How to handle the dormitory relationship well

Question 1: How can we handle the dormitory relationship? Dormitory relationship is the most basic interpersonal relationship in universities and the most basic unit of daily activities. It is very important to live in a dormitory and have a good relationship with dormitory members. Harmonious relationship and good mood are not only beneficial to study, but also to physical and mental health. On the other hand, if the relationship is not harmonious or even tense, it will cast a shadow over life and bring a series of negative effects. Then, 1. Work and rest with roommates in a unified way, and give tolerance and understanding in daily life. There are three or four people living in a dormitory, or five or six people or even more, so it is appropriate to adjust with a unified schedule. Only when we coordinate and abide by * * * can we reduce disputes, eliminate friction and maintain normal life order. If you are a "night owl", you go to bed very late at night and wait until all the dormitory members are asleep before washing and sleeping, which will easily wake others up and affect their rest. Over time, you will arouse the resentment of your roommates. Therefore, all members of the dormitory should try to unify their living time and reduce the gap between work and rest. If something really happens, members who get up early or go to bed late should also try to reduce the influence of sound and light on their roommates. 2. Don't form a "clique" in the dormitory, treat everyone equally, don't favor one over the other, make friends with some people and alienate others. Some people like to be close to the dormitory. They always whisper to the same person. No matter what they do, they come in and out with one person. It's easy to make other members of the dormitory unhappy and think that you disdain to associate with them. As a result, you two may have a good relationship, but you have alienated others. This is not conducive to the establishment of a harmonious dormitory relationship, and it is not worth the loss. We are not opposed to the establishment of profound friendship, but we must never sacrifice the width and breadth of friendship. Don't invade your roommate's privacy. Everyone has his own secrets and enough curiosity. We shouldn't try our best to explore the privacy of roommates. When the other party turns a field into privacy, it has a special sensitivity to this field, and any topic that tries to break into this field is not welcome. It is especially important to note that you must not rummage through your roommate's clothes without his consent. Pay special attention to this problem, don't just think you are an acquaintance and ignore the details. In addition, sharing a dormitory, sometimes it is inevitable to know some privacy of roommates. We should also keep our mouths shut and tell others that this is not only disrespectful to our roommates, but also immoral. The above aspects must be done seriously, otherwise it will inevitably offend roommates. 4. Actively participating in dormitory group activities is not only an activity, but also an important form of connecting feelings between roommates, so we should actively participate in cooperation. Don't naively treat group activities as a boring move that costs money and effort, and show disdain. In fact, they are all emotional inputs and indispensable life experiences. Roommates decide what to do together, and we should respect their choices. If you really can't attend, you can put forward your own ideas and opinions. Don't reluctantly participate, but let your roommates feel that you are dealing with things. Don't flatly refuse to hurt their interest. It can be said that the existence and quantity of collective activities also reflect the unity of this dormitory from one side. If you don't take part in such activities often, you will appear more or less unsociable. 5. Give care to others, help them when they are in trouble, and ask for good interpersonal relationships when they have something to do, on the premise of helping each other. You should have a good sense of cooperation in the dormitory. When others are making the bed, you should think about whether this kind of thing needs help. Someone is ill. Would you like to go to the canteen to help him buy food? Mutual assistance is indeed indispensable, because it is difficult for people to live independently at any time. Even if it is only a small matter, mutual care and help can deepen friendship. It goes without saying that we should give our roommates care and help in our daily life and study. When they are in trouble, we should lend them a helping hand. So, when we have something, is it appropriate to ask our roommates for help? The answer is yes. Because sometimes asking for help can show trust in others, and you can get along well and deepen your feelings. For example, if you need help, and you leave your roommate to find someone else, your roommate will think that you don't trust him. If you don't want to ask others, how can others ask for help in the future? In fact, as long as you pay attention to your discretion and don't embarrass others, it is entirely possible to ask your roommate for help. 6. Don't refuse snacks, invite roommates to buy some fruits, melon seeds and other snacks to the dormitory. Give it to you, don't push it. Don't refuse because you are embarrassed to eat others. Sometimes, roommates have birthdays or other reasons ... >>

