's family had been tolerant and generous, he would not have hated the pain of dystocia; If she doesn't interfere in the affairs of the court with her own likes and dislikes; If she can lead by example and guide students to be brothers, friends and brothers, maybe history will be rewritten. Yan Sheng can be his brother and king, and Duan Shu can also be his uncle safely on his own fief.

? Of course, Mr. Jin Yong also said that "it's all the same who goes to power." Maybe the essence of power struggle is life and death. However, in family life, whether the contradiction between husband and wife or the contradiction between parents and children is handled well, it is a win-win situation; If you don't handle it well, you will lose both sides.

It is said that taking history as a mirror can distinguish gains and losses and distinguish right from wrong. Today, we reread this historical story in order to get some inspiration from it and bring some new thinking and guidance to our future life.

As mentioned above, if a mother doesn't like her son, she probably doesn't like his genes. In the final analysis, she just doesn't like the father, or she has resentment and dissatisfaction with the father. This led to a series of abnormal behaviors, which led to human tragedy.

? This reminds me that female friends should ask themselves more before giving birth, do you really like this man who is going to be the father of the child? If so, then you can live boldly, because it is out of your sincere will. With this sincere will, I believe you will fully accept your child and give ta the wholehearted love it deserves. If not, having children is just a sin-it is really unfair for children to become a substitute for satisfying your selfish desires or carrying on the family line, and it is by no means a wise choice for parents.

Like or like, or love, just with resentment and dissatisfaction. Please get rid of these resentment and dissatisfaction first, and deal with the relationship between husband and wife before having children.

After all, the relationship between husband and wife is the core of family relationship. The relationship between husband and wife is the root of the tree, and children are the branches and leaves that grow on the tree. Only when the roots are healthy can the branches and leaves be healthy. A good relationship between husband and wife is the source of affection, and resentment and dissatisfaction are the branches and leaves that stop this spring.

? Only by clearing the resentment and dissatisfaction in the relationship between husband and wife can we establish a healthy relationship between husband and wife. Only by establishing a healthy relationship between husband and wife can we have a healthy and dynamic parent-child relationship.

So, how to get rid of these dead leaves and establish a good relationship between husband and wife and parent-child relationship? I think communication is the golden key, mutual respect, understanding, tolerance and care are the golden keys, and it is the golden key to discover the love language of partners and relatives in life.

What is the language of love?

For example, some people think that you love ta by cooking for ta, which is called service action; Some people think that you praise ta, praise ta, and affirm ta, which is the performance of loving ta; Some people like physical contact, and kisses and hugs can make ta feel your deep love.

There are many ways to express love. Maybe your lover, children, parents and relatives need more than one. If you have a heart, you will find that everyone needs to love and be loved, and people will gradually become satisfied and happy when they love and be loved. When people love and be loved, they will gradually get rid of resentment and dissatisfaction; In love and being loved, people will usher in the richness of life and the ultimate joy.