Why do parents need sisters to serve and pay for them when they are old, and contradictions often stand out?

When parents are old, they need to be served, spend money and become a burden. Do your own thing and let others go.

Give money to the elderly, and suggest that you do what you can, and don't care too much.

Those who are willing to serve the elderly will serve more, and those who are unwilling will serve less. As long as there is harmony, it is good for the elderly to live.

The old man is ill, so he doesn't need to import medicine. How can he stand it? No comparison, no showdown. After all, sisters have different personalities.

1, there is no doubt that this is human nature, almost every family does.

2. The poorer the family, the more likely it is to have conflicts on the issue of parents' pension, which will eventually lead to old age and death, and even litigation.

The essence of all relationships is interests, including brothers and sisters in the family.

Parents can do everything for their children, but most children won't do it for their parents. Instead, they will pass the buck to each other.

When children grow up, they all want to get more benefits and avoid more responsibilities. Sharing money and housing is more active than anyone else. When it comes to paying for care, they all hide behind.

6. When I was a child, my parents thought there were many children. When they grow up, they want to earn more money and help those who earn less. But in fact, they all have their own ideas, staring at their parents' property and not giving in to each other.

7. When the children are older, they are all married and have a complicated relationship. Especially with the gap, all kinds of contradictions come out. Everyone thinks that they should pay less money and get more property.

8. All the children in the family have money. Fortunately, the poorer the family, the more contradictions there are in front of interests.

9. Human nature does not want to see people around you better than themselves, and so do their relatives. When people grow up, they have selfishness and balance all the advantages and disadvantages.

10, it is said that raising children to prevent old age, but when it comes to money and contribution, they all hide back, divide the money, allocate the house, and rush forward.

1 1. As people get older, their value decreases. Children should pay attention to conditions and benefits when taking care of and paying money, and they all want to get more benefits from their parents.

12, people have seen through it now, so many people who let go of the second child have stopped giving birth, which is boring. There are so many students, but in the end they are all different and full of contradictions.

13, it is impossible to raise children for old age. It's true to save more money. When you are old, your own money is the guarantee, and it is useless to rely on others.

The essence of this problem is purely conceptual. Why do you say that? Cao Min wrote, let's have a look. Is this the reason?

First, the concept of old age. There is an old idea that a married daughter is a spilled water. Although people don't talk about it now, it still exists in actual action. For example, in both urban and rural areas, most elderly people (both of whom have children) will give their accumulated property money to their sons, and few of them will share it equally with their children, especially large-scale real estate.

Second, the concept of light years. Under the condition of market transactions, the concept of material first and money first has been formed. Although money is not everything, it is absolutely impossible to leave money in a market economy. From birth to school, you need money, live with money, collect money across the bridge, pay residential property, spend a lot of money in hospital, spend a lot of money on food, clothing, housing and transportation, and travel around the world.

Although money is a thing outside the body, life does not bring death, but people can't live without the support of money for a day. It is easier for young people to spend money than earn money now. Mortgage, car loan and tuition loan make them breathless. The money earned by sweating eight petals is more painful than cutting meat.

Third, the concept of comparison. Parents are old and weak, so they can't earn money to work, especially when they need to be waited on. Without brothers and sisters' only children, they can't keep up with the competition. As long as there are brothers and sisters, there will be comparisons. It is required to take turns to serve and support, * * * to share the maintenance expenses of the elderly, * * * to pay cash, and you are more than me, and I am more than you.

Fourth, if the old people don't have old ideas, they can treat their children equally with a bowl of water, and the family property and money are evenly distributed among their children; If young people make money easily and have no great economic pressure, they should look down on money first, and then look down on money; If there are not so many comparisons between brothers and sisters, they don't care how much money and cash they share. Those with strong economic conditions should take the initiative to bear more, and those with poor economic conditions should work harder and run more errands. Understand each other, * * * and supporting the elderly will not have so many contradictions.

Fifth, it is precisely because of the existence of old ideas that children get uneven property and money from the elderly, and their hearts are unbalanced; Money comes first, treating money as a millstone is big and heavy, and giving money is like cutting meat; The concept of comparison is serious. It is often the superposition of the above three concepts that makes contradictions stand out or erupt, especially when boys get their parents' property and money and ask their sisters to pay for the elderly.

I don't know what you think. Please participate in the comments.