Question 2: How to deal with the relationship between dormitories? First of all, we should face up to this problem and learn more about our own problems and their influence on interpersonal relationships in the dormitory. "A distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor." However, for contemporary college students, "close neighbors" may not always "get along well first". On the contrary, frequent exchanges and differences in classmates' personalities and experiences lead to various frictions and conflicts. Students' views on the contradiction in dormitory are manifested in various trivial matters: littering, making noise, caring about small money, smoking casually, disordered work and rest, overbearing words, being too intimate and so on. If you have problems, you can adjust your living habits appropriately; Change your way of speaking in a way that others can accept and understand. Secondly, strive for more communication. Don't avoid communication and estrangement because of some misunderstandings, but take the initiative to communicate with you and participate in your discussions and activities. Only in this way can we better understand ourselves and others, eliminate misunderstandings between them and strengthen mutual understanding and trust. Third, be broad-minded and be more understanding and tolerant of others. Middle school students in the new era should absorb the advantages of others; We should be more understanding and tolerant of other people's shortcomings. Don't care too much about trivial disputes in life, forget them, forgive them and reconcile them. The so-called "great cleverness, little stupidity" uses limited energy to do the main things, for example, to do a good job in one's own study. Again, treat people sincerely. As the saying goes, "As you sow, you reap". Only by sowing sincerity and showing your true self can you reap the sincerity of others. Because people are unconsciously observing the principle of reciprocity in interpersonal relationships, if you show sincerity, you will get corresponding rewards. Some people are afraid that their shortcomings will be seen by others and affect their image in others' hearts. Psychological research shows that people don't like a person who is perfect in all aspects, but a person who is excellent in all aspects and has some minor shortcomings is the most popular. So you don't have to care too much about your own shortcomings, and you have to have enough confidence in it. Finally, praise others from the heart. Learn to appreciate and praise others, and say at least one sentence that makes people feel comfortable every day, such as: "You are great!" " Your hairstyle is beautiful! "This kind of praise will bring happiness to those who are praised and cause positive emotional reactions. Emotions are contagious, that is, they will infect people around them and bring happiness to them. " Happiness will melt the deadlock of interpersonal relationship and make the dormitory relationship harmonious. Grasping interpersonal distance is very simple, that is, people ignore a degree problem. To grasp the interpersonal distance, we should pay attention to the following aspects: First, we should respect the privacy of others. No matter how intimate the interpersonal relationship is, we should also leave a psychological space for each other. People always think that intimate interpersonal relationships, especially between husband and wife, parents and children, should not have any privacy. In fact, the more intimate the interpersonal relationship, the more privacy should be respected. This respect is manifested in not casually asking or asking other people's inner secrets, and not casually revealing their privacy to others. Excessive self-exposure does not have the problem of asking others' privacy, but it has the problem of being too intimate and easily losing interpersonal distance. Second, we must have a sense of tolerance. Tolerance consciousness requires us to respect differences, tolerate individuality, tolerate each other's shortcomings and forgive each other's common shortcomings. There is no fish in clear water, and there is no disciple when people look at it. There will be no fish in clear water, and people who are too picky will not have intolerant friends, and interpersonal relationships will be pushed to the brink of collapse sooner or later. Finally, we should know how to use the distance effect. Distance effect refers to the distance between each other due to the barrier of time; Once the distance is shortened and reunited, the feelings of both sides will be fully vented. The so-called "it is better to get married than to leave" is also true. Distance is sometimes an additive to emotion. It can be seen that sometimes the existence of distance can also give people a good enjoyment. Therefore, we should cultivate the habit of looking at others from a certain distance, and don't always set our transparency to 100%. There is no secret in your heart to show your generosity, but it is unwise to lose your due interpersonal distance and invisibly lay a curse for future interpersonal contradictions.

Question 3: How to deal with the relationship between dormitory students in universities? It can be said that dormitory relationship is the most basic interpersonal relationship in our university stage, and it is also the most basic activity unit in our daily life. It is very important to live in a dormitory and have a good relationship with dormitory members. Harmonious relationship and good mood are not only beneficial to our study, but also beneficial to our physical and mental health. If the relationship is not harmonious or even tense, it will cast a shadow over our lives and bring a series of negative effects. So, how can we handle the dormitory relationship? If you can master the following eight points, you will get good results.

1, work and rest with roommates.

