If you are tired, don’t ask anyone to complain, learn to “get through it yourself”

Everyone has a time when they are very tired. They feel exhausted, don’t want to talk, and don’t want to talk to anyone. They really want to have a solid sleep. Sometimes I feel tired and feel that there is no hope in life. No matter how hard I try, I can't change my destiny.

When I am very tired, I always want to find someone to talk to, hoping that someone will understand me and comfort me. But the more you like to talk to someone, the more tired you will feel. Others will regard your words as "talking points" and use them to evaluate you. People with ill intentions will also take the opportunity to plot against you.

"The Ferryman" wrote: "If fate is a lonely river, who will be the ferryman for your soul?" In fact, you can only "cross by yourself", and your own mood is the most important. Understand, you bear the consequences of your own experiences. No matter who you meet or who helps you, you still have to walk on your own.

If you are tired, don’t find anyone to complain to, but learn to “get through it yourself”. If you are really tired, then take a good rest and recuperate your energy; if you want to cry, hide in a corner where no one is around, cry, then wipe your tears and show a smile; if you are worried, Then be alone and feel the power of solitude.

Reader An Wen contacted me yesterday and said: "Why do some friends treat my pain as a joke?" An Wen fell out of love with his girlfriend of six years some time ago. , went to another city and got together with a new boyfriend. An Wen was in pain and felt that she had failed as a human being. I once discussed buying a house and a car with my girlfriend, and going to distant places to see the scenery together. We also said that we would get married by the end of this year. But An Wen was too poor to buy a house and had no success in starting a business. Her girlfriend was tired of the poor life and left quietly without even saying "goodbye".

An Wen told his colleague Ali about his inner pain. He hoped that his colleague could understand him and say a few words of comfort. When An Wen complained to her colleague Ah Li, Ah Li listened carefully, making An Wen mistakenly think that he was a trustworthy person. But after a few days, everyone in the entire unit was talking about An Wen being dumped by his girlfriend with gusto.

In the eyes of colleagues, An Wen's loss of love was a self-inflicted bitter fruit because she was not strong enough. Others said: "Whoever is with a person like him is unlucky. He has no ambition and no family background." Such words were like a sharp sword, which deeply stung An Wen. mind.

I said to An Wen: "In the future, you must learn to shut up. The harder the life is, the more you have to endure it slowly. Be a person who doesn't make others laugh. When you survive the hardship There will be a sudden enlightenment and freedom in your life. "

When a person is very tired, his heart is full of "coptis" and he wants to pour out the bitter water. But don't complain, don't let others laugh at you by talking. You need to improve your ability to "bear suffering" and free your mind from the sea of ??suffering, just like a lonely sail on the sea, slowly sailing towards the sunshine.

When you talk, someone rubs salt into your wounds. Do you believe it? When you are very tired, it is the most "weak" time in your life and you have lost your resistance. At this time, if someone takes advantage of you, it will make you worse.

My classmate Zhou Wei lost more than 500,000 yuan in the citrus business. He was afraid that his creditors would come to his door, so he did not dare to go home for two months. He moved to Dongguan and found his cousin Zhou Cun, hoping that Zhou Cun would find him a job. Of course, he told Zhou Cun all about his recent situation, and all the pain in his heart poured out.

When Zhou Cun opened a furniture store in Dongguan, he arranged for Zhou Wei to work as a handyman. However, by the end of the month, Zhou Wei had not received a penny of salary. Zhou Cun said: "You are like this, it will be good if you can stay here with me and take care of the food." This sentence was like a handful of salt, sprinkled on Zhou Wei's "scar".

The afternoon before yesterday, Zhou Wei called me: "I am deeply in debt and living very tiredly. What should I do in the future?" I said: "You should find a decent job in Dongguan. , and don't tell anyone about your past. From now on, everything will be fine again.

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When a person is very tired, if he complains every day, his life will be full of "negative energy". If you always work with negative emotions, you will not change your life. The most terrifying thing Yes, when you are at your lowest, there are still people who take advantage of you and treat you like a monkey.

Every time you talk, you are opening up the scars of your past, preventing the scars from truly healing. You should slow down. Slowly forget the scars in life and let them become the hardest places in life. Ups and downs are common in life. When you are at the bottom, you must be tired, but you have to get up and keep moving forward to find the exit.

When you are very tired, if you don’t want to talk to the people around you, then you want to talk to people on the Internet. But when you open your circle of friends, you find that you have hundreds of friends, but you don’t know who you can talk to. People who speak the truth.

If you don’t leave a note with many WeChat friends, you won’t know who the other person is, especially those who have set up “moments visible for three days”, every time they open their The circle of friends is all blank, and I feel that such friends are dispensable.

In fact, there may be people who understand you in your life, but there is no need for you to find people who understand you. He will understand you when you complain, and will accompany you and encourage you. If you complain every day, it will make people think that you are "impossible to stick to the wall", which will be disgusting.

Since you can't find him. When you find someone to talk to, don't look for someone to talk to. Don't think about who can be your confidant, and don't think about someone who can help you. You should treat the fatigue in your heart as a "healing medicine" and wait until the fatigue disappears. , that is, "the medicine cures the disease."

Actor Tao Hong said: "My sense of security is all based on my happiness and success, which is all given by myself. "You should be like this too. Create every bit of happiness by yourself. Although you are not successful enough, you will live more and more independent and free.

No one will walk with you in the ups and downs of life. You also want to be wonderful alone.

Author: Buyi Jushi

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