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Colleague A Tang 4 1 year-old is the youngest son in the family, but he is the "consequence" of his father's chic when he was young, that is, he was born out of wedlock until he was three and a half years old.

In this big family, he has two brothers and two sisters. Aunt watched him abandoned by his biological mother, which was very pitiful. Although she has pain in her heart, she has a complete family and several children. She doesn't cry or make trouble, and goes on living. After a long time, you will cultivate feelings and regard him as your own.

My brothers and sisters are much older than him, because they are too small and cute. Everyone likes to play with him, and there is no rejection at all. He has lived in harmony with this family for decades, and now both his sisters are retired.

Why do parents need sisters to serve and pay for them when they are old, and contradictions often stand out? I used to think that this problem only appeared in rural areas. Now, because Tom is faced with family conflicts and various supplements when chatting with colleagues, I notice that this phenomenon is also common in cities.

After Tom's father died ten years ago, his wife without pension only had some pension. At that time, the child decided to subsidize her living expenses in 200 yuan every month. A few years ago, when she was free to move, she lived alone.

But now the old lady is 78 years old. As people get older, various diseases keep appearing. The old lady has a bad trachea and always coughs, especially at night, and she can't sleep while lying down.

Brothers and sisters paid for it and took her to several big hospitals, and all kinds of instruments were checked. She has been hospitalized countless times, but her condition is only relieved, not cured. I don't know when she will do it again.

It is said that there is no dutiful son in front of the hospital bed for a long time, not only because the mother needs to spend money to see a doctor, but also because of nursing problems, and the contradiction between sisters has also appeared. There are the most questions about Tom.

Although both sisters are retired, they also have their own mother-in-law, grandchildren and a lot of housework to take care of. But for their mother's sake, they began to set an example for their elder sister.

When the two sisters started to take care of their mothers in the hospital, one accompanied them during the day and the other at night, wiping their bodies, feeding them medicine and changing clothes. Day after day, endless and tiring.

Their children suggested asking a nanny for help, but the old lady didn't agree. She thinks that having so many children and letting outsiders take care of herself will make others laugh.

In the first few days in the hospital, both sisters thought about their younger brother and let them go to work with peace of mind. Basically, they were not asked to do anything.

But later, they felt that their younger brothers seemed at ease. Not only do they seldom visit their mother, but they also feel that it is natural for them to take care of their mother because both their sisters are retired.

The younger brothers and daughters-in-law feel more like outsiders. They have time to travel and don't come instead, and they also take all kinds of beautiful photos in their circle of friends. Their hearts are getting unbalanced.

Although she is her own mother, she should take care of herself, but when she got married, her family conditions were not very good and she basically had no dowry.

As for marrying a sister-in-law, the old-school parents still do their best. There were savings and rings, and then they took care of the children. If there is anything delicious at home, just wait for your son and daughter-in-law to come back and eat. The old man treats these daughters-in-law better than his daughter.

Seeing the two sisters playing tricks on each other, the two brothers worked as wives separately, giving them time to replace their sisters. Although the two daughters-in-law were not convinced by the elder sister's criticism, they went to see it several times and said a few good words to cheer up the old lady and the two sisters.

It's just that Tom's wife complains too much. She thinks that her mother-in-law is not her husband's biological mother. Although she improved her kindness, she didn't train Tom into a university. Besides, when they got married and had children, their mother-in-law was old, in poor health and had no children.

When the old account of the daughter-in-law was drawn out one by one, A Tang was also brainwashed, feeling that the older the old lady was, the less she felt about herself. Therefore, he ignored the requests of his two sisters.

The other two sisters-in-law also made a noise when they saw that the youngest sister-in-law did not come forward. From now on, everyone is the same, and she will leave us alone. The two brothers called the third brother and called him a baiwenhang. At this point, the gap between brothers deepened.

Shortly after this incident, several sisters got together to discuss how to take care of the old lady who was discharged from hospital and went home to recuperate, and who would take care of it.

The two sisters suggested that the property had been distributed to the three sons before their father died. Then the care of the mother will also belong to three families, and each family will take care of it for four months. If there are special circumstances, you can substitute for the class temporarily.

But Tom's daughter-in-law raised an objection to Tom. If they are parents, they have obligations, but this aunt, she should be taken care of by her own children. Why did she get involved with this irrelevant person?

I believe many people understand that Tom and his daughter-in-law are wrong. This is not a spectator, because it is a matter of common sense.