A dormitory with five or six people, or even more people, should have a unified schedule to adjust. Only when we coordinate and abide by * * * can we reduce disputes, eliminate friction and maintain normal life order. If you are a "night owl", you go to bed very late at night and wait until all the dormitory members are asleep before washing and sleeping, which will easily wake others up and affect their rest. Over time, you will arouse the resentment of your roommates.

Therefore, all members of the dormitory should try to unify their living time and reduce the gap between work and rest. If something really happens, members who get up early or go to bed late should also try to reduce the influence of sound and light on their roommates.

2. Do not engage in "small groups".

In the dormitory, we should treat everyone equally, don't favor one over the other, make friends with some people and alienate others.

Some people like to be close to the dormitory. Usually, they always whisper to the same person. No matter what they do, they go in and out with one person. It's easy to make other members of the dormitory unhappy and think that you disdain to associate with them. As a result, you two may have a good relationship, but you have alienated others. This is not conducive to the establishment of a harmonious dormitory relationship, and it is not worth the loss. We are not opposed to the establishment of profound friendship, but we must never sacrifice the width and breadth of friendship.

Therefore, in the dormitory, we should try to keep a balance with everyone, try to be inseparable from our roommates, and don't engage in "small groups."

Don't invade your roommate's privacy.

In addition, sharing a dormitory, sometimes it is inevitable to know some privacy of roommates. We should also keep our mouths shut and tell others that this is not only disrespectful to our roommates, but also immoral. The above aspects must be done seriously, otherwise it is inevitable to offend roommates and meet each other.

4. Actively participate in group activities.

Dormitory activities are not only an activity, but also an important form of connecting feelings between roommates, so they should actively participate in cooperation.

It can be said that the existence and quantity of collective activities also reflects the unity of this dormitory from one side. If you don't take part in such activities often, you will appear more or less unsociable.

5, others have difficulties to help, and they have their own needs.

Good interpersonal relationships are based on mutual help.

In fact, as long as you pay attention to your discretion and don't embarrass others, it is ok to ask your roommate for help.

6. Don't refuse snacks and banquets.

When your roommate buys some snacks such as fruits and melon seeds for you in the dormitory, don't push them, and don't refuse them because you are embarrassed to eat others. Sometimes, your roommate invites you to dinner because of your birthday or other things, and you should also be happy to go. Even if there is no money to "invite" him back, I think it doesn't matter, because reciprocity is not only embodied in material, but also in psychology, which is different from the principle of equivalent exchange in commodity economy. When you accept the invitation, in a sense, you are also giving others face.

If you refuse all snacks or banquets for a long time, others will inevitably think that you are arrogant and will stay away from you.

7. Don't talk too fast.

Sleeping in the party is an important activity in the dormitory. Roommates exchange information and opinions with each other, which was originally a pleasant thing, but they often have disputes over trivial matters, and the "sleeping party" has become a "war of words."

Some people like to make fun of others and take advantage of others. Even if they are joking, they will not end up with their own losses. Some people like to argue, trying to persuade roommates to show their abilities and let them "respect" themselves; Some people are afraid of being looked down upon, so they deliberately play the devil's advocate in the "sleeping party" and even expose their own shortcomings and make personal attacks on others.

This kind of person who likes to talk fast and take advantage is actually stupid, giving people the impression that he is too competitive and difficult to cooperate. If you don't respect others, others won't respect you. You talk big and try to be smarter than others everywhere. In the end, you will only arouse others' disgust and no one will say hello.

8. Finish the chores.

Every member of the dormitory should do chores, not just for himself. & gt

Question 4: How to deal with the relationship with students in the dormitory? Among the problems brought by adaptation, interpersonal problems are more common for freshmen, especially in the dormitory. Because of different living habits and misunderstandings, students living in this group feel particularly uncomfortable. Some students feel very distressed because they are isolated by their roommates; Those students who live opposite are also sad; Some students, even if the dormitory is quiet, don't feel very happy, and there is no quarrel in the dormitory, but everyone is polite and has nothing to say, which makes them feel very annoyed. This may be a problem that all freshmen may encounter, and it is also a problem that some old classmates still can't handle well. How to deal with this problem and straighten out the relationship with students in the dormitory? First of all, we should face up to this problem and learn more about our own problems and their influence on interpersonal relationships in the dormitory. For example, do your living habits bring inconvenience to others? Are your words and deeds appropriate? If there is something wrong, you can adjust your living habits appropriately; Change your way of speaking in a way that others can accept and understand. Secondly, strive for more communication. Don't avoid communication and estrangement because of some misunderstandings, but take the initiative to communicate with you and participate in your discussions and activities. Only in this way can we better understand ourselves and others, eliminate misunderstandings between them and strengthen mutual understanding and trust. Third, be broad-minded and be more understanding and tolerant of others. Students in the new era should be eclectic and absorb the advantages of others; We should be more understanding and tolerant of other people's shortcomings. Don't care too much about trivial disputes in life, forget them, forgive them and reconcile them. The so-called "great cleverness, little stupidity" uses limited energy to do the main things, for example, to do a good job in one's own study. Again, treat people sincerely. As the saying goes, "As you sow, you reap". Only by sowing sincerity and showing your true self can you reap the sincerity of others. Because people are unconsciously observing the principle of reciprocity in interpersonal relationships, if you show sincerity, you will get corresponding rewards. Some people are afraid that their shortcomings will be seen by others and affect their image in others' hearts. Psychological research shows that people don't like a person who is perfect in all aspects, but a person who is excellent in all aspects and has some minor shortcomings is the most popular. So you don't have to care too much about your own shortcomings, and you have to have enough confidence in it. Finally, praise others from the heart. Learn to appreciate and praise others and say at least one sentence that makes people feel comfortable every day. Praise will bring happiness to the person being praised and cause positive emotional reaction. Moreover, emotions are contagious, and they will also infect people around them and bring happiness to them. "Happiness" will melt the deadlock of interpersonal relationship and make the dormitory relationship harmonious.

Question 5: How to deal with dormitory relationship (for girls) (1) Work and rest with roommates in a unified way, and give tolerance and understanding in daily life (2) Don't engage in "small groups". In the dormitory, we should treat everyone equally, don't favor one over the other, make friends with some people and alienate others. Some people like to be close to the dormitory. They always whisper to the same person. No matter what they do, they come in and out with one person. It's easy to make other members of the dormitory unhappy and think that you disdain to associate with them. As a result, you two may have a good relationship, but you have alienated others. This is not conducive to the establishment of a harmonious dormitory relationship, and it is not worth the loss. We are not opposed to the establishment of profound friendship, but we must never sacrifice the width and breadth of friendship. (3) Don't invade your roommate's privacy. Everyone has his own secrets and enough curiosity. We shouldn't try our best to explore the privacy of roommates. When the other party turns a field into privacy, it has a special sensitivity to this field, and any topic that tries to break into this field is not welcome. It is especially important to note that you must not rummage through your roommate's clothes without his consent. Pay special attention to this problem, don't just think you are an acquaintance and ignore the details. In addition, sharing a dormitory, sometimes it is inevitable to know some privacy of roommates. We should also keep our mouths shut and tell others that this is not only disrespectful to our roommates, but also immoral. The above aspects must be done seriously, otherwise it will inevitably offend roommates. (4) Actively participating in dormitory activities is not only an activity, but also an important form of connecting feelings between roommates, so we should actively participate in cooperation. Don't naively treat group activities as a boring move that costs money and effort, and show disdain. In fact, they are all emotional inputs and indispensable life experiences. Roommates decide what to do together, and we should respect their choices. If you really can't attend, you can put forward your own ideas and opinions. Don't reluctantly participate, but let your roommates feel that you are dealing with things. Don't flatly refuse to hurt their interest. It can be said that the existence and quantity of collective activities also reflect the unity of this dormitory from one side. If you don't take part in such activities often, you will appear more or less unsociable. (5) Give care to others, help others when they are in trouble, and ask for good interpersonal relationships when something happens, on the premise of helping each other. You should have a good sense of cooperation in the dormitory. When others are making the bed, you should think about whether this kind of thing needs help. Someone is ill. Would you like to go to the canteen to help him buy food? Mutual assistance is indeed indispensable, because it is difficult for people to live independently at any time. Even if it is only a small matter, mutual care and help can deepen friendship. It goes without saying that we should give our roommates care and help in our daily life and study. When they are in trouble, we should lend them a helping hand. So, when we have something, is it appropriate to ask our roommates for help? The answer is yes. Because sometimes asking for help can show trust in others, and you can get along well and deepen your feelings. For example, if you need help, and you leave your roommate to find someone else, your roommate will think that you don't trust him. If you don't want to ask others, how can others ask for help in the future? In fact, as long as you pay attention to your discretion and don't embarrass others, it is entirely possible to ask your roommate for help. (6) Don't refuse snacks, invite roommates to buy some fruits, melon seeds and other snacks to the dormitory. When I give it to you, don't push it, and don't refuse it because you are embarrassed to eat others. Sometimes, your roommate invites you to dinner because of your birthday or other things, and you should also be happy to go. It doesn't matter even if you don't have the money to "invite" him back, because mutual return is not only embodied in material, but also in psychology, which is different from the principle of "equivalent exchange" in commodity economy. When you accept the invitation, in a sense, you are also giving others face. If you refuse all snacks or banquets for a long time, others will inevitably think that you are arrogant, so you will "stay at a respectful distance." (7) Sleeping in the party is an important activity in the dormitory. It is a pleasant thing for roommates to exchange information and opinions with each other, but they often have disputes over trivial matters, and "sleeping with the party" has become a "war of words." Some people like to make fun of others and take advantage of others. Even if they are joking, they will not end up with their own losses. Some people like to argue, trying to persuade roommates to show their abilities and let them "respect" themselves; Some people are afraid of being looked down upon, so they deliberately play the devil's advocate in the "sleeping party" and even expose their own shortcomings and make personal attacks on others. This kind of love shows off ... >>