According to the law, children's obligation to support their parents occurs not only between children born in wedlock and their parents, but also between children born out of wedlock and their parents, between adopted children and adoptive parents, and between stepchildren and stepparents who have fulfilled their obligation to support education.

Tom came to the old lady when he was over three years old. Like his brothers and sisters, he called her his mother, or at least his adopted son. Therefore, he not only has to support the old lady financially and take care of her life, but also has the obligation to comfort her spiritually.

There are old people in need of care at home. What should the child do? In order to let the elderly live a stable old age, children must have a good relationship. Winning by cooperation * * *, not only refers to the partners in career and work, but also can be used in family affairs.

First of all, everyone should pay attention to the word "responsibility", assume their due responsibilities and obligations, do more for the family and be less selfish.

The second is to be humble and tolerant. Brothers and sisters should not criticize everything, be more understanding of other people's inconvenience, be more considerate of each other, be less critical and less critical, and avoid conflicts caused by rushing to talk.

Third, be diligent and good at communication. Try to use the tone of discussion when something happens. Speak to solve problems, not to make people angry. Talking with a smile, or self-teasing, creates a dramatic effect, and perhaps contradictions run away without a trace in laughter.

Finally, we must understand that life is short and fate is rare. Fate is destined to be brother and sister, but sister-in-law, relying on the affection of blood thicker than water, relying on the blessings of previous lives.

For the harmony of a big family, we should relax in everything, don't haggle over every ounce, don't intrigue, and don't be greedy for petty gain. The most important thing is not to just make yourself happy and make others sad.

Although these are easy to say, they are a bit difficult to do. It depends on personal accomplishment. But if you are open-minded, people will live a relaxed and happy life. Why do you want to make yourself bitter every day?

This is a normal thing, human nature is selfish, and the capitalist outlook on life is that everyone is self-centered and strict with himself. Parents always give it to their children when they are young. When parents are old and need children to take care of them when their income is low, the contradiction between sisters naturally comes. If they need money again, it's equivalent to cutting meat from themselves. As the saying goes, infatuated parents have existed since ancient times, and filial children and grandchildren have never met.

Money itself is a tool for commodity exchange, which can be used to buy goods, buy anything you need, or sell the surplus goods in your hand and convert them into money. The amount of money in a person's hand shows the richness of social wealth, so people will accumulate their own money to increase their wealth.

Our children have known since childhood that they need money to buy toys and snacks. Money has taken root in children's young hearts. The key issue is how to educate our children, let them do housework at an early age, educate them to love labor and study, and prevent them from living a life of no pains. Let children know that parents earn money very hard, bring them up and let them know how to be grateful. Establish a correct outlook on life, don't take money too seriously, and don't steal money from your parents. Satisfy one's desires. Educating children from an early age can be avoided to the greatest extent when they grow up. When parents are old and need children to serve and pay, there will be contradictions and embarrassing things between sisters.

No matter what the reality is, it is common for brothers and sisters to have a shield because of the problem of supporting their old father and mother. Although they are related by blood recently, they all have their own families. Although they are all parents, they have different personalities. Although married, but the economic ability is big and small. Therefore, it is strange that different individuals face the same problem and solve it together without contradiction! It's just that the contradictions are different in size.

People are not vegetation, who can be ruthless. As children, it is an obligation to support parents and provide for the elderly, and it is also a great filial piety in the world. Therefore, every child has filial piety, different expressions and different ways of doing things, and there will be different results.

Brothers and sisters have conflicts because of supporting their parents, some are big or small, some are because of money, and some are because of daily care. Different families have different reasons for conflicts, and different families deal with conflicts in different ways. Some families have brothers and sisters who have small contradictions and try to resolve them in time, and the contradictions will not be highlighted. Some families have contradictions that have not been resolved, and small problems have become big contradictions. Finally, the family was restless and the parents passed away sadly.

Why do brothers and sisters have conflicts because of the problem of payers when parents should enjoy their old age? There may be several situations:

First, parents give their children different support, education and family placement at different times because of their different financial abilities, and children will have misunderstandings and prejudices against their parents, which will be manifested in a specific period.

Second, some parents do have deviations in dealing with the balance between children, which leads to contradictions between father and son, mother and daughter, brother and sister in daily life, and the contradictions are exposed at critical times.

Third, there are indeed some children who talk about trivial matters and don't want to pay someone to support their parents. In particular, the boss of a family has an ideological problem, and the contradiction is more rapid and intense.