Question 6: How to deal with your dormitory relationship? Not everyone can live in harmony in the dormitory. Dormitory problems are common. There are four people, six people, eight people or more in a dormitory. It is impossible for everyone to have the same personality. When you get to college, it is likely that your roommates come from all corners of the country, and their living habits and values may be different. Therefore, solving the problem of dormitory harmony is the first priority.

The first step is to learn tolerance. Because dormitory members come from all corners of the country, their family backgrounds are different and their habits are different. Therefore, we should understand and tolerate roommates' habits, even minor faults. You can't have conflicts because you are not used to it, and you feel that you can't stay in the dormitory. Roommates' living habits, eating habits, and even speaking accents may be different. You should learn to adapt without affecting your normal life. If it really affects your life, you should raise it politely and amicably, and there can be no conflict.

Second, pay attention to the influence that your behavior may bring to your roommate. For example, if you like to stay up late but the lights will affect your roommate's sleep, dim the brightness of the lights and pay attention to quiet activities at night. After all, there are so many people in a dormitory, so we should be considerate and take care of each other, and we should not influence others because of our own enjoyment.

Third, don't speak ill of others. Everyone comes from a kind child, and no one can deliberately do something that everyone doesn't like. So if some of his behaviors affect you, just be polite. Some people speak ill of this person behind his back instead of to his face, which is the worst behavior. Think about it, he may not know why you hate him, but he may pay attention after you say it. And if you talk about him behind his back, it will give others a bad impression that you like to talk about people behind their backs. Second, you still have to put up with that person's small mistakes. Third, if he knows that you talk about him behind his back, your relationship is likely to deteriorate.

Fourth, learn to help each other. It is not easy for everyone to study without their parents. Therefore, when life and feelings are not satisfactory, roommates can best help him. Everyone lives together like a family and should love each other. If you are in any trouble, your roommate should be your first thought, and your roommate is likely to become a good friend. So if your roommate has any problems, care more and help more.

The members in the dormitory are different from ordinary friends. Don't bow your head, don't be too stiff. Friends can not meet for a few days when they are in conflict, but roommates are different. If you don't want to see each other, you have to see them. So try to tolerate your roommate, live in peace, and everyone is happy.

Question 7: How to establish a good dormitory relationship and often go out to play together. As the saying goes, good friends have several big irons, who carry guns together, who go whoring together, and who are at the window together ... You should work hard in this respect!

Question 8: How to deal with the dormitory relationship? Living together, there will inevitably be small contradictions, so be broad-minded. For things that are not too much, we choose tolerance and mutual accommodation, so that we can get along well.

Question 9: How to deal with the dormitory relationship? I am a freshman. I have lived in the dormitory for more than three months.

I am an art student and lived in the dormitory for 8 months before the college entrance examination. Both of them sleep in six.

In college, it is very important to deal with the dormitory relationship, because if there is any trouble, only the dormitory can help you.

1, first of all, we should know that everyone is an adult, and everything we do in the dormitory should be considered for each other. Needless to say, feelings are all in action.

2. If there is any contradiction, solve it in time. Nothing can't be solved by a barbecue. If so, just two meals.

3, we must grasp the scale. No matter how familiar people are, they will make jokes at different times and places. For example, A and B have a good relationship and often play jokes on each other, such as "father and son". One day A openly joked with B in the class group, and B became angry from embarrassment.

4, try not to be maverick, such as going to the cafeteria to eat, going to class, and taking a few people with you. I prefer to be alone, listening to songs on the road with headphones on. People often think that I am "independent", but I am not. )

There is a class in the afternoon, that's all.

Question 10: How do students deal with interpersonal relationships in dormitories? Learn more about your own problems and their influence on interpersonal relationships in the dormitory. Because of frequent contacts and differences in students' personalities, all kinds of frictions and conflicts are caused, and dormitory conflicts are highlighted in various small things; Littering, making noise, making a little money, smoking casually, disordered work and rest, overbearing words, being too intimate and so on. If it is not suitable, you can adjust your living habits appropriately and change your way of speaking in a way that others can accept and understand.

2. Communicate as much as possible. Don't avoid communication because of some misunderstandings. But take the initiative to communicate with you and participate in your discussions and activities. Only in this way can we better understand ourselves and others, eliminate misunderstandings between them and strengthen mutual understanding and trust.

3. Be broad-minded and be more understanding and tolerant of others. A college student with a new world should absorb the advantages of others and be more understanding and tolerant of his own shortcomings. Don't be too upset about some trivial disputes in your life at ordinary times. You should forget, forgive and understand. The so-called "big things are smart, but hours are confused." Spend your limited energy on doing the main things, such as doing your own study.

4. Be strict with yourself. Pay attention to your words and deeds in the dormitory, and do not do to others what you don't want others to do to you. Help your roommates a lot, even if it is such a small matter as carrying water and asking questions. Start from me and strive to create a warm, harmonious and happy dormitory atmosphere.

5. Treat people sincerely. People always unconsciously abide by the principle of reciprocity in interpersonal relationships. If you show your sincerity, you will be rewarded accordingly. Some people are afraid that their shortcomings will be seen by others and affect their image in others' minds. Psychological research has proved that people don't like a person who is perfect in all aspects, but a person who is excellent in all aspects and has some shortcomings is the most popular. So you don't have to care about your own shortcomings, you should have enough confidence in it. 6. Praise others from the heart, learn to appreciate and praise others, and say at least one sentence that makes people feel comfortable every day, such as: "You are great!" "Your hairstyle is very beautiful!" This kind of praise will bring happiness and cause positive emotional response. Emotions are contagious, that is, they will also infect people around them and bring happiness to them. "Happiness" will melt the deadlock of interpersonal relationship and make dormitory relationship very harmonious.

1) interpersonal principle

The key to dealing with interpersonal relationships is to be aware of the existence of others, understand their feelings, satisfy themselves and respect others. The following are some important principles of interpersonal communication:

1, the principle of sincerity in interpersonal relationships. Sincerity is the golden key to open the hearts of others, because sincere people make people feel safe and reduce self-defense. The better the interpersonal relationship, the more the two sides need to expose part of themselves. That is, to communicate your true thoughts with others. Of course, this will also take some risks, but it is impossible to win the trust of others by completely packaging yourself.

2. The initiative principle of interpersonal relationship. Being friendly to others and expressing goodwill can make people feel valued. People who take the initiative often feel good.

3. The interaction principle of interpersonal relationship. Goodwill and malice between people are mutual. In general, sincerity for sincerity, hostility for hostility. Therefore, communication with people should be based on good motives.

4. The principle of equality in interpersonal relationships. Any good interpersonal relationship makes people feel free and unrestrained. If one party is constrained by the other party, or if one party needs to act according to the other party's face, it is impossible to establish a high-quality psychological relationship.