Fourth, brothers and sisters deal with the problem of parental support and waiting time according to the idea of equal share for each person, which will lead to contradictions due to different factors such as family economic ability and the nature of family-owned industry.

Let me give you an example. I'm also a relative. There are five brothers and sisters, four men and one woman. My father died three years ago and my mother is still alive. After their father fell down due to a stroke, he stayed in the hospital intermittently for half a year. Four brothers and sisters are all doing business, the only girl is doing business in a big city, and only the fifth brother is doing odd jobs to earn money to support his family. At first, there was a contradiction because of people's payment. Later, the five brothers and sisters sat together to discuss the solution. Their solution is that after the four brothers and sisters who do business share their father's hospitalization expenses, they are busy with their own careers and go to the hospital to take care of them when they have time. The old man is responsible for his father's all-weather care, and the four brothers and sisters pay 100 yuan every day, totaling 400 yuan, to give the old man daily care supplies. Father and son have three meals a day, and the rest is the nursing expenses of the elderly. Half a year later, their father left peacefully in the hospital. After the father left, all the funeral expenses were paid by the boss and daughter, and all the gifts received from work went to the mother, because the mother could take care of herself and use them for her living expenses and the diagnosis and treatment of minor illnesses. If a serious illness is regarded as a father, the mother's balance will be five points after a hundred years. I don't admire this method, but I agree with their practice, which can at least let parents spend their old age safely. I recently saw a real case, which made me sigh.

There is a 70-year-old man with two sons. The old man said that he spent all his savings and paid the down payment to his two sons in the city, both of whom bought houses. Both sons moved from the countryside to the city, and lived alone in the countryside, farming and growing vegetables to make a living.

Both sons are doing well. The boss has two private cars, and the second has a private car. Both of them have business in the city, and their annual income is not bad. Recently, the old man was ill in hospital and spent more than 30 thousand (all borrowed by the old man) After leaving the hospital, he explained the situation to his two sons and wanted them to share the medical expenses. As a result, the old man told me that since then, the phones of both sons have been disconnected and stopped.

When I heard that, I was very angry that there was such an unfilial thing. The main reason is that selfishness has occupied their brains, parents' kindness and hard work have been abandoned and lost, private words have occupied their souls, and emotions have been abandoned. Finally, when it comes to medical expenses, they will make their own abacus to avoid responsibility and break the heart of the elderly.

People get nervous when they get old. When you help your children, don't spend a penny. When you use your money, ask your children for money. What a pity!

Because not everyone is willing to contribute!

There is a son at home, which is fine if the economy can, but both parents are children. When conditions permit, daughters should be more filial to their parents when they are alive, rather than waiting until they die to pay tens of millions. Our custom here is that daughters don't have to pay money when their parents are alive. Her parents died, and the rich took tens of thousands, which showed that her daughter was filial, hehe. I shouldn't be such a daughter anyway. My mother is in her hometown now. As long as she needs something, I'll buy it at once. I'll take her to the doctor right away. Anyway, I can't wait until she dies to be filial. It doesn't make any sense.

In all fairness, Chairman Mao attached importance to the people's political and ideological education and publicity, and everyone's consciousness was quite high, and the social atmosphere was particularly good! Although there are many brothers and sisters, they are still very filial to their parents. In the era of money worship, I played drums and rowed alone. Brothers and sisters fight for the upper reaches, for fear that they will get along badly, be looked down upon by outsiders and their families, and support their parents has become a problem. Parents are the same, that is, "male". Brothers and sisters have their own families, and when their parents get old, they become a burden and an abandoned child. Flattery has no value and naturally turns a blind eye to parents' kindness. The vast majority of children with conscience and filial piety know how to be grateful, even if they are afraid of hardship and fatigue, they will not make their parents sad in their later years! However, very few children are narrow-minded and hate their parents' care for their brothers and sisters and the unfair and reasonable distribution of property, so they turn against each other on the grounds of refusing to support and serve their parents, releasing their dissatisfaction with their parents and brothers and sisters, thus escalating the contradiction.

Parents' ability is limited, and everyone grows up in different times and environments. No matter how many children there are, it is impossible for any parent to be 100% fair. On the contrary, brothers and sisters are parents' children. So many children support their parents, can you be fair? If you do nothing, you are not filial. Law and justice forbid